No More Self Punishment

Hi Dear Friends!

Today the angels share a more enlightened view on learning than the old paradigm of punishment – both for self and others, and I'll share my journey out of anger (at self and others) and into love. Let us, as Gandhi said, "Be the change we wish to see in the world."

Love you all!

♥ Ann

Message from the Angels

My dear friends, we love you so very much,

For every choice, the soul knows there is a vibrational consequence. For every action, there is a ripple of energy that travels throughout the universes. With every thought, a vibration is experienced throughout creation. There is nothing ever said, done, or thought without affecting the entire cosmos. You are that important! Your thoughts, words, and deeds are important – each and every one of them.

With every loving thought, word, or deed, you elevate the cosmos. With every self-punishing thought, word, or deed, you block the love of the Source and instead attract others who would willingly take out their pain on you as well.

Can you imagine a world in which there was no self-deprecation, no self-punishment, no self-criticism, but only self-love?

Can you imagine a world in which a mistake is not punished, by rather met with a simple explanation of the consequences and a loving guide to help you through navigate these consequences and learn from them?

Can you imagine a world in which criminals were not loathed but rather seen as needing compassion, education, and a loving system to remove them from harming others, and reform them?

Can you imagine a world in which you looked in the mirror each morning and said to yourself, "Good morning precious, beautiful, divine soul?. Whether you meet your goals today or not, you are trying. Whether you feel your best or not, you are no less Divine! I love you dear God within me! I love me, my human self. I will do my best today." Can you imagine?

Your world would return to being the school of love and diverse expression that it was originally meant to be.

We know that the world you live in is far from these realities. Nonetheless, all change begins with a soul willing to imagine first, and then do better.

What if, for example, when your children were acting out or misbehaving you were to avoid yelling, screaming, angry reactions and instead say calmly, "I love you, but we don't behave that way. If you continue I will have to take you to your room for a timeout."

What if, for example, instead of killing your war criminals, you required them to see the painful results of their actions in families, nations, and individuals so they could witness the suffering of humanity that they triggered, rather than simply returning hate for hate. Even the hardest hearts eventually melt when they witness enough suffering, and only then will the soul have incentive to emerge. If you go to any of your war memorials on this earth today, you will see visitors from "both sides" on only one side – the side of love – with tears on their eyes, realizing that humanity must not repeat the atrocities of the past.

You can kill a soul. You cannot kill the spirit within it. You cannot kill an ideology. Until the spirit learns – truly learns – that hurting another hurts one's self, there will be no true change. Enlighten your criminals dear ones. Show them that their pain has caused another's. Let the common bond of your humanity unite you rather than allowing the darkness of hatred to divide you.

So, what does this mean for you, in your every day, personal life?

Perhaps you don't have children and you aren't in the legal system? How do you promote a more loving world that teaches only choice and consequence rather than hatred and punishment?

As always you start with yourselves. You change the world vibrationally, by changing your own reactions and behaviors. You become less punishing, less critical, less hateful towards self and others. You look in the mirror and congratulate yoruself for being on earth. When you make a mistake, you give yourself a hug (quite literally!) and tell your inner self, "It's ok. Let us just do better next time. What can we learn here?"

When you see someone on the news who has committed heinous crimes against humanity, instead of saying, "How could you, you monster, you beast! You deserve to be punished! You deserve to be tortured! You deserve to die!"... instead you say, "My God I am so sorry for the horrible pain inside of you that drives you to behave in such unthinkable ways." You pray for the elevation of their soul. You surround them with light. You imagine the light rising up within them.

You can easily become part of the solution instead of vibrationally solidifying the problem. Hate cannot cure hate. Unevolved reactions cannot cure unevolved behaviors. Only love, dear ones, Divine love – the kind that can bear witness silently to the invisible kernel of light within each soul – only this can cure the world's darkness and pain.

Hateful punishments fuel the fires of darkness. Lovingly dealt consequences, coupled with education, elevate the presence of light.

As your dear Gandhi said, "Be the change you wish to see in the world."

Treat yourself with loving kindness. Stop punishing yourselves and others with hatred and anger. Instead elevate yourselves and others by bearing witness to the invisible light within, by being compassionate even when realizing the consequences of un-evolved behaviors, and by praying and sending love to all hurting hearts.

In this fashion, dear ones, you WILL change the world, starting with yourselves first.

God Bless You! We love you so very much.
-- The Angels

Message from Ann...

Hi Everyone,

The angels once told me, "Ann we had a hard time helping you make the decision to come to earth. You wanted to, but you were concerned that earth was too an angry place for an enlightened soul." I knew I had come to share light many times, and many times I've been brutally killed for it. I wondered to myself, "How could I be so enlightened if I feared anger? "Exactly," they said!

I didn't realize during all those lives that I was one willing martyr, who was punishing myself for perceived imperfections and failures in lives more distant past.

So, I entered the world with a fiery personality and embraced anger firsthand – within myself! I witnessed anger and frustration in the family. Both parents worked hard to give the family all they could, but you can imagine that back when women weren't supposed to work, it wasn't an easy thing to juggle a two career family. It still isn't! Back then however, in addition to the stresses, there were very few support systems. My parents had short tempers that sometimes exploded at mouthy, overactive kids such as myself.

When I was young I cried. As I approached the teen years, I didn't take it so well. I got pissed off. I ran up to my room after some such episodes and beat my own arm with a hairbrush just to take out the energy of anger I felt at bearing witness to such unnecessary tension. Nowadays kids cut themselves. I'm glad I didn't know that back then. There were times I was so upset at the upsets, because I was so sensitive, that I wanted to die.

