Today the angels talk about how we are being the best version of ourselves in a given moment and how we deserve love no matter what. I'll talk about self-acceptance and share some pointers. You DO deserve love. We all do. Let's drop those old beliefs that don't really work anyway and embrace heaven's view of our worthiness!
Have a blessed & beautiful week :)
Message from the Angels
My dear friends, we love you so very much,
If we had a mission here in heaven, you might say it would be to assist you in realizing your true nature. You are birthed from love, given life by love, and will return to love. Part of your journey on the earth is learning to expand love, starting for yourselves. It is easy to love yourself when you feel loved by another. It is a reality in heaven when you feel the love that unceasingly gives you life. It is also easier when things are going your way – when the traffic flows, when you find what you want at the grocery store, and when people are being kind.
It is not truly any harder to love yourself when others don't or when things are not going your way, except for one minor detail. Most of you have been trained out of this very natural feeling of worthiness. There is no need to explain why. It is relatively simple. Others behaved the way they behaved, and you interpreted that to mean you were not worthy of love. Someone disapproved of your artwork when you were a child, and you felt you were not worthy of being creative. Someone frowned at your face, hair, or outfit, and you thought you were not worthy of love unless your looks pleased others. Someone treated you horrendously and in such a vile, abusive manner that you decided you were not at all worthy of love.
The empowering point here, dear ones, is that you decided you were unworthy of love, and while it is understandable that you would do so, you can change your mind! You can acknowledge here and now that no matter who convinced you that you were unworthy of love, the Divine begs to differ. You can acknowledge that no matter who treated you as if you were unworthy of love, the heavens want to treat you as the most worthy, precious, perfect being sourced from the light of love itself. No matter how conditionally others loved you, no matter what messages they sent, and no matter how conditionally you learned to love yourself, you can decide right here and now accept the fact – the spiritual truth – that you are worthy of love. Whether you feel it or not, you can decide here and now to accept this fundamental, accurate, unchangeable premise.
You are worthy. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of doing what you love. You are worthy of taking the time to do the things that add life to your life. You are worthy of being around those who treat you well and walking away or ignoring the opinions of those who don't. You were created worthy, and nothing you do or don't do, say or don't say, can ever affect that worthiness because, dear ones, you are made (not were made) in the image and likeness of your Creator. Like your Creator, the truth of your being is pure light and pure love.
Some days you are aligned with that love and that light. Some days you are not. In some lives, you align with that light; in others, you do not. Your experience will differ, but we always hold onto our understanding of your true nature and your worthiness. Even the vilest among you are worthy of love. If they were to open up to that simple fact, they would not behave like those who feel so unlovable that they must hurt, manipulate, cheat, and steal to get a little piece of that sense of being lovable! Dear ones, the vilest among you feel the least worthy, no matter how arrogantly they profess their worthiness to others. We see inside hearts.
We also know that you are always being the best you that you can be in the moment. You can always be more. You came to expand! Nonetheless, in every moment, you are the best you that you can be right then, right there, right here, right now. In some moments, the best you that you can be is a person having a good cry because you miss someone, or you feel exhausted. Then in the next moment, perhaps the best you that you can be is one who gets a tissue and dabs their own eyes in the tiniest movement of loving comfort. Then perhaps in the next moment, the best you that you can be is one who sighs and says, "Well, I don't feel like it, but there is more to do in life. I may as well go through the motions." Then in the next moment, the best you that you can be is one who realizes that life is moving forward and there are some enjoyable moments.
And so, dear ones, as you accept this simple fact – that every moment you are being the best you that you can be – there will be a natural progression towards better. Be kind to yourselves now. Accept yourself now. In that acceptance, you acknowledge that you are worthy of love as you are here and now. In self-acceptance, you begin your journey toward true, unconditional self-love. You want others to love you no matter what. Choose to accept yourself as you are, doing your best and being the best you that you can be in this moment.
We in the heavens will never judge you. We know it is a courageous move to become human, to forget your worthiness, your nature, and the connection you have with all of life – all to experience variety, reach for more, and thus pull the energy of the Divine from its raw form into manifest reality. You, by virtue of being human and being there upon your earth, expand creation, expand love, and call forth the unmanifest into form. You are all so important. You are all so loved.
You are all so very worthy of all you dream.
God Bless You! We love you so very much.
-- The Angels
Message from Ann...
