No One Is Supposed To Take Their Own Life

Each and every suicide in the world diminishes you and me. No matter if you don't know the person, their family, or even if they live on the other side of the world from you -- their decision to end this life prematurely affects you. It silently shatters a part of you -- even if you are not conscious of it.

Each and every one of us has a unique role to play in this world -- no one else can play this part. No one is supposed to end their own life, when they do, it's as if a link in a chain is broken and it slows down the progress of humanity. We all need each other. When someone commits suicide it's as if everyone around the world shrinks a little.

We are shrinking a lot! The World Health Organization estimates that each year approximately one million people die from suicide 1. Based on these figures someone somewhere in the world, commits suicide every 40 seconds. The WHO predict that by 2020 the rate of death will increase to one every 20 seconds.

I have been seeing angels since I was a baby. I see them physically as I would see someone standing in front of me and I see them all the time. I see a guardian angel behind each and every person regardless of religion.

Most of the time I see the guardian angel three steps behind the person they are guarding, looking down on them and looking ahead as if helping to guide the person forward into their future. However when someone is thinking of ending their own life their guardian angel looks very different. It is no longer three steps behind but has moved forward and into the person. It's as if the person and his or her guardian angel have become intertwined.

When this happens the guardian angel is doing its best to try and kindle a light there; to show the person that there is some hope. The guardian angel, aided by other angels, family , friends and strangers, will do its best to stop this person committing suicide. They will try and bring the light of love into the pit of darkness that this person is experiencing. Sometimes I will see a different angel, other than a guardian angel, in front of the person holding a light. These angels are trying to encourage the person to have self confidence and self belief in themselves, to see the hope that is there for them.

Sometimes, even with all the help and love they are given by family and friends, by professionals and by the angels, the person may still feel unable to climb out of that darkness. The pain is just too much - they cannot help themselves and take their own lives.

No one is supposed to take their own life.

If however someone does commit suicide the angels have told me that they are wrapped in a blanket of God's love and are taken straight to Heaven.



netdragon 18th April 2012 10:08 pm

There is no "supposed".

Suicide is part of this reality. Those that do it are making a statement at the spiritual level.

watersprite 19th April 2012 6:39 am

It is not possible that it is not supposed to happen if it does. that is reality. Who are you to say it diminishes us - perhaps it grows us and them perfectly. Last i checked there was freedom in this world not rules and 'supposed tos'.

FutureNow 19th April 2012 6:59 am

netdragon and watersprite--thank you I knew the same that whatever happens IS and was meant to be, there is no supposed to be, anyway you both said it.

Ildi 19th April 2012 7:29 am

I also disagree with this message. Suicide is a choice, neither right or wrong, and it serves a purpose for all it touches. Nothing and no one is diminished by it, quite the opposite: it can shine light on issues society has to deal with, it can open eyes that were closed before.
"Not supposed to" is a judgement that is out of place in my understanding of spirituality.

KT 19th April 2012 8:48 am

I also agree suicide is part of the souls journey like abortion and miscarriage we need to let go of the religious "guilt" that we have been told this is good this is bad all is as it should be!!! The lesson is sometimes not for the soul that has prematurely taken it's life but for the others It's soul group who are left behind and what choices they make, what awareness they come to, and what and how this event changes them, it is not always what you see, there is a lot going on behind the veil that we are not aware of, and if Lorna sees the Angel of a soon to be departed soul actually in the person's physical body then that shows me that the persons awareness is no longer on the earth plane and they have already "checked out"

rachelsnyder 19th April 2012 10:27 am

With no disrespect intended to the author of this piece, I agree with the above Commenters. As soon as I glanced at the title of the message, I felt that the energy was steeped in old -- prehistoric, really! - notions of what is "right" and what is "wrong." Truly, I am a bit surprised (also a tad disappointed) to read such a duality-based perspective here at SL in 2012.

Spirit Library 19th April 2012 1:23 pm

"As soon as I glanced at the title of the message, I felt that the energy was steeped in old -- prehistoric, really! - notions of what is "right" and what is "wrong." Truly, I am a bit surprised (also a tad disappointed) to read such a duality-based perspective here at SL in 2012."

