Occasionally I receive negative feedback from a reader and I appreciate their taking the time to write. Although I read and respond to their emails, my response reflects my belief that every teacher has an audience and they may not be part of mine. I must admit that receiving criticism was a little shocking early in my writing career, but of the millions who read my newsletters and messages each week, there are bound to be a few people who do not like something and who will voice their displeasure.
What do you do when you try hard to please someone and no matter what you do they refuse to see things your way or to compromise with their position? They want their way, no matter what and they want you to honor their path, fears and needs no matter how much it costs you in terms of time, energy, or emotions. You are at an impasse and you have to make a choice that you don't want to make-to tell them 'no', and then deal with the consequences of their anger, do what they ask and then be angry with yourself or walk away and risk that they will cut you out of their life (which may actually be a good thing).
Yes, the title of this article is from the Rolling Stones song but it is what I heard when I recently shared a success with someone, only to be met with a stream of criticism and doubt that made me take a step back. Was I looking at my situation the wrong way? Was she seeing something I had missed? Should I ignore her comments or were they true? I had been happy on my cloud until she stepped on it and brought rain into my sunny day.
It's finally the last month of what has been a challenging year but not as much as previous years. This month may seem to move slowly because there will be many opportunities to complete work we have been doing all year and that includes the final release of beliefs, people, situations and memories that we have been working on since 1995. To give us support Mercury is retrograde all month, Venus is re-tracing its retrograde path until the 21st and we have a full moon lunar eclipse on the same day.
Your power to choose is an aspect of your free will and it is how you create your reality. Everything you are and have reflects a choice you make. Every aspect of your life on all levels is a reflection of what you have chosen. While you know you have this power you do not always use it to obtain the best results. When you feel powerless and stuck you question whether you have choices and that is not the issue. You must learn to use your power of choice to create your reality in a mindful, powerful way, focusing on yourself and your needs and rejecting any choice when it involves another's free will.
Earlier this month I wrote about the current Venus retrograde cycle, which ends this week. This cycle is important because it is recycling energies and lessons of 2002, as the retrograde sign and degrees are very similar to those that occurred then. What were you doing then, what was happening in your life, what were some of the challenges you were facing and are they repeating themselves at this time? Chances are that you can find similarities in what you are experiencing now and what was happening then and make some profound changes with that information.
It is now the month of November and I can't believe how quickly October flew by. This year will be over soon and we will be finished with a significant part of our global transformation. November brings more opportunities for closure and expansion, as we had in October but with a new and different twist, this time we are going through lessons of value. What do we value, how do we value others, what value do we place on ourselves and what is of value to us are all themes for November.
Last weekend I got rid of old papers that I have been carrying around with me for over twenty years. As I watched them burn in the fireplace (burning felt more clearing than just throwing them away), I felt like a huge weight had been removed from my life. So much of what I got rid of was a reminder of the difficulties and challenges I was experiencing then and I knew it was time to move on. And I asked for confirmation that I had released everything that I needed to. "Hit me with your best shot," I told the Universe, "because I am ready to let go of everything."
I remember the many times the Universe has tried to prevent me from doing something that I wanted to do anyway. No matter how many obstacles were put in my path, I forged ahead, determined to succeed at all costs. And I paid the price in time, energy and heartache. Why did I not see the clues for what they were, warnings that the path I was on was not the best one for me?
All that comes to you in life is a gift, every person on your path is a giver and love is the in the receiving, the gift and the giver. Receiving helps you close cycles, balance energies, release contracts, love and value yourself, and prepare for new cycles of being. You cannot be an effective giver if you are not also willing to receive for gifts are without value if they cannot be received. There is fear of obligation, unworthiness, owing others and rekindling karma with receiving but in truth, these things are what could happen if you do not receive.