Coping with Emotional Distance

As much of the world prepares to enter the holiday season of Earth time, there is often many emotional worries and concerns that arise. The holidays are a time to gather with family and celebrate. However, for many who are becoming increasingly sensitive, this time can be quite difficult.

For anyone who is working at shifting themselves into the 5D state, the challenges in relating to other individuals who are in a different place on their soul journey become more pronounced. Relationships that were once close can start to feel estranged. Also, you can feel others acting more distant toward you, potentially making you feel lonely and disconnected.

This is just some of what you can feel when you are encountering emotional distance. Thankfully this is temporary state that is only taking place now, because so many individuals are at different spaces within their process of soul evolution. If you are finding it challenging to relate to someone, then that is your signal, for the moment at least, they are in a different vibrational space than you.

There is absolute nothing wrong with the emotional distance that comes from dwelling in different vibrational frequencies. It is akin to living in two different cities, one is not better than the other, and in fact each dimensional space serves its exact purpose for those individuals who inhabit it. As mentioned in last month's message, this is a changing time, and with the help of the Photon Energy, many are able to release the old stagnant energy within them, and as such begin to reach the 5D state.

But, like any process of learning, it is important for each individual to go at his or her own pace. There are some who choose to go through this learning very quickly and others who take longer.  This is where is it important not to judge, but to observe. As you head into a time where you are more focused on coming together and seeing people whom you may not visit with regularly, you will find that the emotional dynamics in your life have changed greatly since your last encounter.

Do not get down on yourself, or be judgmental of others for where they are in their lives. Only God knows the Divine plan for everyone. Instead, learn to relate to others where and how they feel comfortable, as not everyone is exactly in the same space of understanding. However, do not fear if you feel that someone you love is in a different vibrational space. They are exactly where they need to be in this moment, and they have much time to choose the how, when and what, necessary to complete their personal shift.

The human brain is so adept at comparison, but comparison is not assisting in the understanding of this change the planet is going through. When you compare yourself to others, it comes from a place of better/worse. However, if you can simply observe, you will find that you are better able to reach others in the space where they are. If someone is more distant toward you then you are accustomed to, try to remember that the distance is not about you. They are not being purposely distant because they are judgmental of you, or do not wish to be around you, it is only that for this moment they are in a different space and cannot relate to you in the way they once did.

Over time that distance will diminish again, but for this holiday season and the next 3 years to come, this emotional distance can be the source of much personal anxiety and stress, especially if you are accustomed to being a people pleaser, or have a tendency seek out approval from others. However, recognizing that is just one of the gifts of learning that can be unwrapped.

If you find that you do become worried or concerned about the distance that is taking place in the now moment, then that is a clue for you to look at yourself and see where your need for approval, recognition, and attention comes from. Why are you not comfortable being at one with yourself? This is the grandest question that every individual can ask themselves, for the answer can take you very far on the path of your own healing.

Everyone around you is a mirror for your own learning; they are all there to teach you about yourself, just as you are here to teach those in your life. When you discover repetitive emotional dynamics in your life, time and time again, it is your signal to look closer, to discover the gift within that situation. For you are here in life to learn about yourself first; it is only through your own learning that you are truly able to teach others.

Be the observer; observe everyone around you and observe your own reactions. Your observations are the key to lessening the emotional distance, and will provide you with tools to cross any emotional distance that may present itself. No matter what, remember that the reactions of those around you are not about you, they are clues about each person and what they are presently working through in the evolution of their own soul.

Love, Aurora


COBALT 25th November 2013 1:35 pm

Thanks, Karen! I always enjoy reading your messages. :smitten:

Connie 51 25th November 2013 5:03 pm

Thank you Aurora and Karen. Very timely help for certain. I myself have been seeing this within my own family and friends. So many of them are stuck in loops of basically the same drama just a different day. I love them all so much. And as you say my sensitivities are opening up more everyday. I simply can not put myself in situations I did a year ago. It not worth losing my peace for. Most all of them understands. And don't push me. We get together in smaller groups whom are getting together because they truly wish to spend time together. Not to start shouting matches. Namaste

laughlight 27th November 2013 1:39 pm

bless the energy that brought me to read you/this ~
I benefit by the understanding I lacked, which is
that the distance I feel is from vibrational disparity.

I thank you deeply.
And continue on my way


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