So, you are saying we are not "supposed" to share this message? That we are not "supposed" to think that life is precious just because it's 2012? What in 2012 are we supposed to allow? We thought that life was "supposed" to be lived, experienced and savored in every moment.

We encourage all of you not to get caught up in the meaning of a specific word and feel the message in its entirety. At no point in the message does it make any mention or insinuation of any judgement or punishment from God for those that carry it out, in fact the last paragraph states the opposite in the most loving words:

"If however someone does commit suicide the angels have told me that they are wrapped in a blanket of God's love and are taken straight to Heaven."

We feel that Spirit Library and lightworkers around the world are "supposed" to shine light for others and not tell them "go ahead, jump off, it's your free will...", even if it is.

zorro 19th April 2012 2:29 pm

"Suicide is man's way of telling God, "You can't fire me - I quit."

"Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem."

"I couldn't commit suicide if my life depended on it."

Ildi 19th April 2012 2:35 pm

We feel that Spirit Library and lightworkers around the world are "supposed" to shine light for others and not tell them "go ahead, jump off, it's your free will...", even if it is.

Accepting and respecting someone's decision to make a choice about their own life is a far cry from telling them to jump, Spirit Library. It is part of shining our light I believe, to support and accept, guide but not direct, even though our heart is aching for those who suffer. "Shining light" means - to me anyway - to be who we are, influence those around us by our peace, contentment, happiness, honesty, offer support and encouragement, offer alternatives, NOT to disapprove of others' choices and make "should"s and "should not"s. But then, that is my definition of a light worker. I live by it, and everyone else live by theirs. So it's all good.

Spirit Library 19th April 2012 4:25 pm

Are you telling that if you caught your loved one in the act of attempting suicide you would respect their choice and silently leave the room? If you would rush to stop them or call an ambulance would you be disrespectful?

We don't mention the case of when someone has committed suicide because whether you respect or not it's a fact and whatever you think or feel about it, it's done. However, you might be left in doubt of possibly not having heard their cry for help.

watersprite 19th April 2012 4:39 pm

Nicely said lldi

rachelsnyder 19th April 2012 5:06 pm

I was wholly aware that my comment had the potential to elicit a strong reaction. Hence, I chose my words carefully, stating my feelings as I experienced them and refraining from any suggestions as to what SL "is supposed to" or "not supposed to" do. This is obviously a highly charged subject put forth in highly charged times. Hopefully a broad spectrum of honest opinions and observations are equally welcomed and honored here.

Pablovic 19th April 2012 5:23 pm

I do agree with the message, thank you Lorna for sharing it.

I want to suggest the members to read the section in this web About Spiritlibrary to know the purpose of this page. The following is a part of it:

Spirit Library aims to be a way to inspire your thoughts to guide you to a more conscious creation of your life. We invite everyone to be open and use personal discernment with all the materials here offered and always take with you what resonates and leave the rest.

So, if the message do not resonate with you, is not necessary to start a discussion or feel ofended.

Peace and love for all

ps. Lorna, I loved your book Angels in my hair.

k 19th April 2012 6:24 pm

Wow, I have avoided reading this message until now. I am in awe and grateful that so many people think the way I do on this issue. The ego can make a choice, end this experience, move on to the next one. But, ending this one does not mean we will not have to face the same challenges in the next life, but it is nice to know we have an exit. I have found comfort many times in knowing I just do not have to go on in this physical life. We are not the body that dies, the body is just a vehicle. Our consciousness goes on, but in my reading I have come to understand that it is better to deal with the darkness while in a body than it is to be in a state that does not let us ground. Our consciousness goes on, in or out of a body, In dealing with our issues the physical world has advantages that should not be underestimated. The pain of the soul will be there, there is no escape but the physical actually helps us work through the pain. Suicide does not let us escape, it ends our vehicle that helps us deal with the pain, by giving up the vehicle, we are on foot.

watersprite 19th April 2012 7:03 pm

Sure it is not necessary to start a discussion, but people are free to - it 's not 'unspiritual ' to. Sometimes it is good/important to call something out/question /share thoughts.

