Acceptance vs. Agreement

My dear friends, we love you so very much.

Breathe for a minute. Ask us to fill you with peace and balance in your lives. You can have peace in a world that is filled with chaos. You can remain calm when others are not. You can find your own sacred point of view while allowing others their own as well. The major cause of unrest on your planet among human beings is the mistaken notion that there must be agreement among you. In reality nothing could be farther from the truth. What all of you are really seeking is not agreement, but acceptance. There is a vast world of difference between the two.

Agreement means another must adopt the same perspective as you. And yet, this is not always possible dear ones. Others have walked in different shoes, as you say. They have had different experiences of life, formed different conclusions, dream different dreams. It is not always possible for two human beings to remain in their own integrity and agree with one another. However, there can always be love and acceptance.

By acceptance, we do not mean you will always feel warm and fuzzy about the behavior of another human being; nonetheless, you can say, "Ok then, this is their truth. That is their behavior. I accept that I cannot change it. It is not my job to save, fix, or educate them unless they honestly come to me for help that I am willing and guided to give it. I accept this." In the very next breath dear ones, you will then know what is your truth, what action is in integrity for you, whether or not you want to dance with this individual or not. As you learn to truly accept others as they are, and accept that their perspectives are valid for their souls' growth in this moment, you will then be free to look inside your own heart, find what is there, and accept yourself as well.

It is hard to come to a point, as a human being, where you do not require agreement. You must be very secure in your knowing that your perspectives and your actions are in integrity with your own spirit. If you waver even the slightest bit in this knowing, you will want others to validate and agree with you and you will argue your points to the death... however dear ones, you are really just trying to prove your points to yourselves in these scenarios.

God wears a coat of many colors... and each one of you is a thread weaving through eternity. Each one of you has unique and valid perspectives and guidance that serves your own soul's growth. Start living in your own truth more, and allow others their own. If someone crosses your lines, you have a right to your boundaries, but you can always set them with love and kindness.

Everyone, including you has a right to be. The natural world understands this, and as the human race begins to comprehend the very same, it is this understanding that will bring you the peace that surpasses all understanding. Be the lights in the world, dear ones. Be the ones who accept yourselves so thoroughly that you are willing to accept others as well. Agreement is not necessary to love.

God bless you. We love you so very much.
–– The Angels

Message From Ann

I've had many opportunities to practice acceptance of those with whom I disagree. Years ago when a skeptic bashed my psychic friend in public, I was ready to go to battle until the angels got to me and suggested I speak in a more loving way. The conversation ended up amazing. The skeptic decided I was well meaning, even if deluded.

Another time, that was way more personal, my brother wrote to question my beliefs in Jesus and express his concerns. He had just finished reading my book, Bridging the Gap Between Christianity & Mysticism, and it didn't resonate with his own beliefs. He suggested I take Bible study courses to correct the errors in my own thinking. Being Aries, my first reaction was to get upset and want to make him see my point of view, but the angels again got to me. I remembered something Jesus said to me years ago in a vision when I was whining about the fact that no one understood me. "They will understand your love," He said. I've lived my life by that one sentence every since. My brother and I came to an understanding when I asked him to simply accept the fact that I had a beautiful relationship with God whether or not he agreed how I went about it. I explained to him that I would never presume to tell him what to believe or how to relate to God. I trusted that God put this in every person's heart who genuinely prayed. We came, not to agreement, but acceptance, and there is love there to this day.

Still another area where I have beautiful acceptance but not agreement is from my dad. He's a brilliant research physicist, and once he said to me, "I don't necessarily believe in what you do, but I don't disbelieve either. I just haven't had it proven." That was a perfectly true statement given the fact that his calling on this earth is to figure out how things work so science can give technology ways to improve our lives. My dad and I love each other very much and have fascinating discussions with or without agreement. He accepts me. I accept him. We value what each other is doing on the earth. It wasn't luck that got us here but rather a lot of deep and heartfelt conversations. I had to give up my childish need for agreement. Ever since the relationship has been beautiful. When you act like an adult, people react to you much more like an adult!

We all need each other. Everyone has a place on this earth, even the people you don't like. The skeptic for example, feels it is his purpose to help others avoid getting scammed. I am sure he does in some cases. And so his purpose is useful. Those who hate actually are great teachers of love... in a weird way. We see them and we want better. Those who are greedy remind us not to be so. Those who live lives of brilliant charitable works remind us that we all have something to give. And those of us who sit quietly at home typing articles about love have a reason to be too :) Those of you who live quiet lives simply being loving are the "undercover" angels on this earth. We are all needed.

Try it this week when you don't agree with someone. Try to remind yourself that your perspective is valid for you, as theirs is for them. Then, given the disagreement, given the acceptance, see if you still want to engage in that discussion or dance. I have no need to argue my points most of the time. Sometimes, it is fun and interesting to debate. I learn more! But most of the time I have other things to do that are calling me to greater joy.

Likewise, if you find yourself at odds with someone and there's no apparent solution, then is the time to learn and to pray. Dear God, I want to do X, and someone else wants to do Y and we cannot figure out a middle ground. If I want the person in front of me in traffic to move and he won't... well I have to accept both his slow speed and my desire to get going. And then I give it to God because I can't figure it out and in the meanwhile I practice patience and trust it is all in right order. As soon as I surrender to my own lessons, things move... litearlly!

Have a beautiful week,
Love and hugs,


Sandra Smyre 3rd October 2012 8:42 am

Ann, as a gay woman I have struggled with a son who feels I am a sinner. It is his way or the highway. I have allowed him his space and chosen to keep distance between us. My two grandchildren are asking to see me so this post reminded me that we both believe in God--so keep it there and go see my beautiful grandkids. Thank you for your gentle reminder. In Lovelight, Sandra :smitten:


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Ann Albers is a popular spiritual instructor, angel communicator, lecturer, and author. She is a traditional Reiki master and a modern mystic who delights in distilling ancient wisdom into practical, down-to-earth tools for modern living. Ann's passion and purpose is teaching others to tap into the power and beauty of their souls, as well as helping people connect with the love and wisdom of their angels.

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