My dear friends, we love you so very much.
The last few weeks we have been discussing how you can help others by remaining in a space of love, rather than falling into the darker spaces as well. You can hold the hands of the grieving without getting sad, if you remain in a space of love. You can be attacked by angry words, without getting angry, if you remain in a space of love. And you can watch the news without despair, while remaining in a space of love. We know this is not what the majority of you were taught. We know this is not what most of you saw demonstrated as you were learning to react to life. And yet how much more beautifully powerful it would be if you knew that rather than joining misery to keep it company you can lift the willing out of their misery by the sheer grace of your love and compassion.
What makes people sad dear ones? It is of course, when life does not go the way they wished it would go. You lose a loved one. You make a mistake. You miss an opportunity. And in the aftermath of loss or regret, you might be very, very sad. In that moment you may feel as if you cannot love yourself or as if life does not love you. In that moment what you need most of all is reassurance that you are loved... that people love you and most of all, that God loves you. So when you assist the grieving, love them. Hug them. Assist them in ways that might be very practical. Don't try to fix them or save them, dear ones, Let them have their grief, for no one can steal that love from them. Even in grief dear ones, you are attempting to find love that seems lost. Love them through it.
Likewise some people get angry when life is not as they wish. Some people get angry when they do not feel they are being heard, cared for, or understood. Again, the angry need love. They do not need your anger aimed back at them, making them feel even more misunderstood and unloved. They often need someone who will simply listen to them, without judgment, someone who can say, "Yes I see why you are angry." That someone may or may not authentically be you. Perhaps you are not ready for that level of love and compassion, or perhaps they are not ready yet to receive it. Only you will know in any given situation. In some cases, it makes far more loving sense to move away from an angry soul and simply pray for them rather than choosing to remain a target. You will know what feels most loving and right in any given situation. Your heart knows. Your mind may want to fight back when anger is aimed at you but if you can drop into your heart you will see that choosing a loving action, first for yourself then the other, is far more powerful.
So what do you do if you are the ones who are sad or angry? Dear ones, we would say first and foremost, accept your own feelings. You want love. You want comfort. You want to be heard. Don't push the sadness or anger away, but rather dig deep and find what love is needed beneath it. Then, from a place of honesty reach out for authentic help. Reach out for a compassionate ear, for someone who is willing to hear you, comfort you, and assist you. Don't look for those who will add to your sadness, or amplify your anger, because that is not the way out of your pain. Seek out those who will love you, listen to you, and when you are ready, share a greater truth with you.
When we suggest that you don't keep misery company, we are simply asking you to realize that being in a state of love is the most powerful way to assist those in need. When you are in darker spaces, you will be much happier seeking love instead of trying to draw others into the darkness with you. When you are in the lighter space, you need to stay in a loving space to truly be of any real assistance.
We know this is not always easy. We know much of the world would rather validate its own pain rather than seek a loving solution. And yet you are the carriers of God's truth and God's light. You are seeking a way to create a better life for yourself and those around you. And so dear ones, we speak loving words of truth, touching your hearts, telling you that you CAN love even when it is not easy. You will reap rich rewards for this because as you love, so too you can feel the love of God flowing through your entire being. As you reach out when in need to receive love, you will feel God's love as well. And this is the beauty of the movement of God through the human race... when those willing to give and those willing to receive find one another and allow God to move through them.
God Bless You. We love you so very much.
-- The Angels
Message From Ann
I am relieved that the angels elaborated on the topic of assisting from a space of love this week. Last week a lady wrote me, feeling very sad and upset. She felt that the angels were suggesting we abandon people who were in darker spaces. I understood her perspective and sent her a lot of love and prayed that her heart would be soothed. She was in a lot of pain. However, that is not the angels' message at all. They never abandon anyone, nor would they ask us to ignore our loving hearts that seek to comfort, soothe, heal, or assist another. They simply don't want us becoming angry with the angry, sad with the sad, and so on. It isn't always easy to stay in a space of love, but after nearly two decades of working with my clients and their angels, I have seen first hand, so many times, the healing power of unconditional love and acceptance.
I think at times we struggle, trying to use our minds to figure out how we can love ourselves and one another, particularly if you find yourself in a challenging situation or in a difficult relationship. I have heard many parents tell me that they love their children dearly, but were ready to scream at times because they hadn't had a moment's rest. In this case, love for themselves was required because they were running on empty. The angels always advise them to seek out some help, take a bit of time off, or more deeply look at their need to make everything "perfect" and see if that wasn't the real reason that they were suffering.
I hear the same from many caretakers of the elderly. Even caring for my sweet older dog Lucy can be a challenge. When I am able to give her a lot of attention she snuggles, smiles, and prances like a happy girl. However, on days I work with clients, especially when I have to run out to the store to get us more food afterwards, she pouts and glares at me. I can handle lack of sleep, loads of laundry, or any amount of work with love in the house, but when this little being who has become the center of my life sends me emotional daggers, it is harder to feel warm and loving! I've prayed hard over this. At times I didn't have a clue how I could balance taking care of myself with taking care of her. The angels always reminded me that taking care of myself IS taking care of her. And so I eat first, then feed her breakfast in bed. I sneak into the shower, then do her laundry. I fill up my soul with meditation and then I'm able to go hug and love her even if she's glaring at me. If I don't practice such self care we both suffer. When I do, I can love her whether or not she is being "lovable" in the traditional sense. She is, after all, an elderly pooch that is much like a little girl in need of attention. And if you can love someone and be kind even when they are not loving to you, it diffuses their bad mood or they just walk away and leave you alone. In either case, you are choosing to give yourself the gift of peace.
So when you find yourself wanting to help someone in pain, love them. If they will not accept your loving words or actions, bless them and let them have their moods, but be kind to yourself as well. Do not hold yourself back from joy if they choose to do so. You can ask how you can help. You can offer to help if it is authentic for you to do so. You can pray, send energy, bring meals, offer your talents, etc. Most people in a dark space really do want love and assistance. But if you run into a few every now and then who simply want to stay in their dark spaces, give them the space to do so, without judgment, without an attempt to control or change them, and with love for yourself as a loving being as well. This IS admittedly a fine line to walk - to love and hold space for someone who is not yet ready to receive it - and yet it feels so much better than when we stop loving.
And, if by some chance you are in a denser space and not yet ready to be out of it, as in the case of grief, which by its very nature must run its natural course, then tell those around you... "Thank you for trying to help but what I need now is simply to cry. I need time alone. I need you to just be with me while I cry." If you are mad and need to run it through you, be honest with those around you, "I need to vent, can you handle it without fixing me? I need to go exercise this and burn it off, would you go on a brisk walk with me and just listen?" If you are in a dark space and can avoid judging yourself and honestly ask for what you need from people willing and able to share, then you will find that you receive a lot of love. It is an act of self-love to be that honest.
I'm sending you all huge doses of light and love this week. The world is challenging at present, but we can and will be the light bulbs that illuminate the souls of those who are searching. And we are the ones who are searching we will know how to look for the light because we have seen it so clearly inside of ourselves.
Love you all!
PS - All the recent angel discussions have motivated me to pull out a book I nearly finished nine years ago and get it done!! Stay tuned! It is a huge project as always but it will be done this year!