You who want freedom must also allow others their freedom. This means that you do not control others. Control is enforcing. It is not for you to impose your wishes upon another. You must allow others their choices whether they are what you want or not. It is not for you to say, for example, that the love of your life has to love you. You are not the determiner of anyone else’s life.
You do not really know the lay of the land, beloveds. You may have another’s best interest at heart, but not know what is in their best interest. And it is also possible that you have your best interest at heart, and, again, you do not always know what that is. I will tell you unequivocally that it is not to make another captive.
Hands off is good advice.
Moses said: Let my people go.
And I say this same to you.
The relative world is the train that Einstein observed. You are traveling on it, and you are the observer. You are the traveler, the observer, and the travel itself. And this, beloveds, is the least of you. It is not the most.
There are fields beyond where the train seemingly passes through.
You still have the idea that you are to be perfect in the eyes of the world. Since you have adopted the eyes of the world, you expect yourself to be perfect in every page of your life. In so doing, you impose upon yourself. You impose markers that you cannot fulfill, or cannot fulfill all the time, or cannot fulfill without great wear and tear. You don’t have to have A+’s all the time. You don’t have to have A’s or B’s or even C’s. Better no grades at all.
When you have to forge your way across a river and you get to the other side, you do not grade yourself. You do not say: “I could have done better. I could have done it faster. I could have done it more easily. I could have not gotten so wet. I could have crossed at a different spot…” You don’t give yourself a grade. You crossed the river. You succeeded. Too often when you rate yourself, you have been berating yourself and finding yourself wanting.
When your feelings have been hurt, and you feel you want to retaliate, remember that you are not here on Earth to be hurt nor to attack hurt. You are here to heal. You are meant to be a healing balm on Earth. Peace is healing, beloved. Give peace.
On Earth, you are translating what occurs in order to give it meaning. Always you are trying to understand. Now interpret hurt as your signal to heal. You are here to bless the world, not compound hurt. You have wanted to understand why you are here on Earth, and I am telling you why. I have sent you as a healer and that includes the healing of woe.
When you see litter on the street, bend down to pick it up. Just so when you see hurt, bend down, pick it up, and throw it away.
Life would be easy except for the ideas you have. Really, you ask a lot of life, beloveds. You want it to be your servant, and you want it to serve instantly, even when you keep changing your mind or having no idea of what you want or what you are really asking.
It is fine for you to have a thousand desires. It is desirable to have desires. Have as many desires as you want. Desires are good. Demanding their fulfillment at your whim is another story. Let your desires go out there and up into the universe. A juggler tosses balls up, and gets back what he throws. However, a juggler is limited to what he throws. You are greater than a juggler, beloveds, because you are unlimited.
When your heart feels strained, let your heart rest itself for a while. Leave it alone. Your heart can wait for an answer to come. Your heart does not have to solve everything. It certainly does not have to solve whatever is going on right now. The fact is, beloveds, that everything is already solved. If you can leave the revolutions of the Earth to Me, can you not leave your difficulties to Me as well?
Conflicts come because of struggle between the heart and mind. There is a tug of war going on because you want to do everything right. And you want everyone else to do things right. Only you don’t always know what is right, even when you think you do. Please don’t worry so much about being correct. You don’t have to be right. If you have to be right, you hesitate in life. You are here to live it.
When you pick apples from a tree, you just have to pick. You can’t decide ahead of time which ones will have worms and which ones won’t.
So, in life, you make choices. You simply do not have all the information necessary to make premiere decisions. Your mind does not have all the information. You heart may know, yet your heart has been so subjugated to the mind that it may be hard for you to know what your heart is saying.
Something meant a lot to you yesterday, and now today you hardly think of it. Life is a stream, and the tree branch you grab on to today is a different one from yesterday. Hot is warm one day and cold is tepid the next.
You are one way in one situation, and another way in another.
You walk through the mall or a park. You are in a room painted gold or in a shed. Yet wherever your body happens to roam, you are still you through it all. You are not amazed that you take one bus today and another one later. You ride a train or a plane, and still you are you. And then you return home, and tomorrow is another day.
You hurry along in life as if it were a race. There is no race. There is just life. You have wanted to be ahead of it. You get out of breath, you pant at breakneck speed.
Life in the world waits for you. It will carry you forward. Life has its own pace. You can’t get ahead of it. You can’t predict it. You can’t stop or start it. It has its own momentum. You are not hapless nor helpless in life, and yet life is not always yours to command. You can beg life, you can whip it, but life has a mind of its own. You ride the horse you are on, beloveds.
You have your ideas of what life should be, and life doesn’t always listen.
You simply don’t want to make too much of life as you live it in the world. You don’t want to make scenes. Embrace life instead, no matter what coat it wears on a particular day.
You have a deep desire to create, and there is much for you to create. Create happiness, love, relationships, art, music, stories, flower and table arrangements. Whatever you do, beloveds, make it beautiful. You can do it. Make your life beautiful.
You are already creating your life. Certainly, you contribute to it. You have some say in the direction of your life. It is not that you can order outcomes, but you can steer in the direction you want to go. You do that with your thoughts, beloved. Your thoughts are the steering wheel.