Messages about relationships

When I began to teach classes on spiritual principles, I devoted some time at the end of each class meeting to pray for students and their loved ones. One woman asked the group to pray for the continued health of her sister, who had had cancer, but the disease was now in remission. At that time I had not heard the term “in remission, so I asked her what it meant.

When I was a little girl my dad used to call me Sarah Heartburn - a funny twist on the French movie actress Sarah Bernhardt - because I had a tendency to be a bit dramatic when things didn't go my way.  The truth was that I was a highly sensitive child.  I cried easily, felt deeply hurt when kids called me names or made fun of me, and was prone to bouts of loneliness and a kind of sadness that I didn't understand.  It wasn't until I read "The Highly Sensitive Person," by Elaine Aron, as an adult, that I understood what was going on. 

The only permanent thing in life is the impermanence and constant change in all levels, which, many times (if not all times), is beyond our sense of control. This is when it is quite clear that our egos are only here to serve a very specific task, which is beyond the structure that holds together the power of the unknown and the mystery of existence.

When we think of Soul Mates, we usually think of the one person/soul that is meant for us to spend the rest of our life with. We search endlessly for this one soul, and when we find a soul matching our vibration, we feel and know they are "the one". The challenge most of us have is when we find "the one", we (self) create an image or level of expectation, while we pour all we have into the cultivating the relationship forming a new bond.

May is the energy of relationship.  It is the request, the honoring, the answer.  May I?  Relationship is a constant in life, for humans are give/receive mechanisms, a physical experience of form, movement, interaction and change.  Your vehicle of change is perspective and choice.  Perspective is the taking in of information (how it mingles within) and choice is the giving out of information.  You inform The Field through your vibratory instruction.  What you emit is your choice. 

I hate being disappointed.  There's nothing worse than getting your hopes up only to have them squelched when something doesn't turn out the way you plan.  And that's precisely why I hate to disappoint others.  Over the years I've watched myself go on autopilot when someone asks for a favor, saying "yes" when I know in my gut that I'd rather not do it.  Or I've suffered, spending too much time trying to come up with a graceful way to let someone down so they wouldn't feel hurt or angry at my "no."

The most powerful thing we can do when we form a romantic relationship with a significant other is to see them as ourselves. "And the two shall become one." This is the essence of the Holy Experience.

Dear Saint-Germain, I would like to understand my Soul’s purpose in this lifetime, and whether I can fulfill it by staying in my current marriage. I want to know if this relationship has been nothing but a huge sacrifice for me, and whether it is preventing me from realizing my full potential.

Last week we discussed relationships. This week we continue on our topic, for indeed every relationship upon your planet earth, if you would allow for it, is orchestrated in love. You are guided naturally towards those who will help you learn to love yourselves more.

From the moment we are born, the most important aspect of life becomes relationship. Relationship is central for survival and for a sense of belonging and well-being. To understand relationship is to understand that this is what makes us human.

As a psychiatrist, I realize that comparing is a natural tendency we all have. It can be absolutely neutral, as when you merely evaluate similarities and differences. Such comparison is essential for astute reasoning. It’s also productive if you’re inspired to emulate another’s impressive traits.

When people open their hearts to unselfish, unconditional love, a whole new world of possibilities opens. Rather than spending effort avoiding the selfishness of others, they take time to make sure that the way they choose to serve society is done in the best way possible. When people can trust others to treat each other with love and respect rather than as competitors, then everyone gains.

Everyone has a significant other--whether they are in an intimate, romantic relationship or not. Of course, the term "significant other" does not refer only to a person with whom you sleep. It refers to any being with whom you share the largest portion of your life. That could be a sister or brother, a parent, a child, a close friend.

Today we wish to speak to you on the topic of relationships. All relationships whether the ones with your life, your home, your spouse, your children, or your pet, are teaching you about the relationship you have with yourself. The relationships with others show you very clearly what parts of yourself you are willing to bring to the surface in your life and what parts of yourself you are willing to let go.

Dear Jennifer:  I have been diligently cutting cords and releasing members of my soul group. These have been very painful relationships and I realize that by embodying the martyred healer paradigm I have been stuck in healing cycles for many years. Now I’m ready to let that go and to become more powerful and purposeful in my life. The problem is that everyone I have cut cords with has stopped talking to me and my children won’t even let me see my grandchildren. Have I done something wrong?