Forgiving Yourself....

Hi Dear Friends!

This week the angels go deeper into the subject of forgiveness and how to take back your power so powerfully that forgiveness is not even needed. I'll share examples & practical tips.

It is time on earth to grant ourselves spiritual freedom... right in time for Independence Day here in the US!

Love you all!

♥ Ann

Message from the Angels

My dear friends, we love you so very much,

This week we journey deeper into our discussion of forgiveness, so you can free yourselves from the pains of the past and reclaim your birthright of Divine Joy!

If you embrace this discussion beloved souls, then reclaiming your Divine joy will be so much simpler, for beneath every single upset, every single frustration, every feeling of anger towards an insensitive, abusive, or unconscious soul there is only one feeling, one thought, that binds you to pain.

There is only one illusion beneath all upsets that keeps you prisoner to the past, and this is the belief that someone or something else "caused you" to forget the love that you are.

You are always lovable. You always want to be loving. The hurtful behaviors of others expose the areas in which you don't love yourself, or you find it difficult to be loving.

You may object and say, "Angels! You don't understand! I was raped! I was beaten! I was abandoned! I was lied to, betrayed, belittled... I have a right to be upset at the other person!" We would reply, "Yes you do." There is absolutely such a thing as righteous anger. The soul knows it deserves to be treated with love.

However, with all the love in our hearts we would say that after the initial outrage passes and when the anger remains, there is a deeper upset within. You are – deep in your spirit – upset that negative and painful behaviors have triggered you to forget how loved and loving you truly are.

If you could feel the love of God for you, and the true nature of your loving soul, then in an instant the pain of your past would burn away as if a match was touched to a piece of tissue.

The light within you is that powerful. When you can't feel your connection to it, you hurt, you blame, and you obsess over the past. It is very human. It is nothing to be ashamed of. Hurtful actions are not and never will be "OK." However if you can embrace this concept: that your deepest desire is experience yourself as loving and lovable – eternally connected to the Source – then you can free yourself and release yourself unto the joy that is yours!

Say to yourself, "I am upset at the pain in my past, but even more so, I am upset that it triggered me to forget my connection to the Love that lives within me. I cannot change the past. I cannot change those who hurt me. I can however, choose now to focus on reconnecting to the Presence of Love within. This is what I want more than anything." It is dear ones. It is the One Love that your spirit craves beneath all desires.

The people that hurt you are your catalysts or your supporting actors in a drama where you wish to become the hero, the Christ, the light and love of your own life. You wish to remember your power, your light, your love, and your grace. The painful ones have exposed areas in which you forget.

Now that you know this you can say (in your mind) to those in your past:

"I see my light clearly now! You showed me where I felt impure, and yet now I know my innocence remains untainted! You showed me where I felt unworthy but now I see the lie in this belief! I deserve love! You showed me where I felt unlovable, abandoned, betrayed, and yet now I know I AM always loves me, never abandons me, and will not betray me. I will choose to focus on the ONE love that can never leave me – the love of the Divine."

Breathe deeply, and then declare as we assist you:

"With the sheer power of my intention and will, I now command the light of the Divine to Rise Up within me and erase the illusions that I could ever be unlovable, tainted, unworthy, abandoned, imperfect, or betrayed! God I wish to feel your love for me now! Angels I wish to feel your love for me now! Right now I will to feel my worthiness, my innocence, my perfection, and my light!"

Breathe and expect to feel this love, until you do.

When your will to feel the love within you becomes strong enough, and when you are ready to breathe and allow for this, your past will be burnt away in the light of a greater truth... You ARE loved. You ARE worthy. You ARE innocent, untainted, pure. You cannot be betrayed by the Divine. You cannot be abandoned by the Divine any more than a wave can be abandoned by the ocean. You ARE precious, loved, assisted, guided, and now that you know your light, you are once again protected by the very vibration of Divinity within you.

Sit with God every day, even for just a few minutes. Demand to feel the Presence within you, with willpower and conviction. Breathe. Expect to feel loved. Focus on any feeling of love great or small and breathe as it amplified.

Dear ones, all you truly want is to feel loved and to feel loving. When others make this difficult, return to the Source of all love. Plug yourselves back into the experience of the One who will never leave you, always loves you, and will fill you with a love that is beyond human. In that space, forgiveness is no longer even an issue. You are free.

God Bless You! We love you so very much.
-- The Angels

Message from Ann...

Hi Everyone,

In my thirties I joke that I learned self love through a series of very unloving relationships. In one particularly difficult one, I dated a man who was deeply wounded from childhood. I never knew when he was going to explode, throw things, or cut me to shreds verbally. I was afraid it would escalate. When he finally left me because "I was too much work," I felt very justified in my upset and anger.

I didn't want to feel this way so I prayed, "Dear God help me forgive." "Forgive yourself Ann," the angels said. This bothered me. "Forgive myself for what? For being stupid. For dating him? For giving him money and help and assistance when all he did was slam me and steal from me? For being a pathetic little girl who always ran back to give more, hoping he'd learn to love?" I was so mad at myself, as I pondered this train of thoughts!

The ever-loving angels replied, "No, Ann. You weren't stupid. Loving is never wrong. Sharing is never wrong. You simply forgot to love yourself. You allowed his behavior to show you where you felt unloved. You allows his behavior to show you where you forgot to love yourself."

