Who are You?

Dear Ones,

The next few days may seem as if you are turned inside out. Not in terms of trauma or pain, but that you are thinking and functioning differently.

Perhaps you anticipated a painful encounter with others only to discover that a veil of sorts has lifted and you no longer fear them or hold a grudge – that you are emotionally in a different place.

Or something that might have triggered a physical reaction such as hay fever no longer affects you the same. Maybe you once needed large doses of allergy medications to counteract pollen. Now you find yourself allergy-free or affected to a lesser degree.

Who are you now? Who indeed?

Are you a new being with new insights and reactions or merely an updated Old Age being? You are both and neither. For the more of your totality you allow within your being, the more unique you become. At the same time, your Old Age persona is not lost – merely augmented by more insights and cellular structures.

Are you the you of yesterday? Yes. Are you the New Age you? Yes. For you added dimensions, actions and beliefs.

Perhaps you fear you will lose the Old Age you, that you will negate friends and relatives who you love dearly. That becoming a true New Age person means you must give up everything – including you.

Such is not the case. Think in terms of computers. Computers add much to your life – yet you remain you with the added ability to better understand and create what you want. So too is it true for the New Age you.

You are not “killing” the Old Age you, merely adding features that help you live in your 3D world – and most certainly help you avoid the veils preventing you from moving to and through other dimensions. You opened another book of knowledge that may change your actions and interactions – but does not need to. Let us explain.

When you graduated from high school, you vowed to remain friends with high school buddies. Only to find that your new life was not that important to them, nor were their new lives that important to you. Even though you think of them with fondness and interact at reunions and community gatherings, they are not the first people you contact in an emergency or joy.

So it is with your New Age life. Perhaps you will  interact with a circle of friends you have known for decades – perhaps not. You will interact with those who help you feel the best possible.

Of course, no one can make you feel better – that is your responsibility. At the same time, there are those who encourage you to bubble with joy, who can play with you without you needing to sift their actions through your emotionally being, who love you for who you are – not who they want you to be.

Then there are those who expect you to fit within a box of their making. “You should do and say this or I will not be happy.” Those are the beings – whether friends, co-workers or relatives – you will opt not to interact with for much, if not all, of the remainder of your life in this lifetime. You know who they are and what they expect. You have changed, but they have not.

Those people shifting into their New Age beings are those with whom you will feel most comfortable.

Does that mean that you will only interact with those verbalizing New Age thought? Not at all.

As is true for those who label themselves Christian or another religion whose actions have little to do with love, some who spout New Age beliefs will feel light, joyous and loving. Others will feel little different from those you interacted with and tried to please in the Old Age.

Labels mean little. It is the feeling that emanates from their being that will be your compass of rightness.

The energies of the past few days helped you discard those outer-directed notions of who you should be and who you should interact with. Replaced with a knowingness that cannot be described in the words we have available.

Your physical being will also have less need to direct your attention to healing whatever aspect you have denied yourself in the past – emotional and/or spiritual – as you move into your inner honesty.

You have transitioned into a completeness – spiritually, emotionally and physically – that will alter your Old Age patterns dramatically, but not negate your Old Age persona. You are greater than – not lessor than as some of you expected when you began shifting your inner-being.

You may wonder if letting go of others is emotionally painful. The more you shift the less you will need to interact with those who wish you to remain as you were before your transition began. But then of course, such is no longer possible.

All that is required of anyone who wishes to connect with you is to accept you with all your marvelous new facets.

Why then, can you not in turn accept them with whatever facets they wish to display? So you will.

It is merely that if they limit their facets to 3D beings of the Old Age, you will have little in common. But if they decide to upgrade their being to whatever dimension beyond the 3rd, they feel most comfortable, you will have more to share – just as is true for those you so dearly loved in high school, but have little in common with now. So be it. Amen


Brenda Hoffman 27th May 2013 8:25 am

Dear Elyon,
I'm in hay fever country now - at least it used to be hay fever country for me - and like you, minimal issues. I haven't needed to take any off the shelf drugs even though I've been sleeping with the window open. YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Blessings, Hugs and Sparkles,

LauriLumby 27th May 2013 10:47 am

Who am I indeed? For the past 20 years, the Universe has been trying to let me know the answer to this question. And in the past week, it arrived! I am PRIEST....a priesthood of my own making, beyond denomination, beyond belief, free from the constrictions of institution. Called to teach, preach, heal, to be a vessel of Divine love in the world and to accompany others in their journey toward birthing their own soul. I say yes to this as it has now been made known clearly and in a way that resonates with my heart. The best thing about this call is that it is accomplished in every moment of every day in everything that I do! Amen Amen Amen Blessed be!

Lauri Lumby

betsy. 27th May 2013 8:41 pm

Thank you so much for this wonderful message, Brenda.

