During stressful times, one of the things that sees us through is self-confidence – confidence in our ability to weather a storm, to take the necessary actions to honor our self-care, and to face our fear even when everything inside us wants to run and hide.
A while ago, I wrote about watching a series on “The Big Idea with Donny Deutsch” called “American Dream” where Deutsch interviewed successful people who had experienced both significant success and failure. One gentleman, a businessman who made billions only to lose it all before creating success again, had a great idea that’s worth repeating. He said that the thing that got him through his toughest times was an “accomplishments list” he kept with him in his briefcase at all times. He explained, “Most of us spend a great deal of time thinking about how we’ve failed or what we don’t have, and not enough time on what we’ve done right or on the success we’ve created. I use this list to remind myself of what I’ve done well – especially during the difficult times.”
As I listened to him talk about this idea, I thought about how valuable a tool this would be for anyone who needed a boost of confidence or a reminder of his or her potential. Think about it. When’s the last time you sat down and looked at your life through the lens of success? If I asked you to list ten accomplishments right this minute, could you?
Let’s do it, shall we? Here are some examples of accomplishments:
I raised healthy and good kids
I enjoy a successful marriage
I completed my college degree
I landed a job in a field that I love
I created my first garden
I learned to speak Spanish
I started my own business
I wrote a book, a poem, or a song
I bought my first car or home
I made a difference in someone’s life
Okay, it’s your turn. Stop for a moment and do something good for yourself. Grab a piece of paper and a pen and challenge yourself to come up with at least 15 examples, large or small, of accomplishments. Think of this exercise as an insurance policy you can activate when you fail at something and start questioning yourself or your choices.
Once you’ve made your list, print it out and keep it handy. Read through it at least once a day and smile as you do. In spite of what challenge, failure, disappointment, or hardship you may be facing right now, deep inside is a smart, wise, committed, and hard-working soul who has a track record of success. Yup – that’s you!
Take Action Challenge
Have you started your list yet?
This week’s video is actually a website filled with moving art. You can use it while doing this week’s take action challenge. Stare at the videos in this screening room (Louie Schwartzberg is amazing!) while considering your accomplishments. You can view it here. Thanks, Kelly!
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