Three Big Reasons Why Your Life Isn’t Happy, (And What You Can Do About It!)

Hello readers,

I hope this finds you well. I hope also that I’ve grabbed you a bit by my catchy title! This came to me in a bit of daydream today, but writing it down more coherently it seems to make more sense and I hope you enjoy.

Reason 1 – I have no spouse/GF or BF.

Most people long for companionship of some type this is true, but your life is not over if you do not ever get married or find a mate. Also corny but true, it is often when we quit “looking” that the right person shows up for us. Do you want to keep finding fractured people in a quest to “complete” yourself? Best to complete yourself FIRST then magnetize someone in from that space. That is an entirely different experience! You really CAN be happy in your single-dom and like many married people will tell you, enjoy it while you can. Every choice we make then rules out all of the others; in the sense that you cannot be single while married and vice versa. Make it a point to ENJOY your life, single, married, divorced or whatever! You are not your marital status despite what your mother, best friend or nosy aunt tells you.

You are enough. You do not need anyone or anything to “complete” you. Breathe that and drink it in. It’s where you are going and where everyone is headed, in time. ~ The Keepers, from 11/18/10

Reason 2 – I’m not successful enough.

This is a big one! It’s certainly fine to have ambition and want a better life for ourselves, no problem there. What is a problem is when you are so obsessed with what you don’t have it erodes the pleasure of what you DO have. According to laws of magnetism this will also lower your vibration and actually prevent more abundance flowing to you. Our thoughts are very powerful and what we constantly think about we will become. Thinking about the deficits in our lives can contribute to create more, not a smart way to go. Also when other people are successful to be happy for them and wish them well. Envy is a negative emotion that does not serve you in any way. If you can’t really do it, fake it ’til you make it! Wouldn’t you want to wish yourself well? That might make it easier. Remember also that just as we are not our marital status, we are also not our job title or bank account either.

Reason 3 – I am unlucky. Maybe I was just born under a bad sign?

Personally I don’t really believe in luck as some external force we have no control over. Ever notice how some people start winning things and they start to win more and more. It’s the same thing for the losers. Just as a positive emotional and spiritual state can build upon itself, so can a negative one. There are no “bad” signs in astrology by the way, the all have a yin/yang, shadow and light sides. I’ve also noticed that people that seem to be stuck in ruts are very self-focused and in many cases do not do much to serve others. Of course there are exceptions to this, but I am talking about the norm. Generosity of Spirit according to our Buddhist friends is a great virtue. Consider this quote by Santideva, “The perfection of generosity is said to be, the thought to give all beings everything, together with the fruit of such a thought.”

One pretty quick way to turn around your “luck” is to serve others in any way that you can. It will also get the focus off of you and your problems and if you are down in a rut believe me, it will serve you well to think about something else! You might be surprised what a bit of volunteering or just helping someone out can do to lift your spirit. That might be just the kick start that you need to your current state of being completely around. When we are too self-focused we become like a hamster on a wheel, on a road to nowhere. A solid meditation practice is also an excellent remedy and throws our self-cherishing mind a bone to go chew on for a little while!

You can be happy with too much weight, not enough money, no significant other or any other condition of mind. We invite you to seek the source of joy that has no condition and is unchanging. Whatever your individual journey is, you may radiate love and goodness which will transform the world, and in the process will transform you. ~ The Keepers, from 10/27/10

Wishing you all peace and blessings in these powerful times.

Rev. Irma Kaye Sawyer



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Rev. Irma Kaye Sawyer

Rev. Irma Kaye Sawyer is an akashic records reader, interfaith minister, intuitive counselor, energy healing practitioner and writer. She currently resides in Laguna Hills, California. Irma has been involved in the holistic healing arts community as a practitioner and teacher since 1992.

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