Earth Dreams Require Dedicated Self-love

Dear Ones,

So it is that you are preparing to open your beings to the next transition phase. Many of you worry that you have not yet created your earth security dream. You will. For it is time to move on.

Such is not to belittle your earth security dream, but instead to inform you that you have moved beyond earth in so many ways. You will inform yourself of that truth once you celebrate your earth graduation with the creation of your earth security dream.

To create your earth dream, you need to love yourself enough to allow the impossible. For your earth dream is not only an indicator to you that you have graduated from your earth learnings, but also a beacon of possibilities for those wishing to love themselves as much as all that there is loves them.

Some of you remain caught in the earth tangle of, “I must not love myself as much as and certainly not more than I love others.” Of course, those of you who have created your earth dream know that such is exactly what is required. A deep commitment to self-love and self-care – beyond any commitment to others in any form.

Even reading those last words give many of you pause. For your earth need to place everyone before you is so deeply ingrained that loving yourself, as much as loving others, continues to feel bad, wrong or evil. Not because it is, but because you remain tied to earth dictates. You have not yet joined your Universal being.

That last statement is not to scold you, but instead a reminder of how important learning to truly love yourself is. If your earth dream includes saving others and it feels right within your being – so be it. But if that feeling is tied to shoulds, have tos or any earth sentiment other than self-love, you will continue to spin your wheels instead of creating your earth dream.

Allow yourself a few seconds of pleasure by imagining what you would do if your finances were unlimited, you were with your dream partner or you were surrounded by that which gives you personal joy. Do others quickly become part of that picture or do you first reward yourself with trinkets, baubles, homes, romantic love, etc? The correct answer is that you reward yourself first in whatever fashion feels most right.

Do you see how you continue to be tied to the earth dictates of shoulds? “I shouldn’t be selfish. I should think of others before buying silly baubles and trinkets.”

If you continue to believe those last statements, you have not yet allowed yourself to enter fully into new you. For it is wonderful that you are so loving of others – but that is something you have been trained to do. It is not from the heart – it is from your conscience, your mind. “What will others think if I just reward myself?” What indeed?

This is a difficult concept for many to grasp but as is true for any continuum, you must move to the opposite side of where you focussed previously to find the middle. Doing so is no more selfish or different from refusing the roles of caretaker or victim that you worked through previously in your quest for new you.

It is time to place yourself front and center. So you will. And when you do, you will create your earth dream and be fully prepared to move to your next transition phase.

Indeed, why would others follow your lead if your earth dream creation were merely a repeat of what was already available of the 3D earth?

Your earth dream creation is meant to be new, fresh, fun and surprising. Surprising enough that others take note. And so it will be.

For once you dare to love yourself enough to create as does a little child with little regard for what others want or need, just thoughts of fun and joy, you will move to your next transition phase.

Your next phase is about daring to love yourself enough to explore those areas not of your earth being that give you joy and provide the Universes with more information – a much larger Akashic record if you will.

Such a thought does not seem that difficult does it? But then, neither did learning to fully love yourself until you attempted to do so. For your next phase requires complete freedom from taking care of others of the earth, from rescuing anyone, from being a victim of others’ needs or wishes. Complete freedom to be you. And such will only happen if you fully love yourself.

So we have returned to the basic principal of fully loving yourself, the foundation of all that you are and will continue to be forever more.

Just be in all your self-loving glory. You are not selfish. You are not evil. You are merely returning to your childhood visions of creations for the sake of creation – not for anyone else. And so it is. So be it. Amen.


zorro 12th January 2016 10:05 am

"The correct answer..."???

I think I understand what you mean by the "correct answer" so I won't ask you to describe what that might be, however, there are certainly many variables in our approach to wholeness. I think of the yin/yang symbol with the black and white swirls and corresponding dots of the opposite color within each swirl is symbolic of where we might end up.

You make nice points on going to the opposite pole to temporarily break out of a "stuck" position. I find that increasingly in my world people have moved beyond "shoulds" and are able to now bounce back to internal congruence unrestricted by the self-imposed layer of "shoulding upon" themselves, and are achieving a balance of self-esteem and reward without any fear that they are going to lose control of themselves in engaging others. I realize that there are many steps along the way. Even stopping consider what someone has written and taking a different angle on it, is like what you are describing. Great creative food for thought in all you have spoken here, and is appreciated!