I knew they were right. I had forgotten to love myself when another didn't. I had forgotten how to be loving as I allowed my own anger to surface.

He didn't "make me" feel unloved. He showed me where I didn't love myself. He didn't "make me angry." He showed me areas in which I didn't love myself enough to do the right thing for myself, and thus, I became angry. He showed me unhealed areas from a childhood, in which my family had quite a lot of stress that exploded in my direction. I couldn't even blame my parents for that. The illusions I carried in my soul from lifetimes caused me to incarnate into that situation. The soul is in charge, always.

He was simply showing me the unhealed and illusory areas in my own soul – the areas in which I'd harbored feelings of being unloved, unworthy, etc. As I learned to see it this way, the entire relationship started to feel like a gift, albeit one in a seriously unpleasant package.

It took time and effort to love myself more deeply. I started to be diligent about self care. I went to others who were able to nurture me – massage therapists, energy workers, and healers. I focused every day on the things I loved about myself. Finally, one day, deep in the forest on the side of a mountain, Mother Nature herself healed my heart.

I had hiked up beyond a trail on a mountain side, peppered with a forest of ancient juniper and cypress trees. Exhausted from the vigorous climb, I stopped to take a drink of water. There in front of me, the thick, gnarled branch of a grandmother juniper reached out like an arm welcoming to lay down in her kind embrace. I gingerly set my pack down and laid on the branch, balancing carefully on the cliffside. Immediately I was drawn into her loving energy. Warmth and love engulfed me. I burst into tears and cried my heart out, allowing the feelings of disappointment with my own choices melt into the forest floor.

I don’t know how long I lay there, but when I got up I felt loved. I felt loving. I knew that this other person was simply my teacher. I actually felt gratitude for the dance. I liked who I was. I saw my illusions that contributed towards our dance, and now I saw beyond them. I was loved. I was loving. Finally, I was free.

When someone else hurts you, it is the hardest thing in the world to take ownership of your own pain. Their actions aren't OK. You don't want to go back for more. You don't have to like them. But you can say to yourself, "I just forgot I was lovable. I just forgot I was loved. I just forgot I was loving. Dear God, let the light of your love rise up within me once more and remind me who I really am." As you feel that truth, the past really does slip away into one more adventure of the soul that strengthened you, and guided you more deeply into the truth of who you really are.

In the Presence of the Presence of God's love, the pain of the world is quickly burnt away.

Here are a few tips to help reclaim that loving truth that lives within you...

1. Sit with Spirit to Feel the Love Within

My favorite prayer, from my heart when I am hurting is:

Dear God, let the light of your love rise up within me once more and remind me who I really am. Help me feel your Love within me, for me, and through me."

Sit. Breathe slowly and deeply. Focus on your heart. Focus on any feeling of love for anything or anyone, and when you have found that, focus only on the feeling. This opens the door for Divine Love to pour in more deeply.

When you feel the slightest glimmer of love in your heart, keep breathing and amplify it with each breath. Imagine its fire is burning brighter.

2. Love yourself as you have not been loved

I call this taking an “antidote” for the poison. After reconnecting with Love within, you want to put that love in action in your life.

If someone has abused your mind or emotions with unkindness, tell yourself a hundred wonderful things. Write yourself a love letter from God or your angels, or yourself if you can. Write a list of every wonderful quality within.

If someone has left you, or betrayed you, don’t leave or abandon yourself. Use your will power to do things that make you happy, to sit with spirit, to watch inspirational videos or read books that remind you that you are perfect, precious, and pure.

If someone has abused your body, treat it with the utmost reverence and kindness. Tell it you love it, that it is pure, that you are sorry it was treated horribly. Give yourself massages with oil scented with something beautiful like rose or neroli. Treat your body like a temple to help it remember its perfection.

When you can truly give yourself the love another could not, you have reclaimed your greatest power of all – to simply be the real, loving, You!

2. Pray for those who hurt you

Pray, "Dear God, lift these hurting and hurtful souls into the light of your love. Remind them who they really are. Help them stop hurting others as a way to diffuse the pain within themselves." Then imagine them encased in a bubble of light.

This is hard to do because we think praying for the hurtful ones is giving them a "free pass" to have it easy and to feel loved even when they've been abusive. In truth, praying like this and sending light helps to flush the darkness up and out, where they have to look at it, learn from it, and grow – if they are willing.

If they are not willing to grow, loving prayers like these can cause a vibration that reveals their darkness to others. I once prayed with friends for a very abusive neighbor of theirs. He chose not to grow. Instead the light we sent him, unbeknownst to us, catalyzed a foreclosure and he moved within months. In the meanwhile, however he ceased to harass my friends.

No matter how upset you are you’d truly rather be loving, than be unloving. Doing so will help you feel the power of the light within.

The last few newsletters have been pretty intense and deep conversations. Forgiveness of self and others isn't easy work, but the freedom and joy that result are truly worth the effort!

Love you all!



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Ann Albers

Ann Albers is a popular spiritual instructor, angel communicator, lecturer, and author. She is a traditional Reiki master and a modern mystic who delights in distilling ancient wisdom into practical, down-to-earth tools for modern living. Ann's passion and purpose is teaching others to tap into the power and beauty of their souls, as well as helping people connect with the love and wisdom of their angels.

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