There is a shine around you, a glow to you, an energy aura that comes from inside you and extends out. And this glow is made of your essential self, as colored by your thoughts and emotions. When you quiet your mind and your emotions, then the glow can be pure essence, the true you, flowing out into the world. When you feel strong emotions, then these colors enter your glow and flow out as well. And if the emotions are dark, angry or critical, then this is what is felt by others, instead of the underlying personal truth that is in your shine.
And knowing this, if you will but fill your emotional self with love, peace and joy, and fill your mental space with kind thoughts about yourself and others, then these lovely colors will ride out on the essential shine and make your glow all the more glorious.
Know that people are responding to you at this level, even if they are not doing so consciously. You know this yourself, when you feel uncomfortable around someone who is smiling and saying nice things. It is because your intuition is picking up what is in his heart and on his mind, overriding what your eyes see and your ears hear.
And everyone is like this. Some people are conscious of it and can actually sort out their impressions. But most people are subconsciously picking up your signals at all times and making their choices about whether they want to be with you based upon a combination of what you say, how you look and what they feel intuitively.
You can learn to have power over this. After all, you own all of it. In your essential self, you are truth and love, so just allow this part to shine out. And as for the rest, you can learn to fill your heart with love and your mind with kind thoughts. It takes focus; it takes practice. It takes a daily morning session of meditation, contemplation or prayer in which you consciously align yourself with the energies you wish to project. And through the day, it takes vigilance, to pay attention to your reactions and responses and then gradually gain mastery over them.
But know that this is within your power. And if you have been battling with situations in which others are not responding to you in the way you wish, begin to focus here on the subliminal messages you are sending out. Know that every harsh judgment and criticism that your mind makes is transmitted. Every flash of anger from your heart is felt by others. Every piece of self-doubt and self-criticism undermines that aura of confidence you wish to project.
Slowly and without self-criticism, begin your transformation from the inside out. Daily, without fail, learn to love yourself and others. Let the days, weeks and months pass without judging your progress, just putting one foot in front of the other, one lovely thought after another, one gift of love following the last. And one day, you will notice that you are much calmer and happier and that the entire world has begun to respond to you in new ways.
Here is a little prayer for today
I love myself deeply. Here in this heart of mine, beats a truth: I am love. I am love. I am love.
And I allow this love to flow out and touch everyone in my life. I am a beating heart of love and caring. My love is so great that it encompasses all that is.
I am one with all. I am love and only love. I am.