"Labels mean little. It is the feeling that emanates from their being that will be your compass of rightness." I agree! LOL. I think sometimes I just 'know' members of my family that I may have not even met yet in physical form. :)

I also liked the part about me being responsible for my own happiness and agree with that as well. (Unfortunately, I'm not brilliant enough to figure out how to paste more than one thing yet). LOL.

I think it becomes a lot easier to love and accept others as they are when we can first do the same concerning ourselves, which is no easy task sometimes.

Thanks again, Brenda! Much love to you!!! :smitten:

Brenda Hoffman 27th May 2013 11:12 pm

Dear Lauri,
YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Kudos for finding you - and moving ever forward until you did!
Blessings, Hugs and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 27th May 2013 11:22 pm

Dear Betsy,
I so agree. I think learning to love ourselves is the most difficult part of this transition.

And labels have created so many difficulties for many eons. It's time to see and feel beyond labels!

Your cutting and pasting comment made me laugh. I love the connections possible with internet, but I'm a computer novice. I didn't even know internet cut and paste existed until a couple of years ago!

Blessings, Hugs and Love,

kay 29th May 2013 10:37 pm

This article was posted a few days ago, so it's a little late to be popping in, but I wanted to say thank you, Brenda, for again helping to put things into perspective. Thank you, Betsy. It's nice experiencing your energy in these comments. Thank you, Emma, for your sharing on the last post. What a wonderful visitation. Really beautiful. Thank you all. If you don't get the thank-you's in print, you get them in energy.

Brenda Hoffman 30th May 2013 9:46 am

Dear Kay,
Thank you for being such a loving part of the Lightworker community!
Blessings, Hugs and Love,

Emma852013 31st May 2013 3:54 am

Thank you again Brenda for your beautiful words that carry a lot of meaning. It is so true that I have let go of friends who I didnt feel comfortable around (I ve had a lot of jealousy projected and with it aggressive remarks and looks) so I have let them go, fortunatley my mother is seeing the light in the end of the tunnel and has changed from a harsh state of mind into a more calm and loving one and it truly is a gift to finally see this change in her she so well deserves.
I am now looking for guidance regarding my 7 year long relationship with my boyfriend. We've lived together for about 5 years but he is still very much stuck in the past. Im talking to him about this but I know I cannot do the change for him. I told him how much I miss the feeling of being loved, I love myself, yet I am experiencing less and less love from him, It's partly due to his career but mostly due to his heart being closed most of the time (and he admits that). This (Im realizing) has caused me years of suffering and feeling unloved which has spread throughout other aspects in my life. I love him but

Emma852013 31st May 2013 4:00 am

I am tired from giving him so much love throughout the years and well not receiving that much. Still he says he loves me and at the time is providing for me since I am studying. Yet it is his career that is his priority and Ive told him that I cannot live the rest of my life with him if I cannot feel is love. It's almost like a terrible mind game during the last 7 years when he says he loves me but then his hugs are cold or closed. I've thought that Im the one who is blocked but now during this change I feel so much love, but not from him. Sometimes, of course he opens his heart and I can feel the love. Yet it feels that it comes with such a high price: despair, trying to be tolerant, patient until I finally explode and feel such an intense anger, almost as if a part of me hated him and this is NOT in alignment with my highest good...I would thank you or anyone else from the bottom of my heart for some advice on what to do...

betsy. 31st May 2013 7:17 pm

Emma, I hesitate to give anyone advice because I think advice best comes from those who have life figured out & I don't! LOL. I struggle everyday; but, I also have moments of joy, peace & love that feel so very good. I try to follow my heart. I think our hearts are the wisest parts of ourselves (Pleaidians, 5D, etc.). Personally speaking, when I didn't receive the level of intimacy I desired in my marriage, I chose to end it. He made it clear he didn't wish to work. I have daughters watching me, so I want them to be w/someone who loves them because that's what they deserve. We all do. Altho the divorce was hard on my daughters at first, they have each been in relationships since then that they have been strong enough to end when they felt unloved. I live alone, but I awaken each day knowing I'm loved & cherished. If I ever choose to remarry, I won't settle for anything less than awaking every morning knowing that person loves & cherishes me as well. Of course, I plan to also shower them with love & be certain they understand I think they hung the moon daily. :) I firmly believe...

betsy. 31st May 2013 7:30 pm

...this is the love God intends for each of us. I am a romantic, yes, LOL, but I also believe it to be a reality. I think there is a love so magical for each of us that we give & receive & give & receive in a beautiful dance of marriage & unity. Maybe that's just with ourselves - as it is for me now. It seems it begins there; but, I do believe all things are possible.
Only you can decide what is best for you, Emma. You can listen to myself & others offer advice, but the answer is within you if you listen. All I can do is share my experience with you & as others share as well you make a decision that you feel resonates from within your being. These decisions are never easy. We were never told it would be. We were told we were loved, though. :)
Much love to you on your journey, Emma.

