23rd September 2013: Sun Quincunx Neptune

The Martyr Trap

Today the Sun’s connection to Neptune warns us that we may encounter a martyr or become one ourselves. The potential for self-sacrifice is strong and the tendency to take on more than we can manage, prompted by a misguided sense of duty, is rife. The role of martyr is being highlighted now because it doesn’t belong in the burgeoning Age of Aquarius and we need to be able to spot it clearly, in ourselves and others, to prevent it getting a foot in the door!

Martyrs abounded in the Age of Pisces, when saviours were sought and self-sacrifice was a path to the Divine. But we are leaving that age now, and with it the out-dated roles that have become tarnished by ego investment and the consequent perversion of their pure purpose.

Modern day martyrs are easy to spot. When we’re acting out that role we feel burdened but in such a way that we get some kind of warped satisfaction from it: ‘oh look at me….so important, with all this responsibility because no one else could possibly do it the way I can. It’s ALL down to ME. I am so exhausted and yet so very important I couldn’t possibly step back and let someone else take the strain!’

There’s plenty of fuel for the ego in there, and it can be a terribly seductive place to be at times. Somehow it just makes us feel so special… way too special to let go of all that importance and recognise that actually we’re just a plain old nobody like everyone else and if we don’t do all these amazing things that need to be done someone else will (if they’re really necessary that it is!).

The modern day martyr is the person who acts ‘selflessly’ whilst feeling terribly self-important and special in doing so! Not to be confused with the person who acts because action is needed, free of the need for recognition or ego gratification. And we can be both at different times in our lives, sometimes at different times in the same day!

These roles aren’t set in stone. They arise and then fall away as our level of consciousness shifts and changes throughout the day. It can be a lot easier to spot the trap and avoid it when we’re energised and awake, a lot harder to avoid martyrdom when we’re exhausted and overwhelmed!

So today we’re charged with the task of staying aware of the martyr within and without. If we’re alert to the energy of ego-driven self-sacrifice we can spot it a mile off and take evasive action! Acts undertaken from this place of burden are tainted by its energy and best avoided. Instead we can commit to acting only from a place of clarity, doing what needs to be done with a lightness of touch that allows it to be done and then gone from our consciousness, not carried with us as a medal of martyrdom.

If our inner voice is telling us ‘if I don’t do it no one else will’, and there’s that ego rush that follows (often in the form of a perverse satisfaction in our plight!), it’s time to step back and take stock because we’ve lost our connection with the inner wisdom that knows when action is needed and when things are best left alone.

The Aquarian Age brings us new templates of personal power and responsibility together with freedom from ego-driven sacrifice in pursuit of the Divine. But we have to be the ones to embrace those new templates and do what’s necessary to embed them in our consciousness.

We can continue to run on the old settings if we wish, but adopting the new ones will lead to far greater freedom of choice and fulfilment of purpose in due course. That’s if we can find the time to change, of course, and we’re not too busy and important to do so!!

Have a good week everyone.

Sarah Varcas

Comments

bettina 23rd September 2013 5:13 am

Thank you, Sarah.

Sometimes, it's difficult for me to not ensnare myself in 'judgement/label' mode when I see the role of martyr being played out in a co-worker. I get a sickly syrupy feeling in my gut (knowing full well this is intuitive knowing)

Alas, I have no choice as it is her 'stuff' not mine and to control the controllable 'me'. To find the edge in the situation (opportunity) to turn it around I'm grateful for my awareness, of different levels (rungs on the ladder to awareness)the feelings and choice of proactive a lesson of who I could have been/reactive (in a loving way) choice of moving forward. :thumbs:

shapeshifter 23rd September 2013 10:24 am

Sarah,
I tripped over the word Quincunx on my way to Neptune and the martyr in me immediately wanted to solicit some sympathy.

Of course I knew better after reading your message so I picked myself up, brushed myself off and quickly moved on ;D

barberr 23rd September 2013 10:55 am

BOY OH BOY u r soooooooo right... all these sad people who need help ..n getting pd.....almost just almost got played...so thanks for this....

keryndawer 23rd September 2013 10:59 am

Thank you Sarah for this timely message.

My relationship with my mother has always been complex because of her martydom role and my trying to help/protect her from her (martyrdom) decisions. Talk about craziness! I too have become the martyr by continually "stepping in" to "save" her from the problems created by her martyrdom behavior. Thank you for your gentle reminder that the only way I can save her (and myself!) is to STOP rescuing and take care of myself. I've been getting better at this but its something I must continually be conscious of (especially since I've had such a strong role model of martyrdom my whole life!). Thank you again Sarah.

With Love and Gratitude xoxo

Tiff 23rd September 2013 11:13 am

On point...you're amazing. Thank you, Sarah :thumbs:

kay 23rd September 2013 3:25 pm

OH SO TRUE! That's exactly what's going on. How did you get so tuned in, Sarah dear? Brilliant!

Sarah Varcas 27th September 2013 10:59 am
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My relationship with my mother has always been complex because of her martydom role and my trying to help/protect her from her (martyrdom) decisions. Talk about craziness! I too have become the martyr by continually "stepping in" to "save" her from the problems created by her martyrdom behavior. Thank you for your gentle reminder that the only way I can save her (and myself!) is to STOP rescuing and take care of myself. I've been getting better at this but its something I must continually be conscious of (especially since I've had such a strong role model of martyrdom my whole life!)

It takes constant realignment of ourselves, our focus and behaviour to deal with these kind of dynamics Keryn. Sounds like you're definitely getting to grips with it though! The labyrinth of family dynamics can be particularly complex...here's wishing you well on your path.. :smitten:

Sarah Varcas 27th September 2013 11:03 am
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Sometimes, it's difficult for me to not ensnare myself in 'judgement/label' mode when I see the role of martyr being played out

Me too Bettina! It's one of those things that really gets my goat and then suddenly I'll catch MYSELF doing it and it's like.... Oh no!!! What am I doing??!! :D I continue to live and try to learn, and as ever, the planets set me straight when I've lost my way :)

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Sarah Varcas is an Intuitive Astrologer, committed to decoding the wisdom messages of the cosmos for the enrichment of peoples’ lives.

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