Real Love Comes From Within

My dear friends, we love you so very much.

Today we wish to speak to you on the topic of relationships. All relationships whether the ones with your life, your home, your spouse, your children, or your pet, are teaching you about the relationship you have with yourself. The relationships with others show you very clearly what parts of yourself you are willing to bring to the surface in your life and what parts of yourself you are willing to let go. For in truth, dear ones, all energies exist within you and you choose which ones you want to experience.

Seldom in the human race is "falling in love" truly about loving another. Far more often you are falling in love with yourself in the presence of another. In the mirror of a kind soul who acknowledges you, pays attention to you, compliments you, and resonates with you on many levels, you feel good about yourselves! We celebrate when you feel this way! We love to see you acknowledge the truth of your being - that you are beautiful inside and out, worthy of all love and acknowledgment. But we also know, that if you perceive that this sensation comes from another, and "fall in love" with them for that sensation, then dear ones you can just as easily "fall out of love" when the other ceases to make you feel this way, and you can be tempted to try any number of human machinations to get the other to make you feel this way again.

Real love comes from a spring of well-being within you. Real love says, "I already know I am loved! I already feel good about myself. And from this full place, I have love to share. I see this person in front of me. They are worthy of love, respect, and acknowledgement. I want to share myself with them. I want to learn more about them. I want to uplift them. I want to support their goals and dreams. I want to take delight in their presence. I want to see how deeply we can share ourselves with one another. I want to see how we can grow together and experience and expand the love of God within ourselves." If you are not there yet, dear friends, don't despair. This type of love is rare upon your planet earth.

So how do you create truly loving relationships with all of life? You must, absolutely, start with yourself. If you take care of yourself, do kind things for yourself, create balance in your life, try to be honest and authentic in your expressions, and reach out for help and comfort when you are in need, you will find that you have created the relationship with yourself that you so desperately want with another. In this space, you are a beacon and a light in the world! You will attract those of like mind and heart, and you will find yourself drifting away from those who have other journeys. You will live a life centered in yourself, knowing that the true self within you is centered in God's love. You will have fallen in love with your true self! And in this space of truly embracing God's love and presence within you, you will find yourself falling in love with all of life, creating the magic that was intended to be a part of your daily lives, not just in a relationship with one human being, but in all your relationships. This, dear ones, is heaven on earth.

God bless you! We love you so very much.
--The Angels

Message From Ann

This is personal and I debated about whether or not to include it in a newsletter, but after the angels channeled this week's message, I think the story may help some of you.

I recently lost a dear friend, not through death, but through misunderstanding. She was family to me. We communicated every day and have known each other for over a decade. Late last year when I was stressed, I was not as sensitive as usual and some things I said and did in innocence were terribly misinterpreted. My friend began to pull away, suddenly, without telling me why. I attempted to communicate several times and things seemed better after each conversation, but then she pulled away again. Her responses to my invitations became shorter and more curt and after one particularly painful rejection when I was attempting to reconnect, I knew I had to listen to what the angels were telling me, and let go. The angels made it clear that right now her journey was without me, and that I had triggered a pain much deeper than the issues at hand - one I could not fix, and one that was exacerbated by my presence in her life. The angels told me the kind thing to do was bless her, release her, and simply let her know I loved her. So I did. I wrote a brief note saying I would honor her desire not to communicate and that I loved her. I meant every word.

The time leading up to this letting go was painful. i deeply grieved the times we had shared, the fun, the friendship, the laughter, and her sweet and kind heart. One day, however, Archangel Michael - the angel of truth and protection, who loves us all - showed up and said to me quite simply, "How long do you plan to suffer? Isn't it time you choose to love yourself in this too?" His words woke me up. He was right. While there was so much in the past that I missed, what had been going on recently was not loving or kind to me. I neither wanted nor deserved the rejection, lack of communication, and false pretenses that had gone on the last few months. I wanted kinder and more honest behaviors in my life.

The revelation was a big one for me. Many times in my life, I have chased after people who have been upset with me, trying to prove my love, my heart, and my intentions. I've tried to help them solve their childhood pain, often at my own expense, only to realize it didn't work after all. So, for the first time in my life, I gave up trying to fix what could not be fixed at this time. I released my friend to God's love and decided to love myself.

