Message for March 2018
Life can be unquestionably hard at times as we try to navigate the twists, turns, dead-ends, nooks, crannies, hills and valleys. We never know what’s around the next corner and although we may try to be as prepared as possible we can never truly know what’s coming as life is unexpected and unpredictable. This isn’t to say that we can’t shape, define and flavour our lives by the choices and decisions we make - this is simply an observation that we don’t write the rule book and we don’t usually have an instruction manual either.
As we journey through life we change and shift, experiencing endings and exploring new beginnings, we constantly evolve and transform, never standing still, never breathing the same air twice. Sometimes this can feel quite dizzying as we can feel as though we are spinning in a vast mixing pot of universal ‘stuff’ and we can become lost in translation, feeling altered and metamorphosed, but without finding the words or language to articulate or explain this. We can feel alone and isolated, feeling as though no one else can understand or comprehend the depths of our experience and whilst in many ways this is true (after all every soul is unique), it also couldn’t be further from the truth as so many other souls are going through something similar and this feeling of deep discombobulation is far-reaching.
Yet, how do others know we are going through this and how do others let us know they are going through it? Well, ‘it takes one to know one’ may be a bit twee but there’s truth in those words as we only need to look around to gain a sense of others who carry a similar energy to our own. There is a sense of kinship – a knowing – and when we look, we can feel it and see it in others, and the more we look, the more we realise we are not alone.
When we are feeling overwhelmed it’s easy for the shutters to fall as we close ourselves off from life yet it’s often during such times when we need to be open more than ever in order to realise just how interconnected and intertwined we really are. It’s often the little things that make a difference. It can be one small gesture that can give us the strength to do enormous things: a smile can lift the spirits, a conversation can shift perspective or a simple act can shift the course of a life. It’s often the case when we feel overwhelmed and lost in translation that we can miss such small gestures as we become so wrapped up in the knots and tangles of getting through each day. We lose sight of the bigger picture and struggle to achieve some much-needed breathing space yet all we need to do is to take a deep breath, hold it briefly, breath out and re-focus. It can be that simple.
Life doesn’t have to be complicated so why make it so? The more deeply we breathe into life, the more we realise that we are navigating those shifts, twists and turns rather better than we often think, and we are much stronger than we believe. Once we lift our heads above the heaviness we can begin to think about re-connecting with like-minded souls and reaching out to others still meandering along the path.
At the same time, it’s important to remember that life isn’t all hard work and spiritual shift (with and without the f), as there’s plenty of room for lightness, happiness and joy. So, March looks set to ask an important question: What brings out your happy?
March looks set to be a month of continued self-exploration and self-discovery as you begin to create a new way of living and being based upon a new wave of strength, tenacity and voracity rising up from deep within your heart and soul. It’s as though you have reached the crescendo of a wave that’s breaking on the shores of new terrain and you seem more than ready to explore this new world with passion and enthusiasm. Your heart is filled with cautious optimism as you have been longing for such an opportunity for years, and now it’s finally here you can’t quite believe it. Whilst your enthusiasm is the driving force on the leading edge of this experience, you can’t help but notice an air of vigilance stirring up from deep within as you know you can’t take anything for granted and you want to try to ensure that you try to make the best of such a wonderful opportunity for a fresh start in your life.
In some ways though, there is a part of you wondering if you are truly ready for this change, after all, you have managed to keep things ticking along quite nicely; do you want to potentially rock the boat? You find yourself torn, and this has come as something of a surprise as you have never really doubted your pioneering spirit before, but now you have an opportunity to explore pastures new, you are not quite sure if it’s what you truly want. Fear not. Doubt is understandable and it’s a healthy sign you are not charging ahead with a cavalier attitude. A new beginning doesn’t have to mean enormous change, it simply means an opportunity to begin a new chapter that allows you to incorporate your creativity, vision and sparkle into your everyday life…
As you continue to seek out some extra magic and sparkle in your life, there is a sense you are beginning to realise that this is not necessarily something you need to ‘do’ as it is more of a state of mind and a state of being. Sometimes life can feel heavy and full of burden, and even routine tasks can feel gargantuan as you can struggle to drag yourself through the week. However, other weeks you seem to glide through even though the structure of the week is essentially the same. So, what’s the difference? Well, in short, it’s the essence of the energy; it’s your perspective and your demeanour, its how you carry yourself. It’s a bit like the glass-half full analogy only far more complex as you are a complicated soul and simple analogies really cannot come close to explaining how you work. When life feels heavy, it becomes heavy and when you are feeling bright, everything feels lighter.
