posted 2 May, 2012 (Saturday, 28 April, 2012) - Ann Albers
Last week we discussed relationships. This week we continue on our topic, for indeed every relationship upon your planet earth, if you would allow for it, is orchestrated in love. You are guided naturally towards those who will help you learn to love yourselves more.
From the moment we are born, the most important aspect of life becomes relationship. Relationship is central for survival and for a sense of belonging and well-being. To understand relationship is to understand that this is what makes us human.
As a psychiatrist, I realize that comparing is a natural tendency we all have. It can be absolutely neutral, as when you merely evaluate similarities and differences. Such comparison is essential for astute reasoning. It’s also productive if you’re inspired to emulate another’s impressive traits.
When people open their hearts to unselfish, unconditional love, a whole new world of possibilities opens. Rather than spending effort avoiding the selfishness of others, they take time to make sure that the way they choose to serve society is done in the best way possible. When people can trust others to treat each other with love and respect rather than as competitors, then everyone gains.
Everyone has a significant other--whether they are in an intimate, romantic relationship or not. Of course, the term "significant other" does not refer only to a person with whom you sleep. It refers to any being with whom you share the largest portion of your life. That could be a sister or brother, a parent, a child, a close friend.
posted 23 April, 2012 (Saturday, 21 April, 2012) - Ann Albers
Today we wish to speak to you on the topic of relationships. All relationships whether the ones with your life, your home, your spouse, your children, or your pet, are teaching you about the relationship you have with yourself. The relationships with others show you very clearly what parts of yourself you are willing to bring to the surface in your life and what parts of yourself you are willing to let go.
You are always receiving Divine Love whether you “tune in” or not. Imagine how much greater the love can be when you consciously pay attention to the flow of Divinity within you. This attunement process is not difficult but it takes reminders and awareness to take the steps required, when in the midst of your busy life.
Reminding: What I am guided to write in the Ascension Notes is about stepping more fully into the New. Some words may resonate; others may not. Part of my Path is to gently nudge you forward and it’s ok if you don’t agree or understand, because we’re all on different timelines and if something doesn’t fit with your current thinking, the seeds are planted. All your intellect knows is based on the past.
You are on a journey to return to your essence, and the essence of a human being is love. You’re here to fall in love with yourselves and the universe is moving into a place where you can fall in love with yourselves again, where the love can flow, an endless flow of love where men and women can love each other again, where men can love men, and women can love women.
As you approach your linear year of 2012, many of the changes you have experienced in the previous years will be consolidated – in your mind and therefore into matter on a physical level. The previous three years have created much of your transformation. Prior to that was a time of preparation and of awakening to your Soul Light.
Are you longing for relationships that do your heart good and generate stronger connections? In my book, Positive Energy I discuss how to radically improve your health and relationships by bringing positive people and situations into your life. Knowing about energy can transform your ability to build positive relationships, prevent loneliness and ward off fatigue. By making the energetic shifts described here, you can draw good things to you.
So out of the blue a guy I had dated six months ago calls me yesterday to tell me how sorry he was for treating me poorly while we were seeing each other. Seems like a nice gesture, right? He goes on to say that now that he’s dating someone else and treats her so much better which made him realize how he could have done much better by me. He wasn’t sure why he behaved so badly toward me since he had really liked me and thought I was such a nice and wonderful person. It felt like a punch in the gut. Why didn’t he feel obliged at the time to treat me good if he had liked me so much?!
As a psychiatrist, I’ve seen how intense sexual attraction is notorious for obliterating common sense and intuition in the most sensible people. Why? Lust is an altered state of consciousness programmed by the primal urge to procreate. Studies suggest that the brain in this phase is much like a brain on drugs.
Last night, while having a small dinner party, I listened in on a conversation between my dear friends, Nancy and Max, as they discussed the joys of living alone. Max has lived by herself for over twenty years and when Nancy asked how it felt to be alone for so long, Max replied, “I’m not alone, I’m in a relationship with myself.”