When Life Seems Contrary

This is a long post, but many of you asked for it…so I assume you will be willing to tolerate its length, yes?

The so-called “Law of Attraction” has gotten a lot of attention in recent years. I call this phenomenon the Process of Personal Creation — and it doesn’t always “work” the way it is “advertised” when it is called the “Law of Attraction.”

In my last entry here I talked about “Inadvertent Selection” as one reason why Personal Creation does not always bring us what we seem to be choosing. But “Inadvertent Selection” is just one little known aspect of Personal Creation that can cause people to think it’s not working. There is also the Law of Opposites, about which people know even less, and which produces the same effect as Inadvertent Selection, but for a different reason.

The Law of Opposites is the second of the five great Principles of Life and it works in perfect harmony with the Energy of Attraction. This principle states that no sooner will you call something into your reality than its exact opposite will also appear—and alwaysfirst.

What is this now? What am I saying?

I am saying that the moment you choose anything—any outcome, object, or experience—the exact opposite of that will come into your life in some way. It may show itself in some far distant quarter, or it may pop up right in front of your eyes, but it will be there, absolutely.

It is necessary for the “opposite” of whatever you are choosing to create with the Energy of Attraction to show up, for the reason that life cannot be experienced in a vacuum.. Acontext must be produced in which you may experience what you have chosen.

Because not many people know this, they can easily turn negative in their thinking just when the universe was preparing to place before them all that their hearts desired.

They do not see the appearance of the opposite as a sure and certain sign that they are on the right path, heading toward their chosen objective. Rather, they see it as an obstacle, a blockage.

They experience themselves to be up against the wall, when really they are standing in front of a doorway. Only discernment would allow them to know the difference.

The Law of Opposites is based on the fundamental and founding principle of all life: “In the absence of that which you are not, that which you are is not.”

I know, I know, that’s not a very clear sentence. Let me clarify. Let’s say, for the purposes of illustration, that you wish to experience yourself as “the light.” (Many people, by the way, have actually chosen this. They wish to be The Light—and thus to bring The Light—wherever they are, wherever they appear.)

Now let us imagine for the purposes of this illustration that there is nothing else around you but The Light—indeed, that there is nothing else in existence but The Light. This would make it impossible to experience yourself as The Light. You may “know” yourself as that, but you cannot “experience” yourself as that.

(There is a difference between knowing and experiencing, and it is experiencing what it knows itself to be for which the soul yearns.)

There is only one way to experience yourself as The Light, and that would be to find yourself in darkness. Yet remember, in this example there is no “darkness.” In this illustration, there is nothing but The Light. You, therefore, must create the darkness.You must call it forth. And you will.

This is the Law of Opposites, which gives you opportunity. Yet if you see the opposite not as opportunity but as opposition, you will see it not as something that empowers you, but as something that takes power away.

You will fall into negative thinking, not understanding that you, yourself, have used the Energy of Attraction to draw to you the darkness as well as the light (what you would call “negative,” as well as what you would call “positive,” outcomes) in order to fully experience the positive outcomes that you are creating.

There is power in opposites, and this is the intricate way in which attraction works with all the great principles of life. Those principles work in concert with each other; they function as a perfect mechanism—the Mechanism of Manifestation—like gears in a finely tuned watch.

What are we to do, then, when the Law of Opposites seems to be thwarting, rather than supporting, Personal Creation?

Understand exactly what is going on.

Endeavor to see the appearance of the “opposite” as your first indication that Personal Creation is working flawlessly. Remember that the first step in creating anything is creating a context within which it may be experienced. Do not resist the opposite of anything that you wish to experience. Instead, embrace it. Look right at it and see it for what it is.

What you resist, persists. That is because, by your continued attention to it in a negative way, you continue to place it there. You cannot resist something that is not there. When you resist something, you place it there. By focusing angry or frustrated energy on it, you actually give it more life.

This is why all great masters have urged us to “resist not evil.” Do not fight that is which opposite to your stated desire or your preferred outcome. Rather, relax into it.

I know that may sound strange, but I promise you, it works. Do not become rigid and tense, ready for a battle. Never oppose that which opposes you. Do not OPpose, COMpose.

Do you understand? Remember this little rule always: Do not oppose, compose.

Compose your original idea of how you want life to show up. And compose yourself while you’re at it. Live in a place of relaxed assurance that life is functioning perfectly. Yet do not confuse relaxation with acceptance.

“Resist not evil” does not mean that you should not try to change what it is that you do not choose. Changing something is not resisting something, it is merely choosing again. Change is not resistance, but alteration. To modify is not to resist, but rather, to continue Personal Creation.

Modification is creation. Resistance is the end of creation. It firmly holds the previous creation in place.

Do you see?

At every moment of difficulty and challenge in your life you have a choice: opposition or composition. To repeat: You can either oppose that which you are experiencing, or compose that which you chose.

Compose what you chose.

Now, thanks to the Law of Opposites, you have a context within which to experience it. And that is the greatest thing the universe could ever give you.

This is an important aspect of the “mystery formula” of life that is rarely explained.