Brenda Hoffman 12th January 2016 11:47 am

Hi Zorro,
I so agree that we might end up yin/yang, but as has been true throughout this transition new concepts seem to be the norm.

I equate the stage outlined in this week's channel to hair cells and eye cells are independent of one another and yet help create the whole. That we need to discover our inner-balance, self-love before we can fully understand what that whole is and how we can create together to make that whole stronger, better or whatever words you choose to use.
Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,

zorro 12th January 2016 12:18 pm

What "norm" are you speaking about? How long have you been aligned with "norms"? I guess the yin/yang symbol can be thrown out with the bathwater now? It is no longer a valid "norm".

luckydanielle 12th January 2016 12:23 pm

Thank you so much for this. I was raised in an abusive/neglectful household, and found myself the emotional caretaker of my two younger siblings at a very young age. I took pride in my seemingly limitless compassion and caretaking abilities until at the ripe age of 27, I realized I was almost on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Self-love has and continues to be incredibly hard for me, as being a "good person" has been at the forefront of all my current and future planning. Here's to hoping it gets easier. Thank you again.

Noel2 12th January 2016 2:14 pm

To luckydanielle, it sounds like it's time to take care of you. Think of what makes your Heart 'sing' and head that way.

spiritdiver 12th January 2016 3:58 pm

Yes! I recieved this same message (very intently last week, Tuesday) as well Brenda!

Love (self-love) was the strong message, and the messenger, (ONE – and the same). In finally choosing and accepting myself, my desires and needs first as should be. And not over correct I g making excuses for others actions as well. So many inspirational thoughts increasing and great energy flow being consciously received. Also in the unconscious realm I am being shown dreams of my past and other life time/events coming to pass.

Brenda Hoffman 12th January 2016 5:36 pm

Hi Zorro,
Yup. No one probably completely understands what the new norms will be. Until they're clarified in our perceptions a bit more, we're most likely going to continue to refer to those 3D words that best describe what we mean.
Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 12th January 2016 5:41 pm

Hi Danielle,
It will get easier. First, you've noted your issue - always the first step to change. Secondly, more people are accepting and practicing self-love. And as they do it shifts our culture and so many of those "shoulds"

You have to be so proud of yourself for acknowledging that you were a caretaker so early. I didn't realize the same until I was in my 40s. Kudos to you as you continue to explore self-love - you're not alone.
Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 12th January 2016 5:44 pm

Hi SpiritDiver,
YES!!! Thank you for sharing your messages with us. Just a side note, my dreams the past couple of weeks have also included people from my childhood that I haven't thought about in years - nor have I ever dreamed about them before that I remember. Shifting, sharing and loving. What a wonderful time to be of the earth!
Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,

Liza Elliott 12th January 2016 5:50 pm

ALWAYS "buy trinkets and baubles" for your self first!!!
The rest will follow! :smitten:

Liza Elliott 12th January 2016 6:28 pm

Hi Brenda,
As my daughter (26) is realizing that there WAS much love in her childhood that she had forgotten, like you, the past couple of weeks have brought people from my childhood who were neighbors, observers of my childhood, whom I barely knew except as teenage role-models to which I aspired. People that I too haven't thought of in years!
As we share our recollections of growing up on Sullivan's Island near Charleston, one of the most idyllic places to have grown up, we too, as adults, are sharing the rememberances of the laughter, joy and love we observed in each other's lives having now come full circle. Long-forgotten memories of joyous times that had been overshadowed by our childhood hurts. The love and sharing, a soothing balm, healing/giving balance, understanding and compassion, creating as you say "shifting".A shifting in our childhood perceptions, through our sharing and love.
A wonderful way to revisit the past, shifting and healing our foundations to that of unconditional Love/ understanding. A "wonderful time" to be on the Earth as we heal Her too!


