Q&A - How Do I Love People I Don’t Like?

Dear Jennifer:  I am trying so hard to love everyone in my life and to see them from the perspective of unconditional love. Releasing cords and staying focused on my intention for love, peace and joy in my life have helped a lot. But what do I do about people I don’t like and don’t like to be around? Some of them are family and I feel a little guilty about that but how can I include them in the energy of unconditional love?

Jennifer’s Answer:  This is a question that is asked by many who are consciously walking a spiritual path, how to love people they don’t like. The answer will give you peace of mind and release the guilt you are feeling. First we have to look at unconditional love and like separately, because they are different. You can put unconditional love and like together and the outcome is beneficial, peaceful and loving. But you will struggle if you try to reconcile your various feelings of ‘like’ for different people and situations without unconditional love.

Unconditional love is a high vibrating energy that exists in the Universe. It is what we already are and all we have to do is integrate this into our awareness, that we are and have this energy. We do not have to ‘do’ anything with unconditional love, just acknowledge its presence.

‘Like’ is much different because it is a judgment and an expression of emotional energy which, while we confuse it with unconditional love, they are not the same thing. Judgment is the foundation of emotional energy, which is part of the third dimension. When you express an emotion you are also expressing a judgment because you have to create a judgment in order to have that emotion.

You can like broccoli and not like radishes. You can like one thing and not another. When you say you like something or someone, you are simply expressing a judgment. We think that the expression of unconditional love energy only extends to those things that we ‘like’ and are comfortable with. But that is not true. Unconditional love exists without judgment and as soon as we try to bring the judgment of emotional energy and the non-judgment of unconditional love together, we create a conflict. If we have to love everyone, what do we do about the people we really do not like?

We ‘like’ those things whose energy we feel aligned with and that resonates with ours. At the highest level we all resonate with and are connected by, with and through unconditional love. Then we have to connect with others’ energy and that’s where things get confusing. The feeling that we do not like someone means that their energetic vibrations are not aligned with ours. So they make us uncomfortable, bring up our fears, we can’t connect with them in ways that bring us joy because there is no energetic alignment. That doesn’t mean we can’t give them unconditional love because we can, by removing our emotional energies and judgments.

To express the energy of unconditional love in the third dimension requires detachment and acceptance, where you are detached from any judgment and accept everything and everyone in each moment. This doesn’t mean that you have to like the energy, embrace it, want to be around it or try to fit it into your life, you just have to accept it and not judge it.

This becomes more challenging with family because we all have judgments about family relationships and what types of emotions and connections are supposed to exist within them. But even though we give our family unconditional love we can still feel energetically misaligned with them. We don’t have to try to find ways to like them and create an emotional connection. In fact, giving ourselves permission to acknowledge our energetic mismatch can be a very empowering choice that gives us joy, peace of mind and fulfillment. Just because we love someone doesn’t mean we also have to like them. What an empowering concept. We just have to accept them, without judgment, detach from any emotional obligations we impose on ourselves and release our judgments.

Be in unconditional love and create your life from that point. Recognize that what you do not like represents an energetic misalignment and acknowledge it, without judgment, and keep your energy flowing by staying out of judgment. This allows the highest energies of unconditional love to be present in the third dimension and releases us from any obligations to try to align ourselves with situations and people who do not fit within our energy. And it creates peaceful, accepting relationships that are free of judgments and expectations, which serves everyone’s desire for joy, peace, abundance and love.