Emma852013 1st June 2013 5:10 am

Dear Betsy, thank you so much for sharing your experience. I send the most loving energy to you <3 Yes it is true that I must listen to my heart. I will give him one last chance since I love him so deeply. I share the idea of loving being equal (to give and receive equally). It's so true that we were told we were loved, I am being told this over and over again now from my family and I am grateful. I hope you find the joyous love you deserve and you are a great inspiration to me for having ended a relationship that didn't give you that. I am taking a deep breath whatever will come I will continue breathing listen to my heart and trust all the good life has in store for all of us. It truly beings within.
Thank you again, with much love


Brenda Hoffman 1st June 2013 10:21 am

Dear Emma and Betsy,
What loving souls you are.

Thank you Betsy for sharing your experience.

Emma it may be right for you to end this relationship...or not. As Betsy so elegantly stated, only your inner-being knows. Sometimes there's a need to remain in a relationship even though it doesn't feel right and at others you just know it's time to leave.

I tried mending, shifting, enhancing my relationship with my ex - he was a good man just not right for me. After seven years, I just woke up one day and KNEW I had to leave. Not an easy decision - no one in my family was divorced and I was still following social dictates. Twenty plus years later I rejoice in that decision.

Such a dramatic move is not right for everyone. Listen to yourself. This might be a rough patch in your relationship...or the end of what you want to explore with him. Only you know for sure.

Whatever your decision - it might feel murky at first but you'll know it's right by the joy in your heart - within a few hours of your decision.
Blessings and Hugs,

betsy. 1st June 2013 7:29 pm

Dear Emma, You are so very welcome! I'm glad you were able to make sense of anything I said. :2funny I'm glad you are choosing to take things slow and follow your heart & your own inner guidance. May you be abundantly blessed on your path! Much love to you!!! :smitten:

kay 2nd June 2013 12:45 pm

Thank you, Emma, Betsy, Brenda. What a beautiful exchange that was. Such open-hearted sharing lifts us all up.

mrmathew1963 2nd June 2013 5:45 pm

G'day Brenda

This is one of the better posts I have read on SL only because I resonate with it of course.

Recently I've been writing up about the souls core which is from when our souls were first created as they are pure at this stage before living out lives & accumulating attachments. The souls themselves created time & space & time & space has everything to do with change as nothing ever stays the same in these realties of time & space I believe.

I wasn't for change as I was appreciating what we have now but now I understand realities of time & space are all about change.

Accepting who we are right now will help us move on but non-acceptance will only cause more pain than what is necessary as it denotes conflicts & we don't need more of that because we are past that even if we don't realise it I believe.


PS I'm going to insert a link to this post of yours on a post I am currently writing up on my blog.

Brenda Hoffman 2nd June 2013 10:28 pm

Dear Kay,
Thank us all as our giant community makes this transition!
Blessings, Hugs and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 2nd June 2013 10:34 pm

G'day Back at Ya Mathew!
I so agree with you. Isn't it fascinating, sad and yet so telling, that accepting ourselves can be one of the most, if not the most, difficult part of this transition?

Thank you for re-posting my blog.

You probably already know that sharing my channels is one of my great joys.
Blessings, Hugs and Love,

mrmathew1963 4th June 2013 12:44 am

G'day Brenda

It must be so difficult for those not wanting to accept who they are truly as it's hard enough for me & people like me who are aware of this.

I find it really hard to let go of my past lives & this life's attachments & I'm not a very sentimental person, how are more sentimental people going to cope? I feel it will happen without them knowing I feel, thinking in one mode of thought one moment & then the next thinking quite differently.

I don't look at attachments as negative at all actually they are very creative even when they seem so destructive as destruction only means a rebirth which helps us to evolve further however this way of evolving is out date I feel now because we have come to another conscious shift that doesn't need such things for us to evolve further.

It's really funny finding out we have all done this before, evolving the way we have throughput human history & now we have made it to the next stage, impressive stuff indeed, I actually admire my fellow man.


Brenda Hoffman 5th June 2013 10:05 am

G'day Mathew,
I so admire us all also. We've done so much in so little time. And I so agree about negative or positive attachments - growth experiences all.

I am one of those sentimental people - or at least was. Amazingly, I found that the Universes, energy bursts or whatever did change my perspective. I'm able to "back away" and "just about" totally accept that others are as powerful as I am.

I think that and learning to love myself were my two major issues in the past few months. Somehow, even as a child, I thought I needed to care for others BEFORE me - that I could always make do or straighten out a difficulty, while others couldn't. Pretty arrogant if you think about it. I still feel at times as if I'm a caretaker working in a caretaker bar/saloon but much better at allowing others to find their strength.

I find this transition absolutely amazing and that somehow it touches everyone as necessary for their growth. What an amazing time.
Blessings, Love and Hugs,


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Brenda Hoffman

An intuitive since birth, Brenda formalized her channeling skills with her internationally noted book, A Glimpse of Your Future. This prophetic classic describes your role in this transition, as well as answers questions such as why baby boomers were instrumental in introducing the New Age and what earth will be like in the year 4000.

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