There isn’t really a clear-cut scientific explanation for this, it’s more of an observation and it’s not new to you, it just seems that you’ve forgotten to apply this to your own life. Of course, this isn’t to say if you think happy thoughts then you can skip through the hills and valleys of life without a care in the world as things don’t really work that way, this is more of a reflection to help you to understand that there is already plenty of magic and sparkle in your life, it’s just that you are often so wrapped up in the mundane or dealing with being everything to everyone else to notice it. Take some time, pause and open up your heart and soul; you will soon begin to notice the shift and this will inspire you to find new ways to incorporate more lightness and energy into your life…
As you continue to seek out those special moments that allow you to breathe more deeply into life, there is a growing sense you are beginning to truly understand the essence of this concept. As a result, you are able to condense and distil the essence of ‘being in the moment’ into something more tangible for you to make sense of in order to allow you to walk through life more consciously than ever before. In many ways, such a shift is unlikely to change a great deal in terms of getting things done or ticking off boxes on your ever-growing ‘to do’ list, but it is likely to see you sort the wheat from the chaff when it comes to your true priorities. Knowing what’s truly important matters a great deal as you do seem to spend a great deal of your life dealing with a lot of flotsam and jetsam, particularly emanating from the wake of others.
This is, of course, an inevitable part of life but you seem to have a knack for carrying this in your own wake and, over time, in starts to drag and weigh you down like an anchor. This also has the knock on effect of then disconnecting you from the things, people and dreams that truly matter as there simply isn’t the space or capacity in your life for you to do more. However, all is not lost, as you’re growing ability to breathe more deeply into life is enabling you to connect more richly to your own intuition and sense of self, both of which are your true guiding lights in life. This is a time to trust your inner light, to seek out those trusted sources of love, support and compassion, and to have the courage to focus on what you truly want…
You are a multi-layered, multi-faceted, multi-talented soul; most people who know you well would agree with this observation as you often present a kind of ‘holding everything together’ composure in your day to day life which leaves others in awe of how you cope so well. Of course, we both know that this can be a well-crafted façade, and although there are many days where you are indeed holding it all together, on the days where you are not, no one would really know as you do such a good job of keeping on keeping on, smiling and doing the best you can. You seem to have mastered the art of bluff and bluster, which you seem to have adopted as a coping mechanism as you had to keep the wheels on the bus turning when everyone else was falling apart, distracted or simply not interested. As a result, you are seen as the strong, steadfast and reliable one, all of which are true, but there is something about this that frustrates you immensely because alongside this is a sense of feeling taken for granted because you’re the back-up plan; always have been, always will be.
Therefore, over time, you have started to take on more and more yourself to make sure things get done right in the first place so you don’t have to go back and pick up the pieces. This is understandable but it’s become very cumbersome and very tiring, and, there’s no polite way of putting this, but you’re knackered. It’s time now for you to have a long, hard think about how you live your life; you cannot and must not forget about yourself as the world needs you! Don’t bury your shining light under all of this, let it shine and trust that if the wheels of the bus do fall off, others can work out what a spanner is...
You seem to be caught in-betwixt a moment; in between an urge to charge ahead into a new chapter of your life and an urge to pause, resting in the moment, reflecting on where you’ve been, where you are and where you may be heading. You rarely find yourself in such moments, after all, you are a fiery and determined soul, confident and assertive. Well, that’s the perception isn’t it? Leo has a reputation for being the roaring lion but you have a very tender underbelly which is softer and far less clear cut. In many ways, this is also a reflection of being caught in the moment as you feel you should be the confident one but you are intuitively sensing the need to withdraw and step back for a little while and the apparent contradiction is hard for you to fathom.
In many ways, there’s nothing for you to understand as you are both roaring lion and tender kitten; these are both facets of your essence and there are times when one leads the way more than the other. Of course, the ideal would be for them to walk along in perfect harmony but life is rarely as easy as that! So, rather than feel conflicted in the moment, trust your instincts. If you feel the need to step back and pause for a little while then do so, don’t try to be what you are not. At the same time, listen to your inner self as the confident, fiery you can sometimes take over and charge ahead, trying to over-rule your intuition. March looks set to be a pivotal month for you, one where you begin to re-shape and re-define your life from the inside, out. It’s therefore really important for you to be true to yourself and the give all the facets of your true essence the room to breathe freely…
Although you have always known yourself to be a sparkling, twinkling star, shining brightly and illuminating your world from the inside, out, there is a sense that you have often felt unable to let this little star shine brightly as you have preferred to fit in rather than stand out. The reasons for this are complicated but they seem to stem from a desire to want to fit in, something you have longed for as you have wanted to feel as though you are an integrated part of the ‘collective’ rather than feeling as though you are sitting on the edge watching the world, feeling slightly different to everyone else but never really being able to grasp the reasons why. The concept of ‘fitting in’ is also complex though as it suggests a discontentment with where you are and a desire to bend yourself, even slightly, out of shape in order to be what you are perhaps not. Why would you want to be anyone other than whom you truly are?
