Yes I am much better. Things came to a head and I found the courage to leave home. I am living in a friend's house as she is overseas and will soon move to another friend's holiday home for three months until my own house becomes available again when the tenant leaves in three months.
My husband wants me to go home to him and I really feel sad for him because he does not even realise that our marriage failed because he is abusive and have so far not been able to break the pattern. Going back to him is not the answer - I have done that too many times. Now that I am gone he misses me, but when I am there he soon returns to his abusive behaviour pattern. I know that he comes from a broken home and probably did not have a good example, but he is an adult who does not want to admit that he needs help. I can no longer pay the price for his refusal to face his issues.
We are on friendly terms and I will always be there for him and I will always keep my marriage vows, but I must now look after my health. The stress almost caused a big problem at work and my health suffered greatly as a result of the ongoing trauma and fear at home.
I have given this over to God and the angels - I know they will help him if he allows it, but there is no more that I can do except pray for him. I am however not overly positive - perhaps for the best because I do not want to nurture a flame of hope when I know the chances of my husband going for help are slim. I read somewhere that the angels always work to save marriages. I believe that. I just know it is time for me to be "hands off".
So I suppose it is going as well as can be expected.
Thanks for asking ... it means a lot to me.
I know one day all this will make sense and all the woulds will heal. I am really grateful that there is no bitterness in my heart - I love the good in him dearly and have now learnt to love him without being with him.
We'll have to wait and see what the future holds ...
Hi there
Yes I am much better. Things came to a head and I found the courage to leave home. I am living in a friend's house as she is overseas and will soon move to another friend's holiday home for three months until my own house becomes available again when the tenant leaves in three months.
My husband wants me to go home to him and I really feel sad for him because he does not even realise that our marriage failed because he is abusive and have so far not been able to break the pattern. Going back to him is not the answer - I have done that too many times. Now that I am gone he misses me, but when I am there he soon returns to his abusive behaviour pattern. I know that he comes from a broken home and probably did not have a good example, but he is an adult who does not want to admit that he needs help. I can no longer pay the price for his refusal to face his issues.
We are on friendly terms and I will always be there for him and I will always keep my marriage vows, but I must now look after my health. The stress almost caused a big problem at work and my health suffered greatly as a result of the ongoing trauma and fear at home.
I have given this over to God and the angels - I know they will help him if he allows it, but there is no more that I can do except pray for him. I am however not overly positive - perhaps for the best because I do not want to nurture a flame of hope when I know the chances of my husband going for help are slim. I read somewhere that the angels always work to save marriages. I believe that. I just know it is time for me to be "hands off".
So I suppose it is going as well as can be expected.
Thanks for asking ... it means a lot to me.
I know one day all this will make sense and all the woulds will heal. I am really grateful that there is no bitterness in my heart - I love the good in him dearly and have now learnt to love him without being with him.
We'll have to wait and see what the future holds ...
Take care
Catie