zorro 19th April 2012 8:09 pm

“Anyone desperate enough for suicide...should be desperate enough to go to creative extremes to solve problems:
elope at midnight, stow away on the boat to New Zealand and start over,
do what they always wanted to do but were afraid to try.”
Richard Bach

mycavaliers 19th April 2012 9:36 pm

Very surprised to see this here....It doesn't feel very spiritual. It feels to me that it is coming from the ego. As a sensitive empath, it feels heavy and judgemental. Suicide is a personal choice and between the person and his or her soul. Who's to say...maybe it was arranged prior to birth in a contract with another soul as part of the experience the soul needed in order to grow....compassion, forgiveness, acceptance, etc.

Ildi 20th April 2012 1:48 am

"We don't mention the case of when someone has committed suicide because whether you respect or not it's a fact and whatever you think or feel about it, it's done."

But that's what the author talks about and what we commented on. She says suicide diminishes us all, and it slows down the progress of humanity. Tell that to a terminally ill person who's had enough and just wants to get it over with. Or the man who lit himself on fire to protest, and thus started the so called Arab Spring that changed the Middle East, so it will never be the same. Those acts hardly diminish anyone, rather they elicit compassion, and encourage change that is necessary for humanity's progress. One person's suicide touches a lot people, and often brings much needed change.
Not all suicides are the same. Would I stop a teen caught killing himself? Yes, and I would offer love, encouragement and alternative solutions. A cancer ridden loved one... that's a different story.
I believe all deaths have meaning, self caused or not, and they fit into the fabric of our existence like pieces of a puzzle.

rachelsnyder 20th April 2012 6:47 am

Beautifully said, lldi. Thank you.

KT 20th April 2012 1:20 pm

"Do not judge another person until you have walked a mile in their shoes"

attempting suicide is not an easy decision and I have come to that point twice in my life, I have chosen some very harsh challenges on my path of growth in this life time and every time I wanted out my guides were there, watching, they did not try to convince me to stay or go, they were present with their quiet loving supportive energy, at the end of the day we have FREE WILL and that is what it is all about, we can still learn and grow if we decide to go earlier than agreed we learn on the inner planes with our guides and the benevolent energies that have always guided us. Suicide is neither good nor bad it "just is"
I take exception to Lorna saying what the Angels tell her when they see a soon to be exitor, this is filtered like all channelling through her own personal/religious/cultural filter and should not be taken as the word of God/Goddess we must become our own Inner Guru and listen to our own Souls voice we are the new Masters and must start believing in our own innate powers of discernment.

k 20th April 2012 2:51 pm

lldi, thank you for being in my world. Not a world full of only what one wants to manifest, a new house, lover etc. but the world on the ground, where.....yes, there is suffering. From our point of view we can see the need for change, we can put our heart on the line, we cry,,,,knowing it does not do any good really, but it is just in our nature to do so. We can be angry, but it does not do any good, but still it is in this vulnerable condition that we have to express our pain in some way. Only those with a heart can know the pain. Others go after one manifestation after another, feeding the ego. But, at a point, one realizes that those things will not give any joy as long as everyone is not able to join the party.
Thanks for not sugar coating the reality that we both seem to share.

aMuse 23rd April 2012 8:05 am

Evidently the rate of suicide increasing is symptomatic that a great imbalance is in play. Perhaps the world's system has evolved to a point where essential components (souls) are being squeezed out of existence. That people don't have the inspiration and vision to carry forward their higher purpose is alarming. Light is fading. Perhaps some people are born to commit suicide so that the people around them can learn the hardest lesson about taking something for granted. Perhaps souls just change their mind about being here. Just because you're full of light, life, love and frivolity, doesn't mean the same holds for everyone. Yes, the increase of this occurrence is harmful to our collective consciousness, it creates hidden scars. But the Universe is adaptive enough to plug people in where there's a need and they're needed.


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Lorna Byrne has been seeing and talking to angels since she was a baby. With her family reared she decided to talk openly for the first time about what she has seen and learnt. This decision led to  her book Angels in my hair - first published in May 2008 - which has become an international bestseller. She lives quietly in rural Ireland.  

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