Releasing Expectations

My dear friends, we love you so very much.

By all means set your intentions for life, but then release yourself from the bondage of expectations. Acknowledge your hearts desires, then in the same breath let go of how you expect they will come about. Let go of how you expect yourself to be. Let go of who you expect others to be. Embrace who you are in each moment and who others are in each moment. Embrace life in each moment.

As you learn to release your expectations you free your spirit. You stop wasting precious time and energy complaining, looking for a validation of how things should be, or comparing life to your expectations. Instead you learn to dance with life. You learn to embrace each moment as it is, and then in the very next breath decide if it is or isn't consistent with your desired intentions. Because you are present you are able to simply say, "What do I do next? What do I say next. How can I love myself, the others, and life in this moment?"

For example, many of you expect to be treated kindly. You expect yourselves to be kind. You expect that if you are a good person you get rewarded and if you are bad you get punished. However, dear ones you live in a world with seven billion people, all of whom have free will, and all of whom are at varying degrees of their spiritual evolution. To hold others, or even yourselves to expectations of perfection is to set yourselves up for upset. Far better to say, "I intend to be kind but when I am not, I will at least be kind to myself until I get back on track." Instead of saying, "I expect others to be kind to me," say, "I intend to keep company only with those who are kind or with those whose unkindnesses I can avoid taking personally. I may not get to choose who crosses my path, but I can choose the company I will keep." Instead of saying, "I have been good and I expect my reward," say to yourself, "I am good because it is my nature to be good, and I intend to have good things come to me as well."

There is a fine line between intending/creating, and expecting. Expectation hopes for an energy. Intention directs energy. Expectation wishes for calm waters and complains in the storm. Intention steers the ship around the storm, knowing it is already destined for calm.

See if you can live an entire day with no expectations of yourself or life. Say to yourself, "This is my intention for today. I will accept whatever comes across my path, and in the very next moment I will decide what to do to create a reality consistent with my intentions. I will not waste time complaining about life, others, or myself. I will simply say, "I am who I am. Others are who they are. Life is what it is. What's next?" Your intentions will be the compass that steers your choices. See how your life unfolds more powerfully, with less wasted energy, and with more joy when you let go of the bondage of expectations. As your saying goes, "Life happens." Will you accept it and move forward, or will you remain chained to the expectations you once held for it, with your mind moving in circles? Free yourselves dear ones! You hold the key.

God Bless You. We love you so very much.
-- The Angels

Message From Ann

Hi All!

This past Easter weekend absolutely nothing went as expected. A caulking job I expected to take only a few hours on Saturday was interrupted so many times that I had to finish it Easter morning. A handy man I had expected to do a good job years ago had made a horrible mess of it and at the time I was so steeped in expectations and upsets that I didn't see the obvious solution which would have been to call him back to fix it. I expected to at least have a nice brunch with Lucy, my little old Labrador, on Easter and instead ended up doing laundry for her while she pouted and glared at me because her lunch was late. I knew I had to release my expectations quickly and embrace the present or I was going to sink into self-pity. So I did what I always do when I am in need of help. I prayed. "Please help me with Lucy. I love her. I want to find a way to convince her I DO love her even when she doesn't get her way. I'm doing everything in my power not to feel bad when she glares at me, but I need help." I felt the warmth and presence of angels.

After going into what I call a "conference" in which I see the angels talking amongst themselves about the best way to guide me, I heard one say, "Give Lucy her own Facebook page." You should have seen the look on my face! "Really?" I started to laugh out loud. The idea was hilarious! I continued to question my heavenly helpers, "And what do I say on it? I made mom do six loads of laundry before lunch?" I was still giggling at the thought. "Channel her sweet spirit," they told me. "Tap into the reality of her soul. You'll see!" So I proceeded to give my dog her own Facebook page. I quieted my mind and tapped into her soul, and connected with the sweet little innocent puppy girl who just wanted to be loved. By the end of the night she had over one hundred friends! I have been laughing ever since. People are writing to her, asking her questions, posting pictures of their dogs to show her, and having wonderful conversations. I quiet my mind, tune into her soul and let her spirit answer. I read her the loving posts... and she smiles! There's even a picture of her on Facebook admiring her page on the iPad!

Now when she glares at me every morning and most days after work, I get inside her dog brain and want to just laugh! Its like tuning into a cantankerous two year old. When I start feeling uppity about messes and laundry I look through her eyes and laugh myself silly. The expectations are gone. Now I exist in a state of wonder as in, I wonder what she will say about this! She is always sweet to others so if you need a dose of dog love or dog wisdom on Facebook, you can LIKE her here. As her personal assistant I do try to keep up channeling answers to her posts

And while this is all very silly and fun, the truth is that as I released my expectations I opened up to a crazy solution that has changed my attitude and made my life infinitely more enjoyable. After four years without two consecutive nights of eight hours sleep and enough laundry for a hotel, I'm still smiling. In fact I'm rolling with laughter lately. My body is healing in ways I never expected thanks to the encounter with Braco in February (more on that in another article). I'm motivated to exercise now, and also to fix a number of little annoying things around the house. I'm slowly working at a book that may take longer than I expected... and its all good!

Life is life. Others are who they are. We are who we are in any given moment. Let life be. Let others "be." And then knowing who you are, right here and right now, make your intentions to the universe clear and leave your expectations behind. You may just get a solution to your life's challenges that is as crazy and wonderful as the one I just received!

I love you all!


angelika 10th April 2013 6:16 am

love Lucy's website, even though I've got a cat rather than a dog. Maybe one day I get this channeling thing right too and set up a website for her own thoughts. It'll be great to actually get an inside from her perspective : )

re Braco, I'd come across him before and your facebook reminded me of this. I've recently booked a few sessions with him - starting tomorrow. After reading this article I'm aiming to have intentions rather than expectations, well, that's the intent anyway. I do have several issues that I'm hoping this will help to resolve. Over to the angels and my soul now xx

valleyfever 10th April 2013 10:01 am

Thank you for the wonderful affirmations!

As you spoke about Lucy, it reminded me of my 4 year old grand-daughter and her dirty looks when she is not getting enough attention. When she is being mean, I try to behave in a way that an ascended master would in the same situation. It is not always easy... but I know my patience will prevail in the end. :)

COBALT 10th April 2013 10:41 am

What a beautiful message! I am so sad to know that Lucy had to leave, but I know how wonderful it is that she is safe at home. Tears of joy! :angel:


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Ann Albers is a popular spiritual instructor, angel communicator, lecturer, and author. She is a traditional Reiki master and a modern mystic who delights in distilling ancient wisdom into practical, down-to-earth tools for modern living. Ann's passion and purpose is teaching others to tap into the power and beauty of their souls, as well as helping people connect with the love and wisdom of their angels.

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