11th January to 9th April 2014: On Ego Discernment

A Healthy Ego in a Meaningful Life

This weekend we see the formation of a heavenly influence which remains with us until the second week of April: A triangle formed by Jupiter, Chiron and Pluto, through which we encounter the need to nurture a healthy ego whilst recognising the potential to be indulging an unhealthy one without even realising.

There is much talk of ego in many spiritual teachings and it is sometimes demonised as a result. We may believe that we should eradicate it completely, becoming something other than a personalised and subjective entity, in which there is no space for identification or autonomy, preference or dislike. Ego, we learn, lies at the root of all suffering, causing us to identify personally with the impersonal presence of suffering in our lives. ‘This is my pain’, we tell ourselves, ‘and as such it defines me and my experience’.

Alternatively we may identify with pleasure, clinging to it for fear of its departure, grasping for the next pleasurable moment which we can make ‘me’ and ‘mine’. We hear of the need to transcend suffering, to let go of identification, to release desire in order to experience ourselves as the limitless and impersonal vortex of energy and influence which, in essence, we are.

Which is all fine except that there is more to ego than meets the ‘transcendent eye’, not least because it has a vital part to play in our human lives and a failure to nurture a healthy one can severely scupper not only the fulfilment of our potential but also our ultimate relationship with the Divine.

So how can we recognise a healthy ego? I would suggest it exhibits the following qualities, although you may have other pointers you would add or some you would remove (as may I, in due course…!):

1) An ability to maintain a level of self-respect that facilitates honest communication, the setting down of appropriate boundaries in relationships and the pursuit of a lifestyle conducive to well-being, appropriate satisfaction and insight.
 
2) An ability to recognise the worthiness and right to respect of other people, without the need to feel ‘better than’ or superior to them.
 
3) An ability to tolerate difference without demonising those we experience as different to ourselves.
 
4) An ability to empathise with the experience of another person including to the point of willingness to forego personal gratification if such gratification would entail unnecessary harm or suffering to another.
 
5) An ability to recognise the validity of all life – human and otherwise – and to act to protect and nurture it.
 
6) A willingness to admit mistakes and to learn from others without feeling that this diminishes one’s own essential worth.
 
7) An ability to stand one’s ground in the face of opposition on matters of conscience, without doing so in unnecessarily violent or aggressive ways.
 
Of course, as with so many things, this not an exact science! We have to discern how best to allow ego to guide us or otherwise. On one matter we may know we must stand our ground unreservedly and on another we know we should give ground and allow others to prevail. We may identify powerfully with one aspect of our life and yet know that another is of little, if any, importance when it comes to the crunch.

And our own personal decisions in this regard may seem arbitrary at best and wholly inconsistent at worse, to those who observe our path through life. But ultimately we are answerable only to our own inner compass, magnetised by the Divine which moves through all things, including our ego structures!

Which brings us back to this planetary message, because it will soon be coming through loud and clear: we need our egos healthy and robust to navigate through the coming terrain. And a robust ego is not a bullying one, but one which can withstand the ‘slings and arrows of outrageous fortune’ (thank you Will Shakespeare) without crumbling into despair, self-hatred and resignation or puffing up into narcissism, arrogance and non-negotiable demands for personal satisfaction. We need the capacity to look the challenges of life in the face and know that whilst we experience them so personally, they are not, ultimately, what and who we are. They are part of the journey but do not reflect the destination, and as such we should not mistake them for it. Nor should we dismiss them as irrelevant, seeking merely to transcend, for to do so misses the refining purpose of their presence in our lives.

There is so much more to be said on the issue of ego and its role in our lives at this crucial time in our development. But for now the heavens point us inwards to consider ‘what constitutes a healthy ego and how far are those qualities reflected in my life at this time?’. To enter the coming phase with this question alive in our minds and hearts can help us shape it with an awareness that recognises where our ego is fit and strong and where it is out of balance and in need of healing.

Come the Full Moon in the middle of next week we shall explore more deeply the nature of ego and spirit, the mundane and the Divine, discovering where we may be deceiving ourselves and how to rectify our course.

In the meantime, have a good weekend everyone!

