Why Teaching Your Child To Love Is So Important

Parents are having a tough time at the moment; many are finding themselves under financial pressure and are struggling to give their children the material things that others have. There is much more to life than material things and being a good parent doesn’t depend on giving your children everything they want. The most important thing you can do for your child is to love them, and teach them about love.

So many parents, and children, I meet don’t know how to love. In Switzerland last week, I stood outside a shop while Jean went in to buy something and I watched a father with a child of about six waiting to cross a busy road. They were surrounded by angels and the angels told me that this father had never been shown love himself and didn’t know how to show his son love. He was talking to his son in an authoritative way about how to behave when the lights changed. He didn’t seem to know how to take his son’s hand with love and simply guide him across the road. I said a prayer that the father would feel love in his life and would be able to show it to his son.

Children need to be shown love. Your gestures of love towards them and towards others influence your children deeply. Your job as a parent is to make your children conscious of love, its importance and its power. They need to have love stirred up within them. This isn’t your task for just when they are little children, it continues when they are teenagers and adults themselves.

 If our children, who are  our future,  do not learn about love they will be unable to show it to others and then we would face  a  future world that is  cold and heartless.  It is the ability to love that makes us human.  Love dwells in each and every one of us and it is the parent’s job to make sure that their children learn how to love.

God has entrusted those children to you and your job is to turn them into loving, caring , kind members of the community, who know right from wrong.  Mothers and fathers shape the future of the world, because they shape their children.. Above all you are called upon to teach your children about love. If your children do not learn to love they will lose the ability to feel and show love, which is one of the most precious gifts that God has given us.

Don’t presume your children, or other people in your life who you love, know that you love them.

Many people are afraid to declare their love in case it makes them vulnerable. Many children as they grow up are afraid to tell their parents they love them, because their parents have never told them that they loved them.

Seize the courage and say the words “I love you.” When you say “I love you” out loud and really mean it, it stirs up something deep within, that changes both you and the relationship forever.

I meet so many people who tell me that they had never told someone dear to them that they loved them and now it’s too late. Don’t have this regret, ask your guardian angel for strength and courage and say the words “I love you.” 

You can watch a beautiful video of Lorna talking about this message here.


KT 23rd January 2013 9:43 am

Dear Lorna,

While I agree with you love is important in life, your message comes across very judgemental, there are many reasons why that father behaved with his son like that and there are many reasons why the son was born to a father like that we as humans in this human experience do not know anothers life path and choices made prior to incarnation neither do we know the ancestral/inherited DNA that that particular soul has chosen to experience to grow and evolve so we should judge no-one and bless everyone.......

stelachggs 24th January 2013 12:46 am

"Charity begins at home"- the famous words. All love, care teachings should begin from the parents. But still over love and care can spoil child...

ElizabethRomo 24th January 2013 6:46 pm

That is a beautiful message and very true. Sharing our love with another is what life is all about. Healthy relationships are all about giving one's love to others.

Devalove 25th January 2013 3:24 am

I'm so happy that you are posting on here, Lorna! Whilst I'm yet to have children, I agree wholeheartedly with your message. What you have also said previously in your books, about parenting being the most important job in the world, is a special message, especially for my generation (under 30's) who often place too much emphasis on 'careers at all cost'. Some friends and I have decided to rewrite our lives to avoid this scenario of leaving children in care whilst we are climbing the career ladder. Whilst a common human experience, being a parent is still an incredibly sacred role.


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Lorna Byrne

Lorna Byrne has been seeing and talking to angels since she was a baby. With her family reared she decided to talk openly for the first time about what she has seen and learnt. This decision led to  her book Angels in my hair - first published in May 2008 - which has become an international bestseller. She lives quietly in rural Ireland.  

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