This is indeed a convoluted day. What is does not seem correct; and what is not seems as if it should be. Do not despair. Once again you are in a shift – a bit like “Alice in Wonderland” falling down the rabbit hole. This week is a mirage. It is designed to ground you and allow you to once again decide the correct path. For those of you experiencing discomfort, we add a thought that will not necessarily make you happy, but will help you understand.
Many of you reading “Brenda’s Blogs” are in a relatively calm state of being. You moved through your greatest fears months or even years ago. Indeed, you are the scout masters and wagon train leaders of this New Age movement.
Yet, so many people you love are experiencing pain and fear. The teacher that you are wishes to help your wagon train members easily move through the difficult pieces they are experiencing. You feel uncomfortable living the ‘good life’ as those around you seem to be falling apart.
Do you need to feel guilty? Not in the least. Those of you having an uncomfortable day or week – even though you have, on the whole, breezed through the multiple shifts in the last few months – have returned to your Old Age care-taking mode.
Of course, you do not wish to learn this on two levels:
- In the past, you worked diligently, and alone we might add, to clear your major issues. Yet, today you feel as if you are at step one in the clearing process. You are stressed, weary and fearful. Does this pain ever end?
- Secondly, you thought you cleared your caretaker needs months ago. Yet, you feel as if you are revisiting the issues you so carefully explored in the past.
You are correct on both levels. You no longer need to address caretaker issues. What kind of scout master would you be if you returned to your wagon train with comments like, “It is really scary out there. Would someone please hold my hand as I move through the next mountain pass?”
And what type of role model would you be if you believed you had the strength to move through issues without assistance, but others did not? Is that not similar to the thoughts of missionaries and social service personnel in past generations? The “I am strong, but you are weak so I need to take care of you” thought process that created the victim/power schism that you are moving away from.
Some of you are thinking that your latest trauma is impacting you as much as it is anyone else – that you are the center of the storm and not the observer. Perhaps you are, but that is only so because you have placed yourself in the center of the storm for a reason. Most likely, that reason has more to do with care taking than a need to revisit the pain and trauma you have already moved through.
Allow yourself to breathe. Take a deep breath. Remember how much you have already moved through. And then remember why you needed to move through those issues before others. You are a scout master. You are a wagon train leader.
Address your current issues of concern with your new skills. Ask yourself why you needed to re-address fear. If your answer is that you have not yet moved through a particular issue, remember how many traumatic issues you have already moved through without assistance. You are strong and capable.
Again, you are strong and capable. But then, so is everyone else. No one needs a shoulder to cry on anymore. They require the image of you having moved through your traumatic issues – with resulting overall joy and peace. It does others little good to see you falling apart. Nor does it do you any good to do so.
You have the skills, as you have displayed so brilliantly in the past, to move through these most recent and relatively simple tasks, we might add, without much thought or concern. Tap into the New Age you. Stop depending on your Old Age skills to move you through New Age issues. Most importantly, stop care taking others. They are as strong and capable as you.
How do you move through your current issues? How indeed? Open your tool box and find the correct tool for you. Unlike the Old Age, there is not a ‘one size fits all’ solution to each dilemma. We cannot tell you what to do. You already know – you have passed through the ‘eye of the storm.’ You are more skilled than we are in this arena.
Just as we cannot tell you how to move through this week’s trauma, you cannot tell someone else how to do so. Do you not remember how you poured through numerous resources including written materials, counselors, friends and support groups to find your way out of your pain a few years ago? Do you not remember how you grabbed a piece from this source; and this and that from another to create a healing that was truly your own?
Allow others that same healing freedom. No one can heal your loved one’s pain for them – anymore than you can make someone stop abusing drugs or alcohol.
At the same time, remember that your self-healing skills are much stronger than they were when you moved through your most deeply entrenched fears. In comparison, what you are experiencing today or this week is minimal. Allow yourself to know that. Then allow yourself to feel the joy you wish to feel; and allow others to find their own healing solutions.
You are not helping others by returning to or remaining in pain, you are merely postponing the inevitable joy of the New Age. Breathe in that joy. Open your new tool kit of healing resources and allow others to do the same. This is not the Age of pain and fear. This is the Age of joy. And as a scout master or wagon train leader, it is your role to explore and experience that joy fully.
It helps no one, including yourself, to return to Old Age feelings. Your role in this New Age transition is to explore your new tool kit and to display your new skills in joy and pleasure. No more and no less.
So be it. Amen
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