Loving When You Don't Like

My dear friends, we love you so very much,

Last week we spoke of coping with violence in your world, the kind you see on your news that does not affect you directly. This week we wish to apply the very same principles to the less than kind behaviors that do affect you personally. How do you handle the verbal attacks of those around you, and those souls that seem to require an argument? How do you deal with those unwilling to compromise?

If you have heard our messages for some time, you already know that the answer is love. Love is not always "like." Love is not always feeling "good" about a person or a behavior. Love as we define it, is simply an acknowledgment of the spark of light within a soul, and a recognition that each soul – no matter how wounded, no matter how stubborn, not matter how unkind, is doing their very best, ultimately, to feel loved... whether they realize it or not.

There are some souls who ask for love in kind ways. They reach out for help honestly or they shower kindness upon others to feel that flow of love through their very being.

There are other souls who are far less conscious. They reach out for love by attacking you with their words, or creating arguments. "Join me in my anger and pain," is what they are really crying out. "See my pain. Feel it with me." They do not even know this is what they are after. And while it would be much more evolved of course. to say "please help me find a way out of my pain," sadly they do not even believe that is possible. Frequently they do notbelieve anyone would care about what is really buried in their hearts and so they have disconnected from the very same. These are the souls who need your love, even when they do not merit your attention. You can turn away from them and you can refuse to dignify their darkness with your light, but try not to hate them. Pray for them instead. Send them light, and ask for the upliftment of their souls.

There are other souls who are unwilling to compromise with you – family members, co-workers... those you cannot walk away from and must deal with. These souls are crying out for love in one of two ways. Either they are following their inner guidance and asking you to trust that they know what they are doing in their own lives, or they are stubbornly clinging to a perspective out of a desperate need for acknowledgment and validation. In either, case, let them be. Back away from thedisagreement. Pray for a loving course of action for yourself that does not involve their agreement.

The world needs your love dear ones. The hurting souls need someone, if even in a distant silent way, to acknowledge their light and pray for them. Don't dance with, or dignify their darkness. Instead, remove yourselves from painful situations and disagreements when you can, send the wounded ones your light and prayers, and know that their painful behaviors are not about you.

In doing so you are choosing to embody your deepest, truest most loving self. You become, literally, "in the world but not of it," – a light and a beacon of hope on this earth.

God Bless You! We love you so very much.

-- The Angels

Message From Ann 

It has taken many years of working with angels to learn to love even the hateful souls. Just this week, an angry soul commented under my "Ann & the Angels Trailer" on YouTube that I "should do society a favor and kill myself." I was in such a loving mood after gazing that I responded with kindness. He retaliated with a suggestion that I get a "bo*%" job before I "kill myself." I sent him love, prayed for him, spam blocked him, and reported him toYouTube. And that was that. I felt only compassion for what must be a very miserable and hurting soul.

In my past this would have enraged me or, depending on the day, made me cry. We all want people to understand our loving hearts. We all want to connect with people in a loving way. We crave a meeting of minds and hearts, and peace between us. But some souls are not yet peaceful, nor are they ready for real connection or conversation. They seek only to share their pain by aiming it at others. We don't have to "dignify the darkness" as the angels say by stepping into that vibration.It really does feel better to love.

So how do you turn to love when someone is hateful or hurtful? I didn't get to this level of peace overnight... and like all of us, I'm still a work in progress.
Here are a few things I find useful when someone aims any sort of angry or unkind behavior.

1. Be compassionate... With Yourself!

Ultimately the world's unkindness will not affect you. However, while I was still learning not to take angry words personally, the unkind comments stung. The angels urged me to immediately counteract the "poison" by doing something nice for myself.

They urged me to tell myself I was a good person, or contact a friend who could do so. They even told me to get up and get a pedicure once! Admittedly, it was a superficial solution, but the loving kindness of the soul who worked on me was healing balm after some incredible insensitivity.

Humor works too. A psychic friend and I used to send each other unkind emails we received and jokingly add them to our virtual "hall of shame." When a friend was frivolously sued by someone with a last name that completely suited their angry personality we rolled in fits of laughter until all the dark energy was gone and then we were at long last able to send love to the hurting soul.

2. Engage in "Spiritual Composting"

If you find yourself going over and over an argument or unkind comment in your mind, you simply have a lot of energy built up inside yourself in reaction to the event. The cure is to find a healthy way to transform it to more positive energy.

Journal the things you'd never say and don't really mean, then delete them, shred them, burn them or bury them.

If you are artistically inclined, do your art, create music, write dark poetry to get the energy out of your system.You never need to share this with anyone. It is for your own catharsis.

If you're inclined, try vigorous exercise. I used to do aerobic vacuuming! If someone upset me, at least I ended up with a sparkling clean house! Years ago when I was an innocent young twenty-something and found out my finance's friends had hired a stripper at a bachelor party, I rid the entire backyard of 3' tall tenacious tumbleweeds the following day :)

Do whatever you can to rid yourself of the reactive energy... preferably something constructive!Think of this as spiritual composting – taking negative energy and converting it to something useful.

3. Pray

Nothing helps remove the sting of an angry comment or argument quite like love.

Every time you think of the event or discussion, pray for the person who hurt you.

"Dear Divine Love, Dear God, Dear Angels, please uplift this wounded person's soul, please heal their hurting heart. Please remove any of the pain they triggered in me. Bring peace into my heart and theirs. "

You'd be amazed how quickly this works if you keep it up :)

May peace fill our hearts and may we stand in our beautiful light rather than allowing the darkness to pull us into its illusions.

You are all so beautiful.
Love you,



shapeshifter 6th July 2016 1:57 pm

Perfect advice, thank you.


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Ann Albers is a popular spiritual instructor, angel communicator, lecturer, and author. She is a traditional Reiki master and a modern mystic who delights in distilling ancient wisdom into practical, down-to-earth tools for modern living. Ann's passion and purpose is teaching others to tap into the power and beauty of their souls, as well as helping people connect with the love and wisdom of their angels.

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