Sarah Varcas

Comments

Dls 11th January 2014 11:14 am

Thanks, Sarah. I find it interesting that the ego has been so consistently vilified -- especially recently. I don't believe God would have given each of us one, if it wasn't useful in some capacity. I agree with your seven points...essentially, I think there is a very fine line between a "good and bad" ego. Points 1 & 7: poor use = doormat, overuse = bully; #2 & 6: poor = unworthy, overuse = "better than" attitude/self-righteous; #3: poor = always wrong/lack of confidence, overuse = always right; #4: poor = condescending sympathy, overuse = extremely selfish; #5: poor = extreme advocacy (where we don't recognize God's gifts), overuse = sense of entitlement (all things on Earth are for human consumption -- hell with the consequences}. My prayer for each day (after thanking God for all he has given me) is to help me find the fine line with regard to each of your points. It is difficult at times, but that's why I believe we need to ask for help...God, Jesus, angels, guides, whomever we look to for assistance. Thanks, again, and have a wonderful weekend.

Connie 51 11th January 2014 3:26 pm

Thank you Sarah! In my humble opinion. I have known we must go deeper. In order to get our Ego's Attuned/In balance with the Divine Masculine and Feminine Energies. Having these energies out of balance. Creates in my humble opinion, these Mega Bullying/door mat Ego's. We have all been existing with.

Prism4imp 11th January 2014 3:54 pm

A lovely echo to my thoughts on new years eve. Egos are indeed not something to reject or vilify but something to nuture and keep healthy. They are an important aspect of ourselves on this planet. It is part of our uniqueness, how we express who we are in this world. But we need to ensure we don't identify with it, just as we wouldn't want to identify with our physical condition. An ego is not who we are but helps us express who we are just as a hand guesture can express a greeting, etc. Hating it just makes us feel bad and rejects who we are just as if we were to hate our body. It's time to make friends with ourselves, learn more about us and gently guide ourselves back to being who we truely are.

Sunshine17 11th January 2014 8:42 pm

i always love your articles. you are such a wonderful & powerful writer…thank you for taking the time to make sense of the energy that is right now. it really means a lot to me !

Akeshalinda 11th January 2014 10:58 pm

To me, "ego" means "unique perspective" and when the ego is clear, our divine self can see the truth and create with love in the world. The ego is essential for divinity to create specifically. Divinity, as St. Teresa said, has no eyes or arms or legs to bless the world but yours. Creator loves individuality; there are no two things alike in creation. The unique egos of individuals gives divinity many ways of seeing things!
Many people have gotten rid of the concept of a devil but have only replaced it with the word "ego." The ego then becomes a scapegoat. Instead of "the devil made me do it" the person can plead "the ego made me do it." To think "The ego is bad, but I am good" is to exist in conflict.
To think that we have to have a healthy ego can potentially become a trap, too, because we usually work on the ego with the personality, which is also the ego. It's like a dog chasing its tail. We cannot really solve the problems of the ego with the ego; we have to go a level higher. When we come from the soul level, the ego clears and can perform its true function as Spirit's eye.

kitegirlcoach 12th January 2014 7:45 pm

Lovely points, Sarah. The Ego is such a big topic for debate as there are so many interpretations of what it is exactly.
My view is that it is what makes each of us unique. What separates us from the One wholeness.
In the past we took that to the extreme in separating ourselves from everyone else using judgement and prejudice.
Now we've past the tipping point of the Shift, we will be drawing back towards one another - thinking and moving more as One. We will keep our egos intact but appreciate each of our egos for their diversity, opening up our tolerance to others so it's a whole different viewpoint and way of living.
Bring it on!

Your last point about standing up in face of opposition for what you think is right is a tricky one to debate. To what lengths are you prepared to stand up for your beliefs? Some would give their lives to stand up for those beliefs. Is that an egotistical thing to do if they do it for the majority?

Peg D. 13th January 2014 10:19 am

I suggest reading the book, "The Seer," by Lars Muhl. I was struck by his use of the word power and its application in book.

In my healing process I moved away from power to empowerment. However, I realize that I moved completely away from power and empowerment. I can get pulled into that periodically. But when I am in alignment, oddly, there is no need for power or a healthy ego. I am me and I am the expanded all in perfect harmony--unity. Nothing can get into my space and harm me so no reason to attack or defend. However, I went through an extensive initiation of releasing ego and the actual cutting away of the energy strings of subtle energy keeping people locked in combat. It's easier to get out of when someone literally hooks into your energy field once this initiation is complete.

Process takes years to move through the spiritual and physiological changes. Know chakras, kundalini, sacred geometry, astrology, be ready to receive light packets and pictograms when your pineal opens, be ready for visitations of light beings, ascended masters. And much more.

jambo 14th January 2014 3:37 pm

'In a moving world readaptation is the price of longevity' -George Santayana

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Sarah Varcas is an Intuitive Astrologer, committed to decoding the wisdom messages of the cosmos for the enrichment of peoples’ lives.

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