September 23 is always a special day for our family. It’s the anniversary of my mum’s passing, and my partner Christian’s birthday. People sometimes ask is it strange to have those two things on the same day. I always say no, it more feels like a poignant reminder of the cycle of life. People are being born every day, and people leave this Earth every day. Experiencing the death of someone close to you often makes you have a stronger connection to life and living, as you truly realise that your time here is not forever. So this annual honouring of a birth and a death is really a simultaneous honouring and celebration of life.
Quite fittingly, it co-incides with the Equinox when day and night are equal in length. I like this energetic influence, adding to the reminder that on this see-saw of life we can find a harmony and balance when we look at the value of all things rather than putting them in categories of ‘good’ and ‘bad’. The Equinox asks us to respect both sides of the see-saw: winter has a purpose, grief can be cleansing and transformational.
Equinox and all of Nature also teaches us that life keeps moving, all the time. Equinox only lasts 24 hours before the days start getting longer (or shorter depending on which hemisphere you’re in). We are shown that nothing lasts forever so appreciate what you have while you have it. We are also shown that no matter how bad things look or feel, ‘this too shall pass’. Spring always follows winter, and the sun always rises even after the darkest of nights.
Our mum had a big heart, and now in the non-physical I know she has even bigger wings, ready to help anyone who asks just as she did in life. One of her greatest wishes was to make her healings ‘bigger, bigger’, and so most years on this day I say to everyone who needs it: if you need a mum hug, or some healing vibes from someone who had a knack of never judging anyone, ask for Miki upstairs. She’s the one with all the jingly jewellery, giggling away.