As soon as I sent the note, a great weight lifted off my shoulders. Immediately abundance started flowing, the readings deepened, my health started feeling better than ever, and all of life seemed amazing, happy, and miraculous once again. I started feeling the flow of God's grace. It has brought a clarity to my life that I previously didn't even know was missing.

I still think of my old friend with a lot of love. I pray for her, and trust that she is on the path she needs to be on. I have heard she is doing great, and I am too. God, in his infinite wisdom, moved us, to create more gentle and kind growth in both of our lives.

I have been rejected many times this lifetime. I have been unceremoniously dumped, misunderstood, scapegoated, vilified, and attacked. But the constant in my life is the love I feel from God and the angels. They are the friends who can never leave, the ones that always understand the purity of my heart, and the ones who constantly motivate me to be a more loving person. They're the ones I turn to first, when I am in need. Being a loving person does not always mean we are perfect, nor does it mean we will always be nice, always please others, or always appear to be "holy." But it does mean that time and again we can call forth the presence of God's love within us, through our own free will, choosing to love God first, self next, and others as a natural product of the first two.

We cannot offer true love to others until we grant that to ourselves. We cannot be at peace with others' feelings and choices until we allow ourselves our own. So when I'm hurt, I cry, rant, and rave, in private. I grant myself full expression as an act of love towards myself. It never fails... when the so-called negative feelings are flushed through my system, love follows, because always and forevermore, love is the deepest truth within us.

Challenge yourself this week to be truly loving to yourself. See how it changes your feelings towards others.

Love and hugs and a deep abiding peace,


Berniesongspirit 23rd April 2012 5:18 am

Thanks so much Ann! Your lovely message has come at EXACTLY the right moment for me (as these things always do! :smitten: ) Earlier this morning I had asked the angels to help me through the challenges I've been experiencing recently, especially around relationships & the "old" issues that have been resurfacing for me - one's I'd "thought" :2funny I'd put to bed long ago :roll:

& Lo! The Angels came to the rescue as they always do - yes, I needed your reminder that we are never alone! :angel: :angel: :angel:

sixtinaf 23rd April 2012 7:25 am

Much gratitude for sharing your personal story,
because it illuminates your spiritual message.
As we are humans and so connected to each other,
we are impacted daily by our relationships in deep ways
especially now as the mirror of self-reflection becomes so clear. Thank you, Sixtina

Barbs2 23rd April 2012 6:49 pm

Thank you for confirming what I have been teaching myself to do as being the correct way to deal with the problems....much love Barbs2

blj 23rd April 2012 7:25 pm

It is so hard to let go of a friend~ I just called an old friend today who use to be my best friend, thinking I should be able to repair the relationship. We raised our kids together and spent the summers by the pool, they even ended up going to Prom together! We had some great times and belly laughs. She still lives in the same neighborhood, but for whatever reason it just no longer works =(
recently I heard about mentally tearing up "relationship contracts"and giving them back to each other when you have tried everything and need to move on. It does help~

Linda McColl 26th April 2012 10:31 am

:smitten: Oh Ann, THANK-YOU. It was brave to share and I am truely grateful that you did. Your life sounded so like mine it was as if this was a message just for me. Just as you felt it was just for you.I have a feeling lots of people will be claiming this message as written for them . Thank-you a huge hug is sent your way .

Rainbow Princess 30th April 2012 2:17 pm

Thank you so much for this beautiful message! I am learning this too! :)

Love :smitten:

Barbs2 16th August 2012 5:12 pm

Thank you so much for your info....It's alright to be who you are is something I have been learning to accept for a while now and your confirmation of that is sooooo good. I am feeling a centred kind of happiness just thinking about it...Loving who I have become and looking forward to the rest of life is great. Thank you seems insufficient compared to what I am feeling.

Keep on doing what you took me until I was 72 to begin to get it right for myself.


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Ann Albers is a popular spiritual instructor, angel communicator, lecturer, and author. She is a traditional Reiki master and a modern mystic who delights in distilling ancient wisdom into practical, down-to-earth tools for modern living. Ann's passion and purpose is teaching others to tap into the power and beauty of their souls, as well as helping people connect with the love and wisdom of their angels.

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