As we begin this new month we also begin the second half of 2013. Rather than asking ‘What’s next’, a better question is ‘What’s left?’, as in what’s left to learn, understand, release, recalibrate, adjust and clear because it feels like that is all we have been doing since January and even long before that.
This week’s Q&A is an expansion of some insights I shared on my Facebook page about leadership and specifically, the death of Hugo Chavez who was a polarizing figure, to say the least. We look at people like Mr. Chavez, the pope, presidents, Queen Elizabeth and wonder what is wrong with them.
I’m in a point of my life where I have to decide wisely as I don’t want to repeat the poor choices I have made in the past. On the career front, I have two job offers and want to choose the best one. My relationship is stuck and I need to decide what I want to do next. Although I feel confident that I will make the best choices, I know that I am putting a lot of pressure on myself regarding this.
I am ending a romantic relationship that I know has been multi-dimensional and in which I have felt unhappy and unfulfilled for quite some time. My boyfriend started the release process by doing things that clearly let me know he wanted out but I had been feeling our connection slipping away before then. He has admitted that we need to go our separate ways and I have released him energetically.
At the moment, everyone in my immediate family is unemployed, by society’s standards. This means that no one has an official j-o-b, in which they work for someone. I couldn’t be more thrilled, especially for my children who, as Indigos, have tried really hard to fit into the regular, ‘normal’ job world and it just didn’t work for them.
I’m faced with an important decision that I need to make soon and I do not know what to do. Is this the best time to make decisions, because of the shifting energies, is there a better time or should I wait? Is this why I feel so confused or is there another reason?
In 2000 I got cable TV and after a few months, my cable stopped working, so I placed a service call to have it repaired. The cable guy came, picked up the remote, pushed a few buttons and asked me “Did you change the batteries in the remote?” I said “I didn’t know it took batteries, I thought it worked off the TV.”
I am heartbroken and devastated because my boyfriend of seven years left me for another woman. I thought we were doing well and we had even talked about marriage and were making some long term plans. Now he’s with someone else and I don’t know what to do. I am so confused because we connected so well and I thought this was meant to be. What happened?
I am ending a long-term relationship and am trying to do it in the best way possible. Even though I am trying to be nice, my partner calls me unreasonable, says that it is all my fault and that I am being mean. I would like to still be friends when it’s over but he has become so demanding that I have had to hire an attorney and it is all getting out of control How can I end this in a nice way, without being mean?
The Indigo generation represents the new leaders of the world and while their courage, vision, determination and commitment equip them for the task, other aspects make this very challenging. They are leaders who lack a pioneering spirit and with it the confidence that is required of those who charge ahead, at the forefront of enormous change.
I’m judgmental and jealous of people I see on the internet. Oprah endorses them, their books get published, they have lots of money and everything is going well for them. They have many fans, they all claim to be spiritual and yet I don’t see them as spiritual at all. I have chosen this spiritual path (or it has chosen me), I work hard too and yet I’m struggling.
I have been involved in a relationship for ten years. What started out as a loving, supporting partnership has changed in the last two years. My partner is often mean, critical and not supportive. He has not been working for the last two years and I support the household. Recently I was offered a new job that means a geographic move and my partner does not want to go with me.
Detachment is one of our hardest lessons, especially when it involves someone or something we care deeply about. It is easy to detach from things we can easily release, or practice acceptance with someone whose actions do not touch our hearts. In those cases we say ‘this and not that’, give me the lesson but don’t involve this person, open the doors to a new opportunity but don’t take me out of my comfort zone, let me separate from this situation but don’t let it impact that person.
I used the Cord Disconnect & Healing meditation to cut cords with people in my life and while you said that it doesn’t hurt anyone to do this, why are all of the people in my life upset? I can feel their pain and their sense of abandonment and I feel bad because I think I created that. Did I do this the wrong way and did I hurt them?
Sometimes it is hard to know when to stay with something and wait for a final outcome we know is possible or let go and be satisfied with knowing we did our best. The way to know which one to choose is to look at our expectations. If the outcome we desire means that someone else has to change or do something, then we may be looking for closure, validation, a reward for our contribution to their life or some gratitude.