True gratitude is love. If love is dependent upon a gift or a particular act, then it isn't love. True love is true gratitude. When you are grateful that someone exists, then that is love. We are cutting to the chase.
Has it not been said, To find yourself you have to lose yourself. Certainly, you want to lose your ego. With less ego, you are still a Human Being doing human things, but the ego no longer holds you in its thrall. For all intents and purposes, you are done with attending to ego's whims. Ego no longer holds the importance it once did. You have stopped worshipping it.
When you light a candle, the light from your candle shines on all. Furthermore, because of you, others have the ability to light their candles from yours. The light you bring to the world is multiplied hand over fist. Your consciousness lights up the world. Consciousness lives!
I hear you cry out that life on Earth is unbelievable. That it is absurd. It is ridiculous. It is unexpected. It is rote. It stays the same. It never stays the same. It always surprises you unless you happen to be feeling ho-hum about life.