Why You Can’t Connect With Some

Dear Ones,

Perhaps there are family or community members you cannot understand because their actions and thoughts seem so different from yours. As a child, you may have even dreamt of your ‘real’ family rescuing you from this foreign home.

Even though you cannot remember your pre-entrance to earth, many of you lined up for the opportunity to be part of this transition despite the lack of interest of your previous spiritual family members.

You merely remember how uncomfortable you felt for much of your childhood as you tried to interact with the strangers who were your family or community members.

You might also have selected families you interacted with in past lives to complete specific karmic pieces in this lifetime. Even though you do not particularly like interacting with them, there is a bond of sorts with those people with whom you have had previous lives on earth. Those individuals are not the topic of today’s discussion.

We are speaking of those you cannot understand or relate to no matter how diligently you send them love and compassion. Perhaps they are family members with whom you feel absolutely no attachment. You cannot understand how they think, nor do you particularly wish to. It is not that you dislike them – there is just no connection.

You may have learned that you interact with the same people in lifetime after lifetime. Such is usually the case – except for now. There were limited slots available for an earth life during this initial transition phase. Those of you who were part of many earth beginnings – including the first humans and each major transition since – have found one another through your families or communities.

You relate to each other in so many ways – even though not all are positive interactions. But you feel some sort of heart attachment when you look within your being to solve the dilemma of how best to interact with them. You do not need to protect your heart – merely to open it and allow those who do not match your current frequency to live their lives without interference from you. Even though there is a heart connection, you have little interest in an ongoing physical connection.

We are discussing those with whom you feel no heart connection. Perhaps they are your parents, siblings, children, co-workers or a similar relationship. The connection is a void. You have no feelings for them and are not interested in understanding them. As if they are from a different place or world. So they are.

Even though all will eventually discover their light path, some of those you now interact with are not interested in doing so in the immediate future.

We wish to reiterate that there is a difference between those you have interacted with in past lives and those who are new to your circle.

Those you have interacted with in past lives – on earth or other venues – feel important to you physically, spiritually or emotionally. Those whom you have not interacted with previously do not produce the same feelings. You interact with them physically – but you have no ties to them beyond necessary 3D interactions. They feel like strangers.

Again, perhaps your childhood dreams included finding your ‘real’ family – an indicator that you did not have close ties to your family in this lifetime. Maybe you knew them briefly in previous lifetimes – but certainly not in a way that unites entities into families during non-transition times.

Why have we not relayed this information before? You did not have the emotional skills to interact with foreign bodies within your world.

You have been clearing for some time. As you did so you explored past lives, family dynamics, community interactions and many other pieces. But you have not yet learned how to interact with those who are not part of your heart. The next few days will provide the information to do so.

Some of those you have not experienced a life with on earth or other parts of the Universes you have managed to connect with in a heartfelt way. Maybe not as you would necessarily like in the physical world, but you have forged a connection.

We are speaking of those who feel uncomfortable and yet you cannot erase them from your being for there is nothing to erase. It is as if they are ghosts – not solid enough to eradicate from your life.

The next few days will provide you with tools to remove those who feel like a heavy burden with little or no information to help you on your way.

Let us explain. Sometimes those you have no feelings for latch on to you because you are a beacon of light and they are frightened. Those entities are most likely new to earth. They wished to be part of the excitement of this transition and volunteered to do so.

Some slots were filled by new earth entities who cannot feel or think as those of you who have lived numerous earth lives.

They are new earth souls – whether or not they are new souls in all parts of the Universes. Like Dr. Spock of the television show Star Trek, they might not even wish to feel as you do. They seem cold and calculating – playing with their new mental capacities and not interested in or familiar with feelings. Or so filled with feelings that you find them oppressive.

These new earth souls might have such an extreme imbalance that you do not wish to have them in your heart. That is the group you will address in the next few days.

Will you wish to help them learn the ways of earth? That is your decision. But most likely you will not for they are earth infants compared to your adult. You are flying beyond them – exploring new dimensions and activities – and they wish to explore earth.

We have told you that some will never move beyond 3D in this lifetime. And so it is that these wonderfully loving souls have volunteered to fulfill that role along with others who have issues they wish to clear in this lifetime. The rest of beings on earth are Lightworkers.