Never once did my dogs (now in heaven) doubt their worthiness! When they stole my dinner off the counter, they knew they deserved it! When I was upset, they wondered what got in to me! When someone ignored them, they went to the next until they got the attention they knew they wanted – and deserved! They taught me a lot about worthiness and unconditional love. Those of you with animals or young kids know exactly what I'm talking about. They know they're worthy of love, and when we don't, they wonder what's up with us!
It took me decades to truly learn to accept myself no matter what. Like most of us, I used to judge my looks. Now I prefer to look good, but so be it when I don't. I'm still me. I used to judge myself by how "right" I got things. If I felt stupid, I used to beat myself up without mercy. Now being ignorant is fun. I get to learn something new. I used to beat myself up for not being "enough" to satisfy anyone and everyone, whether it was reasonable or not. Now I do what I'm guided to do and let everyone figure out if they're satisfied with me or not. I have finally grasped that the opinions of others are just their perception, their truth, and formed through their filters. Often, they have very little to do with who I truly am.
We were all born, brewed, and steeped in cultural, family, religious, and societal messages about what made us lovable. It is almost comical looking back. One person is lovable in one culture if they come with a lot of goats. Another person would be disdained if they brought goats to their wedding. In one era, women were worshiped for their voluptuous curves. Then you were supposed to be rail thin to be lovable. Next up, "we like big butts, and we cannot lie..." Really? The superficial standards of beauty have always been just that. Some learned they were lovable when they put up and shut up, while others were prodded to "get over their shyness." Some were loved for their creativity, while others were told to "stop wasting their time." I could go on, and I'm sure you could go on too, but really, the criteria for being lovable are highly individual and have nothing whatsoever to do with your true "lovabiliy." These "standards" just tell you who resonates with you and who doesn't.
I'll never forget one totally humorous incident in my infamous thirties when I was looking for love in all the wrong places! I told God that morning I wanted a "sighting" meaning I wanted to run into a cute guy and have a friendly conversation. It was a joke between some friends and me. So lo and behold, I went to Costco to pick up some photos and sat on a chair in the waiting area to look at the pictures when a very handsome and friendly man sat next to me. He looked at my photos, made kind comments, and struck up a delightful conversation. However, having been intuitive for a few years, I knew what would ultimately come. "So what do you do for a living?" he asked. "Here we go," I thought. I was not ashamed of what I did. "I talk to angels and dead people. I'm an angel communicator and a psychic medium." He laughed uncomfortably. "No, really..." "Really. I used to be an avionics engineer, but a few years ago, my entire life changed. Now I help people for a living this way." "Oh, um, er, well, It was nice meeting you," and so he ran! I laughed inside – uproariously so. Happily, times have changed, and most people are interested in what I do now, but back then, I was weird. It was great. I learned to hold my head up high and love what I was doing.
The hair was another issue. It wasn't quite socially acceptable, growing up when I did, to have "wild" hair. It was supposed to be tamed, trimmed, and kept in line, kind of like we women were supposed to be! Neither my hair nor myself was easily tamed! I never quite felt like one of the "pretty girls" in high school, but I made peace with it. I remember a day at age 17 when I just decided that I was beautiful inside and if people didn't care for that, too bad. I remember another day years later when I chose to love my hair as it was. That night someone stopped me in a bookstore and commented on my "gorgeous hair." I nearly passed out. Talk about how our vibes affect the world around us!
More seriously, many of us learned that we had to earn love or worthiness and, worse, that we could mess it up. After my divorce, I spent nearly seven months feeling like an unworthy failure. It was not fun to feel this way and would have been useless, except that the "guilt, shame, and blame game" gave me a lot of incentive and motivation to grow and become the person I am now. So not even our so-called unworthy moments are wasted. We can learn from them, and reach for more. We're worthy of love the whole time – no matter what we're feeling or believing.
The angels have worked with me to stop beating up on myself throughout the years. "Go to the mirror and apologize to yourself," they used to say! I went through the motions. "Sorry," I'd say to my reflection. Archangel Michael sounded like a mom, "Mean it." I could feel his love and humor and their desire to love me as they did, so I improved my attitude, "I'm sorry, Ann. I didn't mean to beat you up," I would say to my reflection. My reflection burst into tears at the notion of being worthy of love, no matter what. Best of all, that acknowledgment of worthiness opened me to the incredible and constant flow of the angels' love at a precise moment when I had not previously felt worthy of it.
Collectively, we as a planet are trying to learn we're worthy of love. Stuffed feelings are flying up and out; if you feel worthy of love, you can feel them and let them flow through. If you don't, they tend to come out sideways, with heaping doses of guilt, blame, and shame attached.
