Releasing the Victim Paradigm

Everyone has a victim story, a memory of a situation when they felt powerless, out of control or helpless. The details of the victim story are very real and serve as a reminder that despite our best efforts, we can be overcome by people or events and our life can change in an instant. No matter when the victim story first began, every detail is etched in our mind as a reminder that we are one step away from disaster. But this is not the intention of our victim experiences. All of us go through different aspects of being a victim in our life, beginning with childhood when we are vulnerable and dependent, to adulthood where we try to achieve our dreams in the face of what can appear to be insurmountable challenges. We are faced with the choice of being a victim or rising above our perceived limitations to becoming a victor and stepping into our power. The victim paradigm is one that all of humanity must—and can—overcome and releasing it is part of our individual and collective spiritual journey.

Our victim story can begin in childhood when we remember incidents of being bullied by others, our parents were emotionally or physically unavailable or our needs were not met in some way. Or maybe something happened, such as an illness, abuse, a difficult home life, the death of our parents or siblings that created trauma and began to create the victim paradigm in our life. Without realizing it, that paradigm becomes our life template and determines the course our path will take. Then we attract people and situations that relate to and even enhance our victim template because that is the energy we vibrate with. When we wonder why people are not respectful, don’t honor us or seem to go out of their way to block us at every turn, or why our life is hard, we are unhappy, unlucky or unfulfilled, the answer lies in our victim paradigm. While we may feel very alone with our victim story, every person has one. Even the most accomplished person harbors a secret fear that they will become victim to some forgotten past incident, a newcomer who will overshadow them or be faced with a struggle that will reveal a weakness.

While we may not call ourselves a victim, our thoughts, beliefs and actions tell another story. A victim has many problems, disappointments, unmet expectations and unfulfilled dreams. They often think that others seem to be more lucky, gifted, blessed or connected than they are. A victim shares their victim stories with everyone because they want sympathy and to know that they are not alone in their unhappiness. They can have received ‘victim training’ from their family, which can have generational patterns of victim beliefs. And they become a victim of their own victim story. Then they attract victims and those who take advantage of them because when we are a victim we attract tyrants, people who need to control, manipulate or dominate others to feel powerful.

When we are operating from the victim paradigm we send out a silent message to others that we are powerless and that they are more powerful than we are. When we need help we can find someone who answers that call but if we give our power to them in return for their help, we are pushing ourselves farther into the victim paradigm. Then our savior and rescuer can become the person who controls us, so the savior becomes a tyrant and we step from one victim role to another.  How can we release the victim paradigm, something many Lightworkers have come to do? First we must understand the reason for the victim paradigm and then make our choice even though we may be in a victim cycle as we are choosing.

Our spiritual journey can be compared to the Native American ceremony of soul retrieval, where a shaman takes the seeker on a journey to recapture the pieces of the soul that have been lost to past life traumas. In each lifetime we are provided with opportunities to heal ancient traumas that are buried within our soul memory and emotional DNA and to bring ourselves back to spiritual and emotional wholeness. These situations are revealed to us in the different ways we feel like a victim, the various trainings in ‘victimhood’ that we are offered, by those who agree to create victim opportunities for us. The journey to wholeness begins with our ability to find our spiritual center, where we can begin to reconnect to our power and start the journey to reconnecting with our power.

This is also the story of humanity’s journey from its beginning to now, the time when we are shifting into new vibrations of being. As a human family we have the opportunity to step out of the victim paradigm and to remember our Source connection, divinity and our power. Our victim stories are based in fact, in this lifetime and in previous ones. There are situations where people abused us, took advantage of us or did not do what we believe they should have done. But within each of these victim stories is a karmic lesson, a soul contract, and a starting point for our journey to forgiveness, transformation and closure.

We have a choice to remain a victim and continue to suffer in powerlessness or to bring the wounded pieces of our soul together and become victors, spiritual masters who understand the greater picture and can choose healing over pain, the present moment over the past and a life of abundance and fulfillment over lack and sorrow. We are all being given an opportunity to acknowledge our victim status and to choose another option, to create a new world paradigm where there are no victims and release this paradigm from the earth's energy forever.