Are you stuck in your stuff again? Do any of the words below fit your mood?
All Tangled Up
Hitting a Wall
I’ve been hit by a truck (muscle soreness, slow, sleepy)
Emotional roller coaster, crying for no reason, easily irritated, blue. Mentally foggy, distracted and unfocused, forgetful (more than usual), noisy mind.
Everyone hits a wall now and again. Some people choose to stay there, noses stuck against the cold, hard, stone - blaming themselves or others for their predicament. Others choose to turn their heads slightly, squint their eyes and slyly peek around to notice where they are. Still others have developed ways for peeling themselves off the wall, laughing at their squished noses and choosing to create a different outcome. We have opportunities to choose every single day.
Sometimes we get stuck when we have spiritually asked for something and are in the process of being given it, but a part of us resists accepting it. That part (or those parts) must "grow" to accommodate what has been asked for. Or perhaps our perception needs to grow and shift upward slightly, to the spiritual level, in order to see that we are actually being given what we’ve been asking for.
What are the situations or circumstances that throw you into a stuck period? They vary for each of us, depending upon our belief structure, habits and patterns. It could be heavy traffic, a charged conversation, a zit on your chin, politics or an accumulation of all the external and internal events that just don’t feel good. When you discover you are stuck in your stuff, you have a choice. You always have a choice.
You can stay stuck or you can look around for other options. Those options are always standing right next to you, waiting for you to get quiet enough to recognize them. Do you turn your head and sneak a peek? Knowing that misery IS optional, what do you do to get yourself unstuck?
The Four Steps to Unstuck Yourself
1. Recognize you are stuck
2. Laugh at yourself and the gooey, sticky stuff you have found yourself standing in
3. Notice you have other choices
4. Choose the option that is different than what you have been doing.
Step 1. Recognize you are stuck
Ideally it would be great to be aware enough so that as soon as you begin to get stuck, you know what’s going on and have the presence of mind to do something about it. Most of us have yet to master this art. Doing so is a form of self-mastery that is do-able, but requires personal commitment, constant attention and diligence. We are all on our way to self-mastery. In the meantime, it might help to come up with a strategy.
As you continue to create a stronger, conscious intention of becoming aware of your internal guidance system, you become more able to circumvent a Growth Period before spiraling down into total misery and stuckness. Begin to notice what old patterns you revert to when feeling stuck. They can be vegging in front of the TV, idly surfing the internet, low mood, higher stress, cravings, eating junk food and not going to sleep on time. You might also notice if it is difficult to stay detached, and then choose to hold your attention on one of the Seven Living Words - happy, certain, senior, presence, powerful, commanding, gracious. If you can catch yourself in these old patterns, peeling yourself away from the brick wall is easier and a lot less painful.
Step 2. Laugh at yourself
Once you recognize the gooey stinky stuff you are standing in, you have a choice; stay there, complain and continue to get it all over yourself or Be Amused. I suggest the latter. This amusement part may take some doing as you will be breaking some pretty strong cultural patterns of victimhood, control, guilt and blame. If you have a difficult time finding laughter, try one of those baby-laughing videos on YouTube or the zoot-zoot one by Amanda Gore.
3. Look around at your other choices
You might prepare by creating some new alternatives when you are not stuck so when you get there again, you have other alternatives to consider. Be sure to avoid those options which are "spiritually correct." Meditating more might be helpful but be sure it isn’t a "should." Laying in the grass, watching a movie or going for a walk with the neighbor’s dog may be more do-able when you get stuck again.
4. Choose one option and Do it!
Choose the easiest option, not the one that you think you Should do. This isn’t a race and no one is watching to see if you make the Right decision. Do whatever option feels best right now - no matter how silly or simple.
Only you can think your thoughts...
Only you can move your muscles...
Only you can feel your feelings...
Only you can get yourself unstuck.