All of the content above, and that which has appeared in my other recent posts here, will be found in the book Happier Than God, where there is much more to be found about the formula for a wonderful life!


Mik 9th May 2011 6:15 am

Thank you, Neale.

IshaRa 9th May 2011 6:45 am

Thanks Neale, never thought about this before but it makes perfect sense. A lot of the manifestation material out there at the moment seems to gloss over these bits....no wonder people are getting frustrated and thinking that the process isn't working.

Love your work and thanks for sharing it on this forum.


Nikola 9th May 2011 11:39 am

Not so long.. as promised. :)

Good read~

Cheers .

if you 'r reading this

anje 9th May 2011 12:32 pm

Thanks Neale, this is quite helpful!
I've always noticed that before I can get to a goal, a lot of situations and necessary emotional releases that are totally in opposition to my goal, invariably come about. While very, very uncomfortable it always feels 'so right' and I have experienced the elation of coming through these episodes enough times to realize it is simply the way we live and how our lives unfold.
I do find the same scenarios happening many times over, and my worst nightmare has reappeared again, only this time it is only a nightmare if I remember how it used to affect me. Now I feel it is a situation and while I may not be able to solve it according to the established 'ways of the world', I will be able to easily solve it if I can agree to be good with unconventional solutions.
I will remember over the next few weeks to stop opposing, and allow composing!

Thanks again!

Starfast 9th May 2011 12:34 pm

When flowers are planted in the spring, the weeds come too. Allow the weeds, bless them and send them on their way, and in a few years, it becomes noticeable that the weeds are not quite so many in your garden because the love you give to the flowers responds to you and multiplies. In linear time this process seems to take a very long time before the garden is all flowers, but in faith and trust it is already done. It is our acceptance of the weeds that makes the garden possible.

natachaneuburger 9th May 2011 3:33 pm

I really enjoy your posts, Thank you so much. The wisdom and tools that you impart are extremely profound and I am very excited to read your book "Happier than God". Much love Natacha

MoonStar 9th May 2011 5:15 pm

Thanks for this, Neale. Very interesting and also great advice on how to react (or not) to what happens to us. I find this hopeful and will be more observant of when I seem to get the opposite of what I choose.

I like your explanation and wish more people could be aware of this!

zorro 9th May 2011 6:08 pm

Very nice! Thank you.

c 9th May 2011 6:48 pm

Thank you Neale I do so appreciate the perspective.

Candy Anne

Greschjkvo 10th May 2011 9:20 am

Thank U for sharing, this has finally been eloquently & simply explained!

thebchbum 10th May 2011 11:56 am

Thank you so very much, I enjoyed reading your article, you put such a better perspective on the law of attraction than any other person.

StarEnergy 10th May 2011 10:04 pm

Hi Neale,
I had to put some serious thought into what you wrote, because i have felt for years why was it i was "wanting" things and working on being worthy ect and doing my best to heal my wounds and to heal my life tools i learned from my mom and her struggles with money ect and it was very frusterating to me why it wasnt "healing". so i began to prey and seek anserws from my heart and was lead to your book Conversations with God book one.In chpt 10 pg 165 you wrote "Yet your mind is filled with reactive thought- thought that springs from the experiance of others. Very few of your thoughts spring from self-produce data, much less self-produced preferences."and from that message i got i always react to what iam feeling no matter what the thoughts are iam always reacting in a way that say survive dont live reaction to struggles ect. all in all i want to say thank you for my big ahhahh moment and were your post lead me... i guess this would be another way to look at it.schools in lol much love!

thebchbum 19th May 2011 2:56 pm

Just wanted to tell you this article has inspired me to read your book Happier than God. I have learned more from your book than any other book out there. I want to thank you for writing a book in such terms that are easy to understand. I have read so many books that I have quit reading because of the way the books are written. They are meant to help but yet they only confuse you more. This book is the best of the best! Thank you thank you thank you!

Eyewitness 16th August 2017 12:58 pm

When you speak like this I try so hard to hear and understand but honestly... what Im hearing is. You will never be happy because you can not be unhappy. You can Not create anything without first not creating it so be sure to relax into being really unhappy until you are happy but this can take a long time and even tho you are really really old now and have been relaxing for a thousand years and still are not happy... trust that the process is working flawlessly.. **sigh** I really just want to shoot myself... haha. It would appear that this process is so hard that nobody can actually do it..... especially me. I can't do it. But God doesn't care about this... God cares about God... and all his happiness. Otherwise... I would have been able to do this a long time ago... or not... even tho there is nothing To do and no ONE to do it.... **sigh** Jumping off a cliff now.... I just have to ask....why bother to say anything at all... I mean... I am not an idiot and yet.... Every door is slammed shut in my face... and there is no way to open one... even tho they are always open. :)


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Neale Donald Walsch

Neale Donald Walsch is a modern day spiritual messenger whose words continue to touch the world in profound ways. With an early interest in religion and a deeply felt connection to spirituality, Neale spent the majority of his life thriving professionally, yet searching for spiritual meaning before beginning his now famous conversation with God.