Are You Gifting Everyone But You?

Dear Ones,

This holiday season may be difficult for you. Not because you are not filled with love, but that society dictates what you should feel and do.

This is likely the last holiday season that 3D shoulds invade your being to this extent.

Some of you have moved beyond expectations and rituals created in your 3D world. Others of you continue to struggle with a continuum of shoulds from: “I wish I could share this loving season with someone.” to “Why do I play roles I don’t believe in?”

It is not bad or wrong to express love during this season – if you truly feel it. But to create sensations just because you should is confusing for many. You have moved beyond most of your 3D shoulds and beliefs and yet, this season pushes you into your old life.

This is indeed a wonderful season for love is expressed and shared in many ways. But this season lasts just a few days. The societal message is that you should turn on a love button during this season and not be that concerned or interested in love the remainder of the year.

Perhaps this is a harsh assessment for some. For you love the holiday baking, shopping, tree trimming, candle lighting and loving get-togethers.

Yet, love does not reign for others during this season. You feel a duty to bake, cook, decorate, purchase, gather with family and friends, maintain your 3D existence, as well as adjust to Universal shifts. It is too much. You are on overload and cannot wait until the holidays pass. You are not sharing a loving experience, you are merely sharing another 3D work experience. You should do this, feel that and remember everyone but yourself.

It is time to also gift yourself.

Perhaps such is not possible this year for you have already committed beyond your energy levels. This is the last year you will do so. For the shifts of the next few months will pull you further from 3D thoughts and obligations.

You have recently welcomed new segments into your being who wish to experience your 3D world. By doing so, the remainder of you is better able to play with new frequencies, time travel and dimension hopping.

By this time next year, your 3D segments will have adapted to new you and there will be little need to feed the shoulds of your 3D world.

But for now, for this year, your new 3D segments are confused and dismayed. They are not certain how they should act – pieces of this holiday season do not seem harmonious. Why are you expected to give money to others during this season and neglect them the remainder of the year? Are you giving gifts, time, energy and money because you should or because you feel joy doing so?

Your new 3D segments are bathed in love. So this ‘hit or miss’ holiday season does not compute for them.

And as the remainder of new you is called back into your 3D being to explain and coach, you are frustrated and not a little angry. The net effect is not necessarily one of joy, but of shoulds and have tos.

Such is not true for all. For indeed, many of you have cut back or cut down on your holiday festivities. Others of you have designated this time to share love.

But to believe that as a loving soul you must give and give, is to revert to 3D thinking – where giving is divine and receiving is selfish.

The new you – including your new 3D segments – wishes to share love.

Even though for some such has always been their holiday experience, many find themselves so exhausted, financially depleted or angry that it is not a season of love, but a season of shoulds. Give. Give. Give.

Few have yet addressed the complete continuum of giving and receiving.

But then, this is most likely your last year of emphasizing giving and ignoring or negating receiving. Claim yourself and your worth. And so you shall more and more with every passing day.

This holiday season is the cap as it were, the closure of 3D shoulds you have accepted for so long. So be it. Amen.



Emma852013 27th December 2014 5:04 am

Hope you are having a Great holiday Brenda filled with shared love and joy :smitten:

Ive learned that love is the true antidote to other people's negativity, and when we are in it we only do and give freely so yes many cut backs on decorating and giving too much (energy) and it's been blissful and so empowering- the best Christmas Ive had in years, feeling free and authentic.

I wish this for all of us, to stand in our light when the world seems dim and simply be the divinity and wisdom and Love that we are.

Blessings hugs and so many sparkles :smitten:


Liza Elliott 31st December 2014 12:09 pm

I cannot tell you how many times I read this over Christmas.
I have been letting go for so long each Christmas, that it seems only natural to me now to let go of society's demands a little more each year, as a gift to myself, until it has become truly a time of Peace, Love and Joy. But how does one explain that to others to whom that concept is a new thought? :huh::???
This was a wonderful guide for me to use in explaining to my adult daughter how to honor her true feelings and desires at a time that we are told to do the exact opposite.
She and I greatly appreciate this gift of Love that you shared with us!
Bright blessings to you, and to ALL in acknowledging the Love that we are all are! :smitten:


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Brenda Hoffman

An intuitive since birth, Brenda formalized her channeling skills with her internationally noted book, A Glimpse of Your Future. This prophetic classic describes your role in this transition, as well as answers questions such as why baby boomers were instrumental in introducing the New Age and what earth will be like in the year 4000.

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