Everyone is an important part of this transition – including those to whom you cannot relate. They are not bad people – merely new earth entities having a glorious time wading through the physical, emotional and spiritual 3D elements you moved through months or even years ago.

Think of them as immigrants who are enhancing the dynamics of earth, who will eventually transition into dimensions beyond 3D with fresh insights, thoughts and actions that you will experience with great joy in future lifetimes.

Allow them to be the infants of earth – no matter what their age. Knowing there is no need for you to spend time caring for them – unless you wish to in a heartfelt way. They are thoroughly enjoying their learning phases on earth – just as you are the dimensions beyond 3D. They are introducing new ‘blood’ to earth – and are as an important part of this transition as you.

There is no need to take care of them. Merely observe them, if you wish, knowing you are growing in different dimensional directions, while they are playing with great joy in 3D muck – only to blossom into Lightworkers at a later time. So be it. Amen.


vipergirl2001 17th April 2013 8:39 am

This SUPER resonated with me, thank you so much for writing this article. There are a handful of people in my life or close to dear friends of mine that I simply feel nothing for. I do not wish negativity upon them or hate them, I simply want nothing to do with them. As it turns,out, your analogy of them being infants to my adult is spot on. I couldn't ever really pinpoint the way I looked at them, and some accused me of being judgmental, but that's what they are to me.....infants. Thank you so much for shedding some light on this!!

COBALT 17th April 2013 9:28 am

" But you feel some sort of heart attachment when you look within your being to solve the dilemma of how best to interact with them." :2funny
Yup, that's me!

COBALT 17th April 2013 9:28 am

" But you feel some sort of heart attachment when you look within your being to solve the dilemma of how best to interact with them." :2funny
Yup, that's me!

Brenda Hoffman 17th April 2013 12:07 pm

Dear Vipergirl,
There is a fine line between judgement and neutral feelings or not feeling the need to interact, isn't there? I've found the same in several instances and I couldn't figure out why I wasn't interested in learning more about them. This transition is definitely a process!
Blessings and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 17th April 2013 12:08 pm

Hi Cobalt,
That's great that everyone you've interacted with to date you've found some sort of heart attachment. Go Cobalt!
Blessings and Sparkles,

happyodg 17th April 2013 2:48 pm

This was posted for me at just the perfect moment. i have been struggling with my relationship to my blood family for years. As I have gotten more and more sure of myself, I have felt them to be more and more foreign. At 52 I am finally accepting love for myself and who I am. I had some legal 'family' matters that were sent to me yesterday that upset me very much, and was up most of the night getting more and more upset.After years I am still struggling to figure out if I need to be in a relationship with my 84 year old dad and older brothers at all. Aren't I supposed to says the world?! Do I want to just break free??? I feel guilt for even thinking that I could stop all communication. (I moved 2000 miles away 4 years ago so only talk a few times a year with brothers, and see Dad once a year...which has become torture. we have NOTHING to talk about! We talk on the phone about the weather.)
I love reading that i do not have to stay in this relationship with them, but my heart still wants to. Will faith and trust allow me to let go and just search for my soul family? Blessings!

Pablovic 17th April 2013 3:08 pm


Brenda Hoffman 17th April 2013 4:04 pm

Isn't it amazing when you observe yourself shifting, changing and growing? I've had relationships that I didn't understand until I ended them also.

Kudos for having the courage to step back and observe yourself - despite ending a relationships you thought was 'the one' at first.
Blessings, Hugs, BRAVO and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 17th April 2013 4:16 pm

Dear Happydog (love your name!),
Maybe you don't have to let go. Ask your inner-being for help in determining if you want to stop all communications, reduce the amount of communications or just understand they are and probably always have been at a very different place than you.

Do you have to be in a relationship with anyone because of society rules? NO. But it sounds as if they are in your heart so you might want to navigate around the pain of interactions with them.

At one point, I was at a similar place & I created a family of friends. That freedom helped me interact with my parents of origin - on my terms. Yes, I ended up loving them a great deal once I moved through anger, etc. Maybe the same will be true for you. Allow yourself to move as you feel is right.

