It is not for you to fight against life. It is for you to work with life. Life is not out to get you. Life is out to soar with you. Even with little matters, go along with life. When you feel sleepy, sleep.
I’m heading back to Miraval in a little over a week to teach my last retreat with Louise Hay. As I was going through my files preparing for our time together, I found notes from our first retreat. They represent the simple wisdom Louise has lived by – wisdom I’ve been applying to my own life with great success. I hope you’ll use them, too!
It’s been quite a week here in the states. My heart goes out to all those affected by the tragedy in Newtown, CT. Whether you’ve lost a family member or friend, live in the community where the crime occurred, or feel deeply saddened for those who are suffering, it’s important to take extra good care of yourself during this time.
How funny that after last week’s LightBlast lecture ;o) on Fortitude we now are told to rest?! Actually, it is a beautiful continuation of Universal Law that supports Life. Rest is essential. Not only to our physical bodies, but to Creation. It is another way of saying equilibrium or balance. When we are at Rest, the direct flow has an opportunity to open and receive new information.
The energy of July spoke of the increase in intense feelings and experiences, compared to the past. Intense highs and lows were commonplace, and the feeling of heaviness, isolation and internal/external conflict were a theme at the lower end of the scale, with the highs being a greater feeling of freedom from old beliefs, rules, and ideas of how life needs to be, and also a rise in freedom of speech. Being unafraid to say what you want, or give voice to what has been suppressed.
While shopping for clothes on a quiet afternoon, I encountered a frustrated worker who decided to take her irritation out on me. As I left a dressing room with clothes on my arm, the young woman yelled - actually yelled - at me for not putting them on a nearby return rack.
The honoring of our interior lives is a holy commitment. It starts by first remembering that you have one – a complex, rich world inside your own heart and mind that needs daily tending and nurturing. Then, as you open to this inner life, it requires a fierce choice to make this honoring a priority in your daily life.
It all started with the dishwasher. After a good night's sleep, I walked into the kitchen one morning to make a cup of tea and found my husband loading dirty dishes into the top rack. I stood quietly by, taking special note of how he "tossed" them in without much concern for how they were placed. Once he was done and safely in his office, I, knowing full well that the dishwasher needed to be loaded correctly, walked over, opened the front of the machine, and proceeded to rearrange what he had done. Just then, Michael walked back into the room.
When I was a little girl my dad used to call me Sarah Heartburn - a funny twist on the French movie actress Sarah Bernhardt - because I had a tendency to be a bit dramatic when things didn't go my way. The truth was that I was a highly sensitive child. I cried easily, felt deeply hurt when kids called me names or made fun of me, and was prone to bouts of loneliness and a kind of sadness that I didn't understand. It wasn't until I read "The Highly Sensitive Person," by Elaine Aron, as an adult, that I understood what was going on.
I hate being disappointed. There's nothing worse than getting your hopes up only to have them squelched when something doesn't turn out the way you plan. And that's precisely why I hate to disappoint others. Over the years I've watched myself go on autopilot when someone asks for a favor, saying "yes" when I know in my gut that I'd rather not do it. Or I've suffered, spending too much time trying to come up with a graceful way to let someone down so they wouldn't feel hurt or angry at my "no."
As you set about making the rest of your life the best of your life, get in the habit of looking for signs of success rather than signs of failure (something we’ve all learned to do far too well). Looking for what isn’t working is soooooooo 2011. Instead, take a few moments, every day, to think about (and write down) answers to the following questions: