Let’s Talk About Fear...

My dear friends... 

A woman wrote to me a few days ago at CWGConnect asking if it was okay to express her fears about things going on in her life openly and authentically with others. She felt that by doing so, she was offering an example to others, making it possible for them, too, to be open and honest about their fears. --- thus to heal them. 

She wanted to know if this made spiritual sense, according to Conversations with God. As I was creating my reply, I realized that I was producing something that I wish everyone could see and read. It is one of the most precise, concise, clear and spiritually lucid discourses that has come through me on the Way and Why of Life as it is.  

I am moved to share it with you, my spiritual team members, from the For What It's Worth Dept. Please feel free to pass it on to anyone, and anywhere, you wish. Here is that reply: 

My Dear Jeanette…As I understand it, the Soul migrates (in a sense) from the Realm of the Absolute (also called The Realm of the Spiritual) to the Realm of the Relative (also called The Realm of the Physical) in order to experience fully the Fullness of Who and What It Really Is: namely…Divinity Incarnate.  

God’s greatest desire is to experience Itself completely, in all its glory. Yet in the Realm of the Absolute there is nothing else BUT God…nothing else BUT glory…and so, God can know Itself absolutely, but the experience of Itself can only occur in the Realm of the Relative, where the Totality of God exists in relative terms.  

Therefore we experience, in physical life, what we call “good” and “evil,” “happiness” and “sadness,” “joy” and “pain”—-and all of the conditions that our limited awareness causes us to define as “dualities” in our lives.  

Yet when our awareness increases, we begin to see all of it as One Single Energy—-I shall call it the Essential Essence—-simply manifesting in different forms. As an example of this, let us use the apparent duality of “hot” and “cold.” Often we see these conditions as two different things—-“opposites”, even—-yet looked at from afar we see that they are simply varying degrees of the SAME thing…which we call “Temperature.”  

In the same way, every aspect of life is simply the same thing, Divinity, simply expressing in varying degrees. Even Fear is simply Love—-the Essential Essence—-expressing in lesser degree. If we did not Love anything, we would Fear nothing. Can you see that?  

Once we see this, we decry nothing, we condemn nothing, we reject nothing, but embrace and accept everything in life as the Perfection Expression of Perfection Itself.  

In so doing, the energy that we hold around any given situation, event, or circumstance shifts dramatically, moving from what we would call “negative” to what we would call “positive”—-and this, in turn, alters dramatically the energy that we project, that we send out, regarding any particular occurrence. With the pouring of our positive energy all over that occurrence or circumstance, our experience of it is transformed. We no longer “suffer”—-although we may still be in pain (emotional or physical).  

We are taught in Conversations with God that “pain” is an objective occurrence, whereas “suffering” is the result of our thought about the pain. Suffering occurs when our thought about our pain is that “this shouldn’t be happening. This is wrong. This in unfair,” etc. Yet when we accept our pain as the Perfect expression of Perfection Itself (as a woman in childbirth might experience it), our suffering dissipates and dissolves. The pain may remain, but the suffering disappears. Even death is not experienced in a negative way, but as the Perfect Next Event. Hence: “O Death! Where is thy sting?”  

Now you asked me about Fear, and I agree with you that speaking authentically and openly (and even extensively) about our Fears can be an extraordinarily beneficial thing. CWG says: “What you resist persists, and what you look at disappears. That is, it ceases to have its illusory form.”  

This was one of the greatest messages we were given in Conversations with God. So yes, speaking into our Fear is powerful, indeed. And yes, I agree with you: It sets an example for others, allowing others, as well, to “be okay” with the fact that they, too, have Fears…and to be okay with talking about them.  

What I observe about this as well is that it DOES take “courage” to do this. Living by the advanced theological concepts of Conversations with God (which happen to be nothing more than clarifying re-statements of the highest truths of all the world’s great religions) is not easy. (Until it is. Until it becomes second nature. Until it easily and continuously expresses our TRUE nature.) So while you did not share with us your particular “story” in order to hear choruses of praise for your courage, still, it is understandable and justifiable that you would hear them. All of us recognize courage when we see it, and it is natural that we would want to praise it.  

You have said here that you speak of your Fears not to garner praise for your courage, but to offer an example to others who may also be afraid of something in their life, but be reluctant to discuss them. Your intention does not reduce in any way the courage that it takes to face your life as you have done. That is why I wrote to you, in response to your first entry, the following:  

“I will join the chorus of people who have told you how brave you are! I know that you will touch many lives through the living of your own in the courageous way you have chosen.”  

I joyfully stand by every word of my first response! And I do not experience you as being “still somewhat confused” at all, but as being extraordinarily clear in every word that you have written above. Particularly your summarizing statement: “Perhaps, rather than shun fear behaviours, we would do better to embrace them, embrace them as great because now they are in the open they can be explored and will naturally dissipate?” This is pure Conversations with God, re-stated and re-phrased.  

You understand things perfectly, my friend. And now, may you know and experience that God has blessed you, and given you this glorious opportunity to express the glory of Divinity Itself—-in, as, and through you.  

Shared with you lovingly…




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Neale Donald Walsch

Neale Donald Walsch is a modern day spiritual messenger whose words continue to touch the world in profound ways. With an early interest in religion and a deeply felt connection to spirituality, Neale spent the majority of his life thriving professionally, yet searching for spiritual meaning before beginning his now famous conversation with God.


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