As a psychiatrist, I've seen how intense sexual attraction is notorious for obliterating common sense and intuition in the most sensible people. Why? Lust is an altered state of consciousness programmed by the primal urge to procreate. The brain in this phase may be much like a brain on drugs. MRI scans illustrate that the area that "lights up" (becomes active) when an addict gets a fix of cocaine is the same area that "lights up" when a person is experiencing the intense lust of physical attraction.
When we think of side effects the first thing that springs to mind are the side effects of drugs. But who’d have thought that kindness could have side effects too? Well, it does! And positive ones at that.
Every day there are plenty of good reasons to be frustrated: another long line, telemarketers, a goal that isn't materializing "fast enough," people who don't do what they're supposed to, rejection, disappointment. How does one deal with it all? You can drive yourself crazy, behave irritably, feel victimized or try to force an outcome -- all self-defeating reactions that alienate others and bring out the worst in others. Alternatively, you can learn to transform your frustration with patience.
I come today to speak to you of your role as Ambassadors of Light to the New Earth. More and more of you are aware and awake to the innate purpose of your participation on the Earth at this time. In this state of knowing you are reasonably capable of many things which you may not yet considered. You are capable of establishing the intricacies which are necessary to fulfill your role. This is done by cultivating the Key Relationships in Your Experience.
posted 12 May, 2011 (Sunday, 3 April, 2011) - Owen Waters
Romance makes you come alive. It brings joy to the soul, happiness to the heart, and places rose-colored glasses firmly in front of your eyes. With the arrival of romance, you feel that you are walking on air and that your whole world is filled with happiness. Because everything feels so wonderful, even simple pleasures can feel like ecstatic delights.
We’ve entered a new energy where everything may look the same, but, in actuality nothing is as it appears. If we even so much as attempt to do things in the old way and expect the same old results we are mistaken, therefore, our relationships are shifting. Those that were not based on a high integrity of consciousness, mutual love, respect, and kindness either fell or are in the process of falling by the wayside or else both parties in the relationship must take a vibrational leap to the next level in order for it to endure.
Beloved ones, as you allow your hearts to fully flower in my presence, in the sunlight of My Love, you will find yourselves remembering what it means to be the heart of God and what it means to truly give – to be present and fully alive, vibrant and free, and exquisitely sensitive to every nuance of the expression of beauty and the pure awareness of the limitless heart in giving.
The US National Longitudinal Mortality Study (NLMS) involving 281,460 men and women over 45 years of age it found that marriage was associated with a much lower risk of mortality than being single. Similarly, the British Regional Heart Study of 1995, that involved 7,735 men aged 40-59, found that being single was associated with a higher risk of mortality. However, it is not marriage itself that offers the health benefits. It is the quality of relationship within the marriage that counts. A happy marriage translates to a happy heart.
Scientists from Stanford University, publishing in the journal, ‘Emotion’ , showed that meditation that focused on loving kindness increased people’s feelings of social connectedness. The Tibetan Buddhist ‘Loving-Kindness’ meditation invites practitioners to cultivate a sense of loving kindness, wellness, peace, happiness, and compassion for ourselves, our loved ones, neutral people, and even aggressors in our lives.
As I have shared many times before, the Full and New Moons, along with Equinoxes and Solstices, are auspicious times of upgrading our bodies with rays of Infinite light. On this particular Full Moon (7:44p.m. MST), our New relationships are especially activated with Sacred Agape Love. This is enhanced by powerful solar activity...you see the higher purpose and synchronicity of this? Solar=male; lunar: female. And so on this day, there is great balance within our higher, more evolved spiritual male and female energies.
Earlier this week, a Facebook pal, Karen, shared a great idea with me on my Facebook Page. She wrote, “I’ll be spending the day on Monday giving Valentine’s Day cards to strangers with hand-written messages and affirmations (some I borrowed from you!), telling them they matter and are loved.” Karen invited me to join her (I’m in!) and this week I’m passing her invitation on to you.
Romance makes you come alive, doesn’t it? It brings joy to the soul, happiness to the heart, and rose-colored glasses to the vision! With the arrival of romance, you feel that you are walking on air and that your world is filled with happiness. Because everything feels so wonderful, even simple pleasures become ecstatic delights.
People we love can sometimes drain us the most. Our mates may not be trying to do this, but life's demands add up. For instance, at the end of a long day, he or she might come home in a negative mood or is needy and overbearing. Sometimes the draining behavior may go beyond this, when they become argumentative or hurtful. As a psychiatrist, I help my patients address these behaviors with their mates in a tactful, loving way to find positive solutions. Learning this skill is a wonderful Valentine's Day resolution to make in February, the month of love, and throughout the year.
When we're looking for love (or under its intoxicating influence), we often miss seeing extraordinary signs and messages that pop up in our daily life to give us clues as to whether we're on the right track.