Liza Elliott 12th January 2016 6:32 pm

. . .and what a WONDROUS experience of Unity to experience with one's child! :smitten:

Love and Light to us ALL! (Yes, Beautiful Sparkles as well! )

Brenda Hoffman 12th January 2016 6:55 pm

Wonderful Liza!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!And yes, most definitely love and light to us ALL with tons of sparkles thrown in!
Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,
PS Ah, Sullivan's Island with Charleston just a breath away. I live in SC too.

debs go lightly 12th January 2016 8:29 pm

Dear Brenda, this message is absolutely in line with my recent experiences - yesterday my soul took me shopping for clothes, something I have always struggled with due to old issues of self worth. (I communicate with my soul by hearing voice and experiencing a 'feeling', it is taking a lot of practise!) I had the most delicious shopping experience of my life! A new feeling for me connected with clothes. No more guilt feelings, no more anxieties. I felt so happy and peaceful and beautiful. Imagine the possibilities now!
Much love to you, Debs.

spiritdiver 12th January 2016 9:07 pm

Thank you Brenda. You are always so loving and insightful in your replies to all.

spiritdiver 12th January 2016 9:03 pm

Thank you Brenda. You are always so loving and insightful in your replies to all.

This day has a very interesting one, and a fast moving energy for me so I want to be clear about the dreams as di feel it dd not come out as clear. What i meant more clearly is, long held dreams I had often thought "..oh I would love to experience that, or, wouldn't that be fun if we're to have that life.". are now currently playing out on many levels realms it seems. And even in archetypes coming quite vivid and also physically to me. Including in my dream time, where I am actually experiencing that "dream life" I often dreamed of experiencing.. Amazing and so fun!! With the last couple of nights I found I did not want to wake up. Now onto bringing that here..which it is, and just so is happening percisely as you say. All I know is much is turning, connecting this week with the trying on the feelings of many different potentials and fun roles. Very expansive and creative energy, moving through me..I am so thankful and loving it!

Brenda Hoffman 13th January 2016 11:06 am

GO DEBS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you for sharing your joy and new you with us!
Blessings, Lots of Love and, Even More, Creation Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 13th January 2016 11:10 am

Hi Spiritdiver,
Your dreams are so perfect for this time - YES!!! As you thought, my dreams are more about my past than experiencing my dream life as you're doing. What a wonderful beacon you are for us all. Thank you!
Blessings, Lots of Love and, Even More, Creation Sparkles,

Liza Elliott 14th January 2016 12:12 am

Life is but a dream!

Create Sparkles! Think Happy Thoughts! :)

zorro 14th January 2016 11:27 am

Hi Brenda,

You say, "I so agree that we might end up yin/yang, but as has been true throughout this transition new concepts seem to be the norm."

Well, heck, isn't the the idea of "the norm" itself an old concept? And further, the phrase "new concepts seem to be the norm" is a complete oxymoron. Do we need a new "norm" and an acceptable concept (by whose criteria, anyway?) in order to advance as a species? Please do not interpret an honest challenge to what you say as "lack of love, or resentmen, issues. I truly care and seek balance and clarity as much as anyone, but will always challenge what starts to sound to me like "nonsense", but it is done with love and an open mind.

Brenda Hoffman 14th January 2016 5:08 pm

Hi Zorro,
Perhaps I misused words but my intent was to state that so much is changing, most notably including us, that there isn't anything to label as this or that. Pretty much what I believe you're stating. And yes, "new concepts are the norm" is an oxymoron
Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 14th January 2016 5:09 pm

Hi Liza,
Now I can't get the song, "Life is but a dream" out of my head - as it should be!
Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,

zorro 14th January 2016 6:06 pm

Thanks for the clarification on that. I understand, and I find myself saying things these days that don't always come across the way I was thinking. We'really all adjusting, I guess, and hope you know how much I appreciate your contribution to current conversations on SL. Never stop, we need your insights!

Liza Elliott 14th January 2016 7:30 pm

Lol!. . ."as it should be". So right, Brenda!!! It's hard to be sad when you're singing! It soothes, softens and brightens everything. Keep singing, keep swinging!

And by the way, "Would you like to swing on a star? Carry moonbeams home in a jar?". . . :D

Brenda Hoffman 16th January 2016 1:33 pm

Hi Zorro,
Ah, our 3D language! Communication will be easier once words aren't necessary. Here's to that day and hopes that the words we use for now relay our meaning given all that's shifting in our being and world.
Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 16th January 2016 1:35 pm

Hi Liza,
You did it again! Of course, I'm always ready to swing on a star and carry moonbeams home in a jar!!!!!!
Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,


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An intuitive since birth, Brenda formalized her channeling skills with her internationally noted book, A Glimpse of Your Future. This prophetic classic describes your role in this transition, as well as answers questions such as why baby boomers were instrumental in introducing the New Age and what earth will be like in the year 4000.

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