Yet – and here is the paradoxical conundrum – you also feel a slight sense of jubilation that you are unique and different! You thrive on seeing the world from a different perspective and gain so much knowledge and wisdom from existing on the periphery of life. This is a challenging situation to overcome, after all, they appear to be at opposing ends of the spectrum, yet, intuitively you already know how to broker a peace deal as the key here is not in ousting one or the other but in allowing both to flourish and thrive. This may seem slightly counter-intuitive as they appear to oppose each other like North/South magnets, but, when you feel this, you realise it’s natural as it allows you to bring your twinkling star into all aspects of life. In short, this is your way of bringing your magic into the everyday…
As you continue to find new ways to make peace with the whirlwind within your mind, body and soul, you are beginning to realise that this swirling force within truly is an asset and a blessing as this inner maelstrom is the power that inspires and energises your creativity and innovation, and it is the force that makes you unique, quirky and so deeply philosophical. Admittedly, being one of life’s thinkers can have it’s challenges as it can mean that you over-think and over-ponder as you weigh-up the pro’s and con’s of everything, but it can also open up gateways and pathways that few would ever even consider, let alone explore. In short, your busy-ness allows you to function at a formidable speed which not only makes you an exceptionally quick learner, but it also enables you to gain an extremely wide-viewed perspective on life which gives you compassion, empathy and a determination to ‘make a difference’.
Whilst your inner whirlwind is undoubtedly a blessing, it is also something of a challenge as it means you are constantly living on the leading-edge of life, your thoughts are ahead of most and your ideas are in the realms of fantasy fiction as they haven’t even been contemplated by many let alone considered as real possibilities. So, you can often find yourself feeling frustrated that others don’t see the world in the way that you do and you can feel irked that you often have to pause to wait for others to catch up with you, but you have grown wise to this over the years and learned the art of patience, as well as finding great wisdom in the pauses. Being you is absolutely as wonderful as it sounds, you just have to realise this now and let your whirling, swirling, delightful self flow freely and with joy…
As the theme of new beginnings continues to ramp up the energy and momentum in your life, there is a growing sense of anticipation rising up from deep within your heart and soul as you begin to contemplate exactly what ‘new beginnings’ you can look forward to over the weeks and months ahead. You have been at something of a stalemate for quite some time now, feeling an air of restlessness but not really quite knowing how to deal with it. At the same time, you have felt an eagerness to burst ahead, as your exuberance and ‘Tiggerish’ passion have illuminated the fires deep within and your creative spark has come alive once again. It’s as though you’ve been all poised and ready at the starting blocks of a race, your feet are in position, you are crouched and ready for the starting gun. Every ounce of your concentration is focused on charging ahead once you get the go ahead but, until that point, your body is pulsating with energy. Yet, you’ve been in that position for a little while now and you are beginning to get cramp and starting to wonder if you are ever going to hear the starting pistol.
It seems with so much focus on preparing for the charge ahead you have little focus on either the here and now or your journey ahead. As a result, you are ready to burst with unspent energy which you could actually be channelling into numerous practical and creative ventures if you took your focus off of the ‘big reveal’ of a new beginning and instead opened up to the more gradual shifts in the ebb and flow of life. This isn’t being passive, it’s simply a willingness to use your phenomenal intuition to ride the waves of life, channelling your energy in the most practical ways. Don’t wait for it, go do it!
As you continue to ask yourself some important questions in connection to what you truly want from your life, there is a sense that you are beginning to look a little deeper - beyond the ought’s, must’s and should’s, and beyond the façades of the different lives you’ve thought you should be living - towards where you are now. In many ways, this is the only place of truth as it is the only real place you can ever be, however, life is often complicated and the layer upon layer of responsibilities, distractions and ‘stuff’ that accumulates over times can slowly begin to encase the ‘here and now’ as it fades under the weight of all of those things to do, people to see and places to go. You are a genuinely creative and exceptionally bright soul, and you have a unique vision for life.
