Happy Valentine’s Day

Do you dread Valentine’s Day, with the pictures of the happy couples who will surprise each other with thoughtful gifts, give or receive flowers, have a romantic dinner date and spend the day in joy because a special someone loves them? First of all, remember that the people you see in those ads are actors and they probably barely know each other. The purpose of Valentine’s Day is to create an emotional connection and physical expression of love, which is love as a verb, not love as a noun. And if you do not already have a relationship in your life or someone who ‘loves’ you, it will happen when you are ready and if you are thinking about it, you are probably ready now.

The last ten to fifteen years have been hard on our romantic lives. Relationships either ended or disappeared. It feels like along with our acceptance of our spiritual path a big ‘Out of Service’ sign was pasted on our forehead, letting everyone around us know we were not available for relationships. And even if we wanted to or tried, the relationships we attracted were always healing or hard, brought up ours or someone else’s (or both) deepest issues that, once they were over, made us happy for the peace and solitude of single life.

By now we’re asking ourselves if we will ever have another relationship and the answer is ‘yes’, we will. To answer the question of ‘when’, it will be soon and I know this because we have reached the point where we are open to this while knowing what our boundaries are, seeing ourselves and relationships from a much broader perspective and being fully grounded in who we are. We also aren’t willing to settle for less or go into a relationship thinking that if we heal someone else they reward us with their love. We want lasting, committed love that is a sharing of energy, beliefs, thoughts and emotions.

Love is a powerful force that, when shared from a point of our empowered being, will bless us with the relationships (and love in action) that we want. When we love ourselves, which means fully accepting ourselves and knowing ourselves as perfect and already loved, and begin from the point of sharing that with the world, we are ready for love. And when we know, beyond any doubt, that relationships are a matter of timing and by setting our intention for a relationship it must manifest, then we will be patient with the process, continue to know that we will have the perfect partner we want at exactly the right time.