When a person gets into a deep depression, it can be difficult to “come out of it,” there’s no question about that. And no amount of “knowingness” surrounding the so-called “truths of life” makes it any easier. There are times when many of us pay lip service to what we think we “know” about a thing—to the spiritual principles of which we think we are aware—all the while continuing to act as if we know nothing. There are two ways I know of to quickly break out of sadness.
The first is a “process” I learned from a wonderful teacher of mine many years ago. The second is a “way-of-life” kind of thing. Let’s look at the first. If you are plagued with recurring sadness or depression, go out and buy yourself one of those little spiral-bound pocket notebooks, and carry it with you wherever you go. The moment you feel yourself beset by sadness, or sinking into a depression, take out the notebook and write down the time and day, and a brief description of exactly what you were doing when the sadness hit. Then, next to that, put down a number from one to ten, indicating just how sad or depressed you are. Take a measurement. Are you as depressed as you have ever been? That’s an 8 or a 9. Are you more depressed than you have ever been? That’s a 10. Are you a little sad, but not all that depressed? That may be a 6, and so on. Now, wait 30 minutes and take a measurement again. In other words, put the notebook away, just go about doing whatever you were doing (even if it’s sitting there staring at the wall, doing nothing), and wait for half an hour to pass. If you’ve got one of those watches with a timer and an alarm on it, so much the better. In any event, find a way to notice when 30 minutes have passed. Then, take out the notebook and write down exactly what you have been doing.
Look to see how sad or depressed you are now, and write down a number between one and ten which reflects that. Put the notebook away and go on with your life. Wait twenty minutes this time, then take the notebook out once more and do the process all over again. Wait fifteen minutes this time, and do it yet one more time. Now do this every fifteen minutes for the entire hour which follows, unless, of course, you find that there is no more reason to do it, given that your “score” has dropped so low! What you will discover through this process is that it is virtually impossible to stay depressed while you are watching yourself do it. (The same thing can be said of anger, incidentally.)
CwG puts this nicely when it says, “What you resist persists. What you look at disappears.” The second little tool I want to give you is a life-style change. The next time you are “so sad” that you “don’t know how to get out of it” find someone else who is just as sad. This should not be difficult, given the state the world is in today. You will not have to look very far. Make it your business to give that person exactly what you want for yourself. That is, do whatever it takes to bring that person out of their sadness. You will find that you have uncovered an extraordinary secret. Whatever you wish to experience yourself, be the source of it for another. It is a fool-proof formula and it works with everything. If you want more companionship in your life, find someone else who wants more companionship, and give him that. You will find you have given it to yourself as well. If you want more love in your life, find someone else who wants more love in their life and give them that. You will find you have given it to yourself as well. If you want more patience, understanding, tolerance, even money, in your life, give those things to someone who also wants more in his life and you will see your own supply increase. If you want more sex in your life…. Well you get the picture! Are you smiling?… We’re being pretty clever here. So there you have them. Two of the best tools I have ever discovered for ending loneliness, sadness, disunity, or depression. Six magic words that could change your life: Do not resist. Be the source. - NDW
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