Why it's Good to Be a Queen

I love my life. Most days. There are some days when I cringe at the thought of having to leave the comfort of my cozy bed.

But those days are becoming few and far between. One reason is because I’ve started treating myself like a benevolent Queen. After watching a scene from the movie Snow White and the Huntsman, where a benevolent Queen rallies the people of the land to help her fight the dark Queen, I was taken with a royal idea:

How would life improve if I thought of myself as a benevolent Queen? So I’ve started doing it. Throughout the day, when faced with a decision or option, I ask myself: What would a benevolent Queen do?

It’s been a fun exercise, albeit a bit uncomfortable at first. It felt a bit entitled to think of myself as a benevolent Queen. But I got over that.  Quickly. The truth is…

I am a Queen.
My life is my Queendom.
I’m in charge of what happens in this land.

I’m a benevolent leader.  I care deeply about people. But not at the expense of myself. Or else I become a dictator. And nobody likes a dictator.  (Just ask my husband)

So, as I’ve been adopting the role of benevolent Queen, I’ve started updating the laws of the land. Feel free to adopt a few yourself…

  • The health of the Queen is the first priority.  Daily actions that ensure the care of her body, mind, and spirit are the first to be carved into the daily calendar. 
  • The Queen need not defend the choices that honor her health and wellbeing. She rules. 
  • The Queen is entitled to regular breaks from decision-making to avoid mental and emotional fatigue. Therefore she will abstain from email, texts, and telephone when necessary and will also share the wealth by employing others to communicate on her behalf. 
  • The Queen must always be a power of example by being the example. 
  • The Queen openly and graciously welcomes visitors who are kind, respectful, self-aware, and a pleasure to be around. (If they are wickedly smart, creative, funny, and visionary in their thinking, she might even let them stay at the castle for a while). 
  • There is no mean-spiritedness allowed in the Queendom. None. 
  • The Queen must be actively engaged in the practice of relinquishing control lest she teeter on the edge of dictatorship.
  • Beauty is a necessity in the castle, never a luxury. 

These laws are only the beginning. God knows where I’ll go from here. I might start wearing robes or riding horses. Oh my… You are a Queen (or King), worthy of royal treatment. It starts with how you treat yourself. Isn’t it time to lay down a few new laws in your land?”

Take Action Challenge 

Benevolent Kings and Queens treat themselves and others with kindness and respect. Start by being nice to yourself. Check out this video here.  



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Cheryl Richardson

Cheryl Richardson is the New York Times bestselling author of several books including, Take Time for Your LifeLife MakeoversStand Up for Your LifeThe Unmistakable Touch of GraceThe Art of Extreme Self Care, You Can Create an Exceptional Life with Louise Hay, and her new book, Waking Up in Winter: In Search of What Really Matters at Midlife.

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