There is no right answer with relationships - only those you determine for yourself. And know that you might want no contact today, but a bit tomorrow. That's also just fine. Allow yourself to meander through the minefield that's your family!
Blessings, Hugs and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 17th April 2013 4:17 pm

Dear Pablovic,
Thank you! Sharing my channels with others is one of my great joys.
Blessings and Sparkles,

Sandra Smyre 17th April 2013 4:42 pm

Another exciting morning seeing your article--I so look forward to hearing what you say. My son and grandchildren fall into the category of "strangers"--they don't know me and I don't know them. My feelings are becoming so okay, just don't have the need to question self any more. Having that confirmed by you is such validation--not that I need validation, but it sure does make life easier. Thank you my dear Brenda. In LoveLight, Sandra :angel:

Brenda Hoffman 17th April 2013 5:07 pm

Dear Sandra,
Of course we don't NEED validation but when the subject is as filled with societal dictates and nuances as family or religion, it certainly helps!

We really are all in this together and the internet helps us move beyond the Old Age into new thoughts and actions. We're not alone....and we're not terrible or odd. We're just us blossoming into our new beings.
Blessings, Hugs and Sparkles,

happyodg 17th April 2013 6:36 pm

thank you Brenda!
Hugs and abundant sparkles to you too :D

Conni99 18th April 2013 8:57 am

I really resonated with this! I have 2 daughters ages 28 and 24. I can't seem to talk to them anymore, they get upset with everything I say and do, and I can't talk to them right now. I don't want to talk to them. For a while, I thought, if I never saw them again, I would be fine. Then, I felt awful guilt for even THINKING that. I love my daughters, yet I feel such a disconnect now. Same thing with my sister. I feel like she is just a woman I send emails to every once in a while. She hasn't wanted to see me in years, she always has some excuse not to see me. She lives in Southern California, and I live in Northern California, so it's not that hard to see each other. I don't hurt anymore over it.

kaykay 21st April 2013 4:19 am


Thank you for this timely message!!! I have felt this all my life "why you can't connect with some". And you explained it perfectly!

Thank you Brenda, much appreciated as always :angel:

Brenda Hoffman 21st April 2013 11:45 am

Dear Conni,
I am so sorry. This transition brings up so many issues. Obviously you've had the courage to look beyond what the media and society tells us how families should interact, but since I've been through similar issues, I know your process has been painful. Kudos for moving beyond the pain to see your growth. And kudos for the courage to do so.
Blessings, Hugs, Love and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 21st April 2013 11:48 am

Dear KayKay,
YEAH!!! for us all! This transition is shifting so much within us - most obviously now - those societal beliefs that made us feel bad or wrong.
Blessings, Hugs and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 21st April 2013 11:50 am

Dear Happydog,
Thank you!

JackGrabon 23rd April 2013 3:04 pm

Interesting post, Brenda. Really thought provoking.

I wonder though, have we only had limited connection with the people that we don't feel close to throughout our lifetimes?

First-timers or newcomers to this planet may be coming from other planets or systems (and be even further along the evolutionary scale than we are), or might seem so animal-like (because they still have close connection to that level of evolution) that there might actually be a repulsion instead of the void that you describe. I would think that such a person would be chaotic, violent, instinctual or solely emotionally driven at best.

Would love to hear your perspective...

Brenda Hoffman 24th April 2013 9:45 am

Dear Jack,
Perhaps there are some entities on earth that are as chaotic as you describe. I would tend to think that such entities would no longer be attracted to a planet moving into the light - such a frequency discrepancy would be extremely difficult, even painful for them. And if there are some such entities on earth, we Lightworkers probably won't have much to do with them as their frequencies would be so different - and painful for us.

As for beings that might be further along the evolutionary scale, I would tend to think that you're correct. How exciting it would be for them to show us the Light of the new earth - but then, maybe all Lightworkers are of this group.
Blessings and Sparkles,

betsy. 19th May 2013 7:28 pm

"As a child, you may have even dreamt of your ‘real’ family rescuing you from this foreign home." Yep yep! Still hoping they'll come to my door soon. LOL. Thank you so much, Brenda, for this message! Much love to you! :)


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An intuitive since birth, Brenda formalized her channeling skills with her internationally noted book, A Glimpse of Your Future. This prophetic classic describes your role in this transition, as well as answers questions such as why baby boomers were instrumental in introducing the New Age and what earth will be like in the year 4000.

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