Looking back, I understand the reactions of all involved. Now we have beautiful relationships with one another. We've all grown. But that childhood anger stayed within me for quite some time. I easily became angry at myself when I didn't meet my own irrational standards of "perfection" in my early adulthood.

While some would blame my upbringing, I learned later that I carried within my soul that desire to be nothing less than what I knew I really was, and an accompanying sense of frustration when I wasn't. My parents had simply triggered the sensation I carried in my spirit – one of "not being good enough" and I had signed up for them to do so, so I could see it, feel it, and heal it this lifetime, once and for all.

After my marriage and divorce, which were, thank God, both very kind, I became ax-murder mad when I found out a boyfriend was lying and cheating. The angels once again, lovingly pointed out that I was really angry at myself for ignoring my own intuition. That was a hard one to embrace... but it was true.

Slowly but surely, over the years, I saw that all anger at others was first and foremost anger at myself for not loving myself, trusting myself, and taking care of myself. All my self-punishment was based on the erroneous notion that I could fail to be anything less than the light that IAM, that we all are. It was born of the illusions of separation from Source.

I look back and cannot believe I was that person. Any anger now is short, catalytic, and guides me to change. I can't hate even those who have hated or hurt me – not even the ones who have wished me dead. As I cleared the pains of the past, and learned to love myself in the present, little by little, the anger towards self, and therefore others, simply disappeared.

I still see behaviors in this world that sadden me. I have deep compassion for the souls who are on the receiving end of the world's wounded souls. I have also compassion for those who are so wounded they feel it ok to hurt others.

I live in a different reality now – a more peaceful, accepting, and allowing one than ever before. While there may always be occasional bursts of righteous anger, it is now a teacher of self-love, rather than tool for defending my own weaknesses. Self-punishment has long since been replaced by self-love.

Here are some pointers to stop self-punishment and replace it with self-love...

1. Change self-criticism to self-love

Every time you catch yourself saying something negative about you, change it. Say at least three positive things about yourself. Train yourself to look often and acknowledge what is good, beautiful, and true within yourself, rather than habitually looking for what is wrong. At the end of the day acknowledge yourself for what you have done right and what you have learned.

2. Use anger as a teacher, not a tool

Anger, in its pure form is an energy that catalyzes us to change. It is in its essence, neither positive nor negative. It is just a force. It says, "Do something differently! Think differently! Change!"

When you are angry ask, "What do I have to change inside of myself to find peace in this situation?"

You may have to speak up with love to someone who is behaving in hurtful ways, "I love you but I next time you yell at me, I will leave the room. I love you but if you continue to criticize me, I will leave this relationship." Choice, consequence... with love – first for self and then for the other.

You may have to change an attitude. I used to get really mad at dangerous drivers in traffic. The angels pointed out that my anger was born out of a fear that they could hurt me. They reminded me kindly that there are no victims, and that if I intended to have a safe drive and believed in God's grace to help me do so I need not fear, nor be angry at bad drivers! They suggested I send them love and pray for the protection of all on the road instead. That feels much better.

You may have to get help changing your reaction patterns. Sometimes anger is triggered in irrational ways and we know it, but we can't easily shift on our own. That is why there is therapy, EFT, EMDR, hypnosis, the work of Dr. Joe DIspenza, and thousands of other techniques available for helping us change our reactionary brain patterns.

3. Pray, both for the hurting and those who hurt others

It is easy to pray for the more obviously hurting souls in this world. It is far more challenging for most to pray for those who hurt others. Nonetheless, they are the most in need. You don't have to wish them well, but you can pray:

"Let the light of love rise up within them. Elevate their spirit above this pain and darkness. Let them become conscious of their wounds so they can stop hurting others and stop hurting their own spirit too!" Imagine a tiny spark of light glowing within them until it fills them.

I have done this many times for angry, wounded souls and the transformation is remarkable. Either they step into greater light or stop bringing their darkness into your life. Years ago, for example, friends had an abusive felon move next door to their new home. You can imagine their dismay. They couldn't change this guy, even with kindness. He was drunk and came over spewing garbage with nearly every word. So, we prayed. We bound him in light, surrounded him with light and prayed for God to elevate his soul and drive out his darkness. In his case, he wanted to keep his darkness, so the light drove him out of their lives. He foreclosed on his home and moved out within four months.

Light is always the answer. Love is the answer, even when shared with firm boundaries. Learning loving consequences is a much higher alternative than hateful punishment, for both self and others.

In a world that craves its witch hunts, crucifixions, and punishments, let us be the tiny sparks of love that fan the flames of a better world, starting with a commitment to stop punishing ourselves, and to simply, lovingly, learn from our own choices.

Love you all!


VAARRR 10th February 2020 12:43 pm

Hi “Can you imagine a ”

“all change begins with a soul willing to imagine first”
all change begins with- guardian angels imagine to you firs, and then they do to you, do better

“you required them to see the painful results of their actions in families”
again guardian angels they have to do it first.

“So, what does this mean for you”
this means. only guardian angels have access to each individually. and not anyone but them
this means- how much love and joy the vibe did not project or give to them(someone on who has committed heinous crimes against).before his guardian angel shows him this, and will not cover him with sympathy , and only after that “only then will the soul have incentive to emerge.”

this means- all you have to do is wait when, they are guardian angels will start this….
again people already have 4D consciousness from 15,12,2019) , they can perceive it…..


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Ann Albers is a popular spiritual instructor, angel communicator, lecturer, and author. She is a traditional Reiki master and a modern mystic who delights in distilling ancient wisdom into practical, down-to-earth tools for modern living. Ann's passion and purpose is teaching others to tap into the power and beauty of their souls, as well as helping people connect with the love and wisdom of their angels.

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