No One Can Dictate Your Joy

Dear Ones,

Even though you are familiar with the theme of new earth joy, few of you have yet dared to fully experience it.

Joy is not concentrating on someone or something and expecting that will result in pleasure.

Such is a continuation of 3D logic (or illogic!) and expecting different results. For is it not true that in your 3D life you expected to enjoy family holidays or events, the celebration of a new job or numerous other activities only to discover the opposite or something quite different was your reality?

That discovery often resulted in the sense you were not worth love or you did not know how to experience joy as others seemed to do – that somehow you were not ‘getting it’ whatever it was.

Each disappointing experience added to your self knowingness that you did not know how to live or celebrate life.

Such was true. For you expected to create joy from logic – as others did or at least expressed that they did. A bit like the story of the ‘king without clothes’.

Your psychological studies indicate that depression or self-anger is often evident during the holidays. Not because it is reality, but because those who are sad or depressed feel ‘out of the emotional loop.’

They are not out of an ‘emotional loop’ for how can any one day be proclaimed an event of joy when each individual experiences that day differently?

A beautiful spring day creates tears of joy for some. While others feel the same about pets, music, a job well done or a family event.

Just because you were taught in 3D that you ‘should’ – in any part of your being, including your emotions – does not mean that you will. If you had one leg, no one would expect you to win a marathon. Yet, ALL are expected to feel similar emotions on the same day or during an event.

Expected emotions are illogical – just as was true for your 3D behaviors.

It is time to allow yourself to feel what you feel when you feel it – including joy and pleasure.

Many of you exchanged one set of emotional shoulds for another. Various sources stated that joy is part of new earth – maybe they even indicate that those who do not feel joy are not ‘right’ somehow in their new earth actions or behaviors.

Such is not true. You feel what you feel when you feel it. Allow yourself to feel joy if that is right for you. And allow yourself to feel fear if that is right.

Allow who you are to flow, instead of continuing the 3D activity of trying to be or feel like someone else.

There is no right or wrong way to feel joy, sadness or any other emotion – just as there is no ‘right’ culture or being. You just are. And once you accept that, you will begin feeling the joy that is right for you – not anyone else.

Perhaps some of you disagree believing that everyone should love their children, parents or country. Such is merely placing shoulds in different places.

Allow yourself and others to be. Allow yourself find the joy that is right for you. Knowing that as each finds his or her joy, joy and love will expand.

For if you find great joy in a sunset and someone else discovers joy in creating a new building or activity, joy is spread to all parts of earth beingness.

If some of you find joy in holidays and expect others to feel the same, love is blocked – both by those expecting others to follow their lead and those not quite understanding why they cannot.

As is true for all parts of your new being, allow yourself to flow and you will discover joy when it is right for you.

Perhaps you need to fully explore fear before such is possible – so you cannot yet comprehend your personal joy.

Do not fret about those who are exploring their joy now – you will when the time is right.

For this new earth is of joy – but unique joy that is yours – and no one else’s. So be it. Amen.



queens4freedom 27th May 2014 8:25 am

well said, thank you!!!

Brenda Hoffman 27th May 2014 2:13 pm

Hi Queens4Freedom,
Isn't it amazing how we KNOW but still like or need reminders?

During this channel I was thinking (it's as if the channel words are in one part of my head and my thoughts or reactions are in another), this isn't new information - but I've never placed emotional sensations so openly in my new behavior/action box. Given that I've always been a bit belligerent, I've been outside mainstream emotions for some time. Sounds like you have too. YAY for daring to be.
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Tiff 27th May 2014 2:40 pm

AMEN. :angel:

Brenda Hoffman 28th May 2014 3:40 pm

Hi Tiff,
Why or how do we ever forget????? We can only be us - and a great us it is!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 28th May 2014 3:43 pm

Hi NikosVg,
It's time for a few sparks from us all!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sparky sounds good - and makes me laugh.
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Deeni 29th May 2014 7:51 am

Thank You, Brenda.

I had a pang of regret overwhelm me yesterday, and tears blurred my eyes, and the first thing I told myself was that I 'should' be feeling joy, because I had set that as an intent, so WHY was I feeling like this?!

Your message was most helpful, and welcome.

Thanks again.

Much Love and Light to All. : )

Brenda Hoffman 29th May 2014 3:18 pm

Hi Deeni,
YAY for being you!!! Not something always easy given that the first part of this life was in 3D. But we're doing it relearning and changing perceptions of who we really are. YAY for us all.
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,


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Brenda Hoffman

An intuitive since birth, Brenda formalized her channeling skills with her internationally noted book, A Glimpse of Your Future. This prophetic classic describes your role in this transition, as well as answers questions such as why baby boomers were instrumental in introducing the New Age and what earth will be like in the year 4000.

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