As we embrace our worthiness of love, we let ourselves feel, allow ourselves to be real, and let others come or go without the need for them to validate us. It is a much happier and freer way to live.
Here are a few tips to help you embrace your worthiness no matter what...
1. Bring Your Beliefs into the light
Write a list of ten to twenty things you learned "made you lovable." For example, I am lovable when I please people. I am lovable when I eat my dinner. I am lovable when I put myself last. I am lovable when I look a certain way. I am lovable when I agree with people. I am lovable when I do things "right." I am lovable when I am neat and organized. I am lovable when I save my money, etc. You get the idea. Go as fast as you can and bring those beliefs into the light.
2. Rewrite the list as If God were writing it
For every item, write a new belief:
I am lovable even when I am not... For example, I am lovable when I am not pleasing people / looking right / behaving / feeling positive / etc.
Do this for every item. Read it every day. Put it where you can see it. Keep reinforcing it. I am lovable even when I'm not feeling fabulous. I am lovable even when I make a "mistake." I am lovable even when others are displeased with me. I am lovable even if I am fifty pounds "over"weight. I am lovable even if I'm not as far in life as I think I should be. I am lovable even if my ex hated me. I am lovable even if I just temporarily screwed up my life. I am lovable even if I make a stupid decision.
As you go throughout your days, remind yourself that you are lovable... no matter what.
You WILL argue at times with this. Old programs are often hard-wired! If SIRI on your phone were programmed to say it, she'd tell you you were not lovable if you didn't ask the questions right! If she were programmed to evaluate worthiness as a human, she might refuse to tell you anything good if you didn't have enough in your bank account. Although that sounds ridiculous, we were programmed, and sometimes these programmed beliefs feel so darn real that we'll argue that we aren't lovable. We disagree with God and our soul at those times, which never feels good. Better to surrender to the simple statement,
I am lovable even if...."
3. Remind yourself often that you are worthy
In my "Magical Self Love" class, we have an exercise where people have to admit a secret desire they have – one they feel comfortable disclosing, of course! Then they walk around the room confessing this desire to one person after the next, and each time the other person says only one thing, "YOU DESERVE IT!" The energy in the room goes off the charts by the end of this exercise as people start to believe in their own worthiness for one straightforward reason. Others tell them! Over and over and over. One woman confessed she wanted a second home. Over and over, she heard her worthiness, "You Deserve it!" Within months she found one that serves as a lovely vacation gathering place for her family. She had never looked or even thought it was affordable before that day.
Worthiness = openness. Worthiness opens you to the love, guidance, grace, and resources always being offered by the universe. The universe – the Divine, the angels, you folks in heaven, your kids in heaven, and your animals – all know your worth and worthiness. In their space of constant openness to Divine love, they want to flow it and offer all the help you need for all you want. However, if we decide we're not worthy for any reason – guilt, shame, blame, you name it – we block that love.
So remind yourself often, "I am worthy." If you want a better job, remind yourself that you are worthy. You want a relationship. Remind yourself that you're worthy. Do you want something you don't need? Remind yourself that you're worthy. Then go the extra mile and ask yourself, "What would a worthy person think? How would they act? Would I be more gracious? Would I explore my interest more? Would I expect help from the universe, or would I demand it from the only person I feel safe with?" You can go on here. "How would I think or act if I knew I was worthy of all I desire?" These are powerful questions
I threw away the book of guilt, shame, and blame a long time ago. In the past few years, I learned to embrace my light and worthiness even when I was getting hated on by a few unpleasable individuals. I have learned that wild hair and all, the light inside is the beauty I keep. It has freed me. It has freed me to give more, to enjoy more, and to decide what feels right and when. It has freed me to expect help from the universe the minute I want something. It has freed me to stop trying to please others and to just be me.
I made the decision to embrace God's idea of my worthiness and throw out the one I learned. I made the decision to accept heaven's opinion rather than the opnions of othres.
Here and now, you can decide that you are worthy because you can decide that God's and your angels' opinions are more important than those who didn't know their own worthiness and lovability. It may not be easy, and it may be a decision that has to be made a thousand times before it wires into a new belief, but why not? After all, you are worthy of feeling even your own worthiness :)
Have a blessed and beautiful week :) You deserve it :)
PS - Please pray with me! The Sedona Creative Life Center where I teach is being sold (for 25 Million!). Please pray it remain a teaching center with new ownership that honors the spirit and integrity of this very special place. Thank you! I am teaching the following classe for sure this year and we shall see what transpires after that :)
Also, stay tuned, I'm working on a fun little thing - I'll let you know when it is available :)