As a free spirit, you find it hard to be tied up in the details of day-to-day life, but you do it because it’s necessary. At the same time, you resist being tied to just one project or venture as you do love to keep the door open for new possibilities. In some ways, you are a little bit like a house in the middle of winter, the log fire is burning brightly warming up the room, but the back window is always open just in case something or someone interesting comes along. It’s hard for you to close the window and just be in the moment. This isn’t a criticism, it’s an observation. It’s interesting how you know this about yourself, but you feel it’s a side of your nature that you criticise rather than celebrate. Yet, you think nothing of wearing thermals and a woolly hat to stay warm, it’s just the way you are, so instead of trying to be someone you’re are not, be yourself and love yourself for it…
March looks set to be a month of continued exploration of where you find yourself in life as you seem to have reached a natural point of pause between where you were and where you want to be. Of course, this pause leaves you very much in the space of where you are now, which is the only space you can only ever be in, but life often has a habit of distracting you from this fact. There are so often things to do, places to go or people to see that end up distracting you as you work so hard to tick off that formidable ‘to do list’ you have at your side, yet the list always grows; you make achievements of course, it’s just that you keep adding new goals, dreams and tasks to the list. This is only natural, as life is not a straightforward path, it meanders and oscillates, as you learn, grow and evolve with each passing day.
At the same time, what seemed important yesterday may no longer feel so today, and new goals and dreams move into focus. So, although your list never really shortens, it evolves. Yet, your ‘to do list’ is once again distracting you from the here and now as it is this moment that truly matters, not what you haven’t yet done or achieved. It’s easy to think about your life in terms of what you haven’t achieved or mastered or succeeded at, and you seem be have excelled at criticising yourself when you have failed to meet the exacting standards you’ve set for yourself but why? Why do you give yourself such a hard time? Is it because you think you should do better? Do you think you are not enough as you are? It’s time now to step more consciously into the present moment and to realise that you are absolutely enough exactly as you are…
Living life well and getting life right have been central themes in your life for a long time now. For you, it can be hard to see a difference between the two as you have high standards and your exacting demands of yourself can mean you see getting life right as the only way to live life well. Yet, over time your perspective has mellowed a little as your life experiences have seen you facing some mighty challenges where things simply haven’t worked out as planned or hoped. Although it took a while for you to analyse each event to see what lessons you could learn and to see how you could evolve, despite not reaching those high standards you set for yourself you instinctively knew this didn’t mean you were a ‘failure’, yet you struggled to make sense of this as you felt you ‘ought’ to do better, after all, when you set your sights on a pedestal it’s hard to settle for anything less.
Yet, your instincts told you that you didn’t fail, but you still couldn’t help but wonder if this was a sign you were really ‘giving up’ - you really are so good at picking holes in yourself that you don’t stop to look for positives! It seems clear that you’ve reached a point in your evolution where you realised that the constant demands of trying to get life right meant striving for perfection and chasing the horizon, and it was exhausting as you never felt like you were enough even though you intuitively knew you were more than enough. So, after much deliberation you have now stopped trying so hard to get life right and instead shifted your focus towards living life well as you realise that this is the true key to happiness. You’ve reached a point of understanding that getting life right isn’t about success or achievement, it’s about living life well…
You have always felt slightly different to everyone else; your awareness is vast, and you sense so much more than others, it’s as though the world is more amplified in your soul. In some ways this has made you more sensitive, but it has also made you more creative as well. There have been times of your life where this sensitivity has enabled you to reach deeply into the nooks and crannies of your soul in order to gain a deeper understanding of yourself and others, and it has inspired you through some incredibly challenging times. It has also, at times, left you feeling slightly bewildered, as though you are living on a planet that revolves in a different direction to everyone else as you struggle to see the world in the same way as others and this has created some challenges for you over the years. Yet, despite your quirks and idiosyncrasies, you really rather like being you as being different allows you to express your energy and flair with colour and pizzazz, zing and zest.
At times you have tried to fit in and conform as this has made for a quieter life, but it has never felt quite right. Although there is a part of you that enjoys blending in and being a part of the flock, you are not a sheep and never will be. You are the one that weaves the wool, dyes the wools and turns it into something truly wonderful. In many ways you are an alchemist and your passion transform the landscape of the world from one of monochrome hues to one of a kaleidoscope of tones, colours and textures. You are limited only by your imagination and March brings you an opportunity to ring the bells of change, to let the doors of your imagination swing wide open and to love, cherish and honour your quirks, quarks